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June 2011 Moms
kenyakeetah
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Vent: DH kinda long
kenyakeetah
member
sorry just had to vent this out someplace, and I will say sorry now for poor grammer and spelling.
DH and I ended up having an argument this morning over a shirt. Yesturday I had done the Laundry and the stuff that was dry I had put into the laundry basket and moved to the bedroom I then went to pick up DH from skytrain came home made dinner and then needed a shower. I said I already swept the two bedrooms but the rest of the house needs doing (the sweeping is fine I just cant get to the floor to pick up the dust bunnies) I also mentioned the laundry that is ready to be hung in the bedroom. I shower we watch tv go to bed and forget about it all. This morning he goes to get a shirt he wants to wear and its crinkled hes like it needs ironing now you should of hung it up. my argument was I told him to put it all away yesterday
which then turned into he works all day while I am home and all I do is nap, I said I grow a baby all day and I can only do so much, I also mentioned that I have been asking him to sweep all week and to clean the bathtub/shower for the last 3 weeks.
I wish I could do everything while I am home and I do feel bad for making him do something but I cook all the food and will do laundry and dishes, walk the dog etc and the things i cant do, clean the oven, bathtub, shower and sweep the floor happens to make me lazy
sigh think the last 2 months are going to be a bit rough he did however say sorry for being grumpy this morning but I think we both have different views on what is expected of eachother at this point in time.
anyone else bumping heads with their s/o over to do lists
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Re: Vent: DH kinda long
I've had a few similar fights with my DH. And right now I'm not only growing a baby but taking care of a toddler! I'm so exhausted by the end of the day. To be fair my DH has been working full time and taking evening classes towards his Masters so I haven't put too much pressure on him...especially the last couple of weeks because he has been getting ready for finals.
When DS was an infant he'd start in on me not getting dishes done because the baby was fussy that day and I spent all my time making him happy.
My house has been such a mess lately. I try to get a little something done everyday...but it doesnt always work!
Now that my DH is done with the school stuff I have a feeling we will be butting heads a lot more often about what needs done and who is expected to do it!
Edit- And it doesnt help that everytime I see my MIL she says what a slob I am (like her house is any better!) I like when she told my family I wasn't pulling my fair share in moving the begining of the year....like hello I'm pregnant and limited to what I CAN do!
oh no! I am so sorry
Some men don't seem to realize how tiring it can be. My DH sometimes gives me heck cause I am home during the day. I do try to get stuff done, but it is starting to get harder for me for sure.
He will sa things like "I know....you're building a baby!" but he also still helps me even if he teases.
I would say maybe try talking to him. Explain that it is frustrating for you as well and that you wish you were able to do more. But right now, you really need his help.
glad I am not the only one I thought perhaps I was just being extra lazy, but sucks some of our dh's just dont understand that baby tired is different than work tired.
It too frustrates me that I can't get done in a day what I want to accomplish and Dh will come home and say he is also tired but doesn't quite understand that its a different type of tired.
He did come home today though and say sorry for being a grumpy bum this morning and that he would try to remember I can't do as much now. Said it was simply he was tired too and wasn't expecting the extra home duties considering I am no longer working.
I thought it was sweet so perhaps he will slowly be getting the hint.
I work a full time job teaching 10 year olds every day. My husband is also a teacher but has taken on a coaching job that requires a few hours after work. Apparently, he is entirely too overwhelmed to do any regular housework and is constanlty ignoring it. I ask him to pick up "his" bathroom (which is the one that guests use) and he acts all put out. I have been doing all the grocery shopping since we became pregnant because of his coaching and as of late, it's overwhelming..I have to pee halfway thru, I struggle carrying all the items inside and have minimal desire to put them away. I'm also cooking all the meals. I only ask that he does the dishes after and pick up the kitchen....
His idea of "cleaning" is to put all the dirty pans in the sink to "soak", load the dishwasher till it's crammed full (not running it nor ever putting them away).
I ask, request, politely state what it is I could use some help with but it turns into a pouting match.
8 weeks to go...and then he'll have a lot MORE to worry about.