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Anyone else feel like they can't do it all lately?
Y'all know I work a random nights schedule. Sometimes I play SAHM for a few days, then I'll work and the girls are with Kiarox (extra emphasis on the ROCKS! part !!!) Or DH is with them on the weekends.
I keep feeling like I should be doing more. Like my post below about toys. I feel like I'm a failure at providing my kids with good toys. I try really hard to limit TV but they still probably watch more than they should 
. I'd love to put Abby in dance but I'm not sure how consistantly she could go with my schedule and DH isn't great about getting out with both of them. Dinner, work, bedtime, it's all pretty crammed as it is.
I'd love to take one or the other or both to swim lessions but how?!
***sigh*** I'm also still recovering from sinus surgery and I'm on more drugs than most of the patients I see at work!! Not painful, just still exhausting somehow.
I know they're happy and they get a lot of quality play, attention and stimulation. I just wish I could do more. KWIM?
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Re: Anyone else feel like they can't do it all lately?
I feel the same. Although, my work schedule isn't the as hectic as yours, I feel like I *should* be doing more with L on the weekends. But, he seems happy enough, so I guess I shouldn't be beating myself up about it.
and neither should you. I don't know how I would survive being a nurse and having a schedule like yours. You amaze me sometimes.
All. The. Time.
I constantly feel like I'm slipping somewhere- as a mom, as a wife, with housework, as a home chef, with work-work, you name it. I just can't seem to keep more than 2 balls in the air, maybe 3 but only for a week at a time.
I have no idea how some people do it. I have no idea how YOU do it. I know you're not asking for people to KYA, but I cannot figure out for the life of me how you manage everything that you do. None of this is news to you though, because I'm pretty sure we've discussed my glaring inadequacies as a person already.
RE: the toys- as you know, I took all of H's toys away last week. She hasn't noticed yet. I'm sure A and E are just fine with what they've got.
DD and I sometimes go a few days without leaving the house other than to get the mail. Sometimes she stays in her PJs until late afternoon. I'm also one of those people who has the TV on a whole lot. My nine-month-old has a favorite TV show.
But DD seems pretty happy, so I guess she's okay.I have a full time job and a business on the side which used to be just a few extra hours a week and now has turned into an almost full time job. Oh yeah and I have a BABY. DH has a full time job and his own business on the side as well. We make it work, but are tired - ALL. THE. TIME.
I'm at the point where I know that something has to give, and I'm looking forward to hopefully being self employed soon, but in the meantime it's a constant struggle to keep my head above water and just stay awake. I'm at a computer all day, come home and feed DD and play for a bit, put her down, make dinner then sit right back down at the computer. My house is filthy and life is full of STRESS yet at the end of the day? I'm HAPPY and that's what counts.
I just try to remind myself that I have so much going for me, for us. Sure, I'm over extended, but I have so much more than most people and am grateful for that. All that said, there's no way that I'll be able to keep going like this for much longer...
::blushes:: Your girls are adorable.
I think you are an awesome mom!
As for your question, oh my gosh, yes. DH tells me regularly that I'm a great mom and wife and a terrible house wife. He's totally right. Cleaning the house is sooooo not my priority. I figure I'm doing good if Kate has clean diapers.
I sometimes worry because we don't have Kate in a class of some sort and as much as I would love to be able to, there is no way in the world that we're going to be able to send her to preschool unless I go back to work full time. That's not looking too likely since it seems like half of the teachers in the state of Texas just got laid off. Not that I want to go back to work anyway, but I sometimes worry that I'm doing her a disservice by not putting her in Montessori at age 3.
By other big worry is that we might not be able to give her a sibling. We can't start treatments until I go back to work, and while I know that there are plenty of people with surprise second kids after having to do treatments, I think we're not going to be that lucky.
I feel like I am drowning. I feel like I cannot catch up on sleep. I feel like a terrible mother, wife, daughter, sister, and employee most days.
My house is a wreck, my boss chewed me out last month, I'm thisclose to throwing in a towel and booking a vacation FOR MYSELF ALONE and just getting away from everything and everyone. I'd really miss DD though, I can't bring myself to do it.
My life is unsustainable right now. I'm keeping my head afloat but its getting tough.
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I feel the same way. I have a FT job, two part time jobs and trying to help my hubby out on some stuff that will eventually be good for the family. I just want to spend time with my babies without worrying about where the money to live on will come from and the urge to get my work done so that our financial future is secure.
My FT job has a huge project that is coming to a head in about 60 days and it is a lot of pressure. I also have 8 other project to manage. I feel too like I am tredding water but the water keeps rising. Too much pressure and not enough time for what is most important.
Married and it feels so good!
yep. i'm there. staying home full time, working part-time running a business, and taking care of 3 kids is a lot for me to handle. i'm constantly having to make decisions like 'do i sleep? or should i eat? or maybe get work done? or what about cleaning the house?' priorities, right? hah.
honestly i've felt like i was drowning since annie was born until this past week. now that she is sleeping better i do feel my head coming above water, but i have also learned to lower my expectations.
with 3 we just leave the house less and find more to do around here. its less stressful to just be at home and be us that feel the need to be out and about meeting up with people. i get plenty of interaction with adults and others through church and work, so that has helped a lot. i also try to remind myself that this stage where the kids need me for every. single. thing. will not last forever.
hang in there- you are not alone.
Taytee, you are a wonderful mom. Your kids are amazing and so smart. They sleep like rockstars after a hard night of partying and for that you can be so proud! I envy your parenting skills and patience. Your house is cleaner than mine and I don't have a kid yet. I think you are doing fine. And I'm here to help whenever you need it (except for September and October
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I think all moms feel like this. There are so many responsibilities we have that there's simply no way any of us can keep up with them all. If you spend time with your husband in the evening, you give up time for yourself. Or for cleaning. Or laundry. Or exercise. Or whatever. Every decision to do something comes with the loss of an opportunity to do something else with that time.
Very well said. And yes, I pretty much feel like this every single day.
I totally agree. I feel like I am failing all the time - at my job, at being a mom, at feeding myself and my family nutritious foods, at making my husband happy, etc. And I don't have nearly as much on my shoulders as you do, Taytee! To be honest, as hard as it is, I try to feel at peace with it. That there's no way I can do everything, just like rssnlvr says. So I try to be happy with what I can do, and ruthlessly prioritize so I'm not wasting my time on things that I don't think are important.
Amy
I'm definitely not on top of everything but I don't need to be. The house is clean enough most days, the kids are happy and DH and I are good. Some days are more productive than others but the point of being a SAHM is that Layna and I can spend the day doing whatever we want. I'm not going to spend my life stressing over the small stuff. Its not worth it.
I bought myself a daily planner at the beginning of the year and I adore it. I keep it in my purse and it breaks down by weeks. There are tear-out sheets in the back and every week I start a new one. One side is the Shopping List, I write down stuff as we run out of it. The other side is To Do - I note appts I need to make, places I need to go or things I need to do. Every day, I jot down what I did that day. Not every little thing but what stands out to me. Cleaning, phone conversations, play dates, going to the park. I love being able to look back and seeing what I did all month.
So yeah. My little motivational of the day is to stop trying to be on top of everything. What's the point? There's always going to be more dishes to do, more laundry to fold, more errands to run. We have nothing but time and only you can choose how you spend your life.
Yep. Pretty much sums it all up for me too.
I don't know what it is about this time of year that the transition always seems so tough going from indoors w/ short days to outdoor, long days.
I have been having a helluva time lately as well. I am finishing up my first semester back in school w/ 9-hours, while still working full time, where it's crazy-busy right now. As I've vaguely mentioned previously, DSS has gotten himself into a mess that we've lost a lot of sleep over. Also, DH is leaving town for 10 days on Monday, so he wants ALL of my attention now, when I still have two research papers to complete by Monday. Ahhh!
ETA: We have DSS until Sunday when DH leaves. Since he's grounded from all electronics at our house he's very "entertain me" right now. I know that's nothing like having a baby, but the time it is taking to forgive him vs: having him right there all-the-time is an emotional challenge.
Sorry, didn't mean to vent all here, just want to let you know- you aren't alone. But this, too, shall pass.