And I'm the bad guy in this story!?!??!

karma79 · April 2011

A friend/co-worker of mine made a comment yesterday that so flip about my m/c that it really bothered me to the point of distraction.

I was in her wedding last year and since then all the other bridesmaids have broken up with SO and one had a divorce. So yesterday in front of a new employee who didn't know about my m/c she says "my bridal party is cursed" points at me and then her stomach and says "with your situation, and ya know I was talking with W yesterday and we decided it must have been a boy since all the girls in my bridal party lost significant males in their lives" My jaw dropped. I looked at the other girl and said "I had a miscarriage last summer" and then I high tailed it out of the office.

I seethed over it all night last night and this morning. Rather than a confrontation at work and the risk of crying and being upset I sent her a very nice email on FB that I was hurt, I know she didn't mean to, blah blah, and that a m/c scars you forever and that you don't know til it happens to you and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. And to please not do that again. It hurt. I even apologized that I had to email her about it b/c I didn't want to talk about it.

Her response and I quote this "K".

W.T.F

And I see her in the hall later, she can't make eye contact and is all pissy. Then she calls the phone I'm covering for someone who is at lunch, I nicely tell her that she's at lunch, she says "oh" and flat out hangs up on me.

I think this friendship is over now.

Vent over. Thanks for listening.

(She does not know I am pg now)

karma79 · April 2011

Here's the kicker, the other employee who was caught up in this, well I pulled her aside, apologized and told her I had sent an email about this. She says she thought it was inappropriate too, it wasn't her story to tell and she had an m/c in January so she totally understands!

The x-friend gets the j*ck*ss award of the day.

Karen1998 · April 2011

Gosh, I don't know what to say other than I'm sorry and that's just awful. Big (((hugs))).

Junebug060609 · April 2011

Your former friend is an a$$.

The new lady at work though, so far I like her.

smallfry5909 · April 2011

My jaw literally dropped reading this story. What a self-absorbed twat waffle, with a side of c*nt. For real.

Do me a favor and drop her from your life immediately. Argggg, that makes my blood boil..

lotus88 · April 2011

What a biatch! Completely insensitive and immature.

VikingQueen · April 2011

smallfry5909:

My jaw literally dropped reading this story. What a self-absorbed twat waffle, with a side of c*nt. For real.

Do me a favor and drop her from your life immediately. Argggg, that makes my blood boil..

::lurking::

I completely agree with this

Fallon621 · April 2011

Junebug060609:
Your former friend is an a$$.

The new lady at work though, so far I like her.

Yes, this!!

quezzo · April 2011

Wow, way to make everyone else's pain about her. IMO, good riddance to bad rubbish. She sounds like a crappy friend to me and someone I wouldn't really care to let go of.

EDIT - I am sorry she made you feel like this though. No one deserves that.

Lissa832 · April 2011

Don't spend another second worrying about her. She's sounds like a b*tch, and you don't need friends like that.

pennynjon · April 2011

No, you definitely aren't the bad guy! I can't believe how insensitive someone who is supposed to be your friend can be. I am so sorry. ((hugs))

Lissa832 · April 2011

I wanted to add that I'm seething for you. I don't know you, but I'm pissed off that there are people like that who exist.

JoAnna914 · April 2011

I've read about a lot of comments made by supposed "friends" of ladies here and on TTCAL lately, and the level of insensitivity astounds me. But this one takes the cake. Life is too short to deal with people like this. I understand that sometimes it's difficult to know what to say when someone you know is suffering in a way you've never experienced, but the general rule in that case is to say nothing at all and give a gentle hug. Your "friend" should at least have apologized - clearly, she's lacking in character.

martinimomma · April 2011

I am so glad we now know who exactly the universe revolves around...yeesh.

As smallfry said, total twatwaffle with a side of c*ntsauce.

luckymrs. · April 2011

Junebug060609:
Your former friend is an a$$.

The new lady at work though, so far I like her.

This exactly.

damabo80 · April 2011

Wow. Lovely that she compares a breakup with a BF to losing your baby. She sounds like a peach.

itsmegin · April 2011

smallfry5909:

My jaw literally dropped reading this story. What a self-absorbed twat waffle, with a side of c*nt. For real.

Do me a favor and drop her from your life immediately. Argggg, that makes my blood boil..

Agree with all of this.

karma79 · April 2011

You ladies are awesome! It's so dumb that it's laughable. I'm so done with her.

ColleenS629 · April 2011

You are definitely not the bad guy.

TeacherVicky · April 2011

Ouch. How horrible of her. I hope she feels like a total a$s.

Nicks10 · April 2011

Wow, my jaw would have hit the ground if she said that to me. That is so inappropriate and heartless and mean. You are definitely not the bad guy in that situation, in fact good for you for saying something about it and not just seething. Sorry you're losing a friend, but it sounds like her true colors are showing through and maybe you're better off.

shupertj09 · April 2011

quezzo:

Wow, way to make everyone else's pain about her. IMO, good riddance to bad rubbish. She sounds like a crappy friend to me and someone I wouldn't really care to let go of.

EDIT - I am sorry she made you feel like this though. No one deserves that.

THIS!

PrincessDi80 · April 2011

Wow that is so mean! I am sorry, people are so rude sometimes

luckylady55 · April 2011

OMG, is she really that clueless or just a truly horrible person. I am so sorry you had to deal with someone who is so insensitive. Keep positive, and don't give her another thought. You were not wrong and if she thinks you were she needs a lesson on what is and is not acceptable behavior.

Ok rant over now!! Big Smile Many hugs to you!!

HadleyS · April 2011

karma79:

A friend/co-worker of mine made a comment yesterday that so flip about my m/c that it really bothered me to the point of distraction.

I was in her wedding last year and since then all the other bridesmaids have broken up with SO and one had a divorce. So yesterday in front of a new employee who didn't know about my m/c she says "my bridal party is cursed" points at me and then her stomach and says "with your situation, and ya know I was talking with W yesterday and we decided it must have been a boy since all the girls in my bridal party lost significant males in their lives" My jaw dropped. I looked at the other girl and said "I had a miscarriage last summer" and then I high tailed it out of the office.

I seethed over it all night last night and this morning. Rather than a confrontation at work and the risk of crying and being upset I sent her a very nice email on FB that I was hurt, I know she didn't mean to, blah blah, and that a m/c scars you forever and that you don't know til it happens to you and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. And to please not do that again. It hurt. I even apologized that I had to email her about it b/c I didn't want to talk about it.

Her response and I quote this "K".

W.T.F

And I see her in the hall later, she can't make eye contact and is all pissy. Then she calls the phone I'm covering for someone who is at lunch, I nicely tell her that she's at lunch, she says "oh" and flat out hangs up on me.

I think this friendship is over now.

Vent over. Thanks for listening.

(She does not know I am pg now)

UM......what!? If people could go to hell for just one conversation, she'd be burning up to pieces right now! There is NO way that I would NOT confront this evil woman and some point today and give her a piece of my mind. Of course, the friendship is over. I am practially speechless right now. I am so very sorry that you fell victim to such a horrible situation.

HappyLaLa0914 · April 2011

Wow - what a b*tch. Sorry that happened, but it sounds like the new lady might be nice.

tnleigh · April 2011

She sounds like a total douche. So sorry you had to go through that.

This calls for a throat punch.

Oatoa · April 2011

***lurking from TTCAL***

Where is she? I will kick her @ss! Your story made my stomach turn and I will so come and find her and do some damage! I am so sorry that you had to be subjected to such insensitivity esp from someone you consider a friend. Hugs to you.

***Going back to TTCAL to calm down***

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