Co-Sleeping Deaths- freaks me out!

paulrules · April 2011

This was on our local news. I have been known to bring LO into bed from his Arm's Reach co-sleeper as a last resort when crying, fussing, loudly grunting, etc. (yes, he has a crib in the nursery but hates it) If you do the same, what do you guys do to prevent in-bed co-sleeping dangers?

https://www.kvue.com/news/Preventable-child-deaths-up-in-Travis-County-120809719.html

1Mrs.Jones · April 2011

I read a study that said that the risk of SIDS is HIGHER if an infant bedshares with both parents and/or sibling(s). However, it is LOWER if the infant bedshares with the mom only ... so I let LO in bed w/me after DH leaves for work at 4:00 if she is having trouble going back down after feeding. I wish I remember the study, I read it for a paper in one of my classes (going to school for MA in Marriage & Family Counseling). The study said that LOs will match their breathing to their mama's and that the moms were much lighter sleepers when sleeping with LOs than the dads or siblings. I can easily see how that's true.

Also, I make sure there are no pillows or covers around LO- it is a little uncomfortable to sleep w/o a pillow, but oh well.

cedgar778 · April 2011

The only way to prevent in bed co-sleeping dangers is to NOT DO IT! I guess I can see the potential credibility of PP's article example, but in my opinion, it's just not worth the risk. I wouldn't do it. I personally wouldn't be able to live with myself if something happened to my son if he was in my bed while we were sleeping.

StellarStina26 · April 2011

DD is always on my side and I am between baby and my boyfriend. The baby is less likely to die from SIDS because the baby maps the mothers breathing. But, you need to make sure it is safe. And we will stop bedsharing when the next baby is born.

I use pillows... but my arm is over baby's head the whole night. I am a stationary sleeper and hyper sensitive. I slept with 4 golden retriever puppies a couple times and they were all fine - they moved much more than my DD. Once DD starts moving more I am not sure what we plan on doing. Either buying bumpers that go under the sheets or what.

That is a lot of deaths in a year for a county. Gheez... what are they doing there?

Red_Dahlia · April 2011

Our pedi told us just a few weeks ago that the number one cause of preventable infant death in Texas was cosleeping. He strongly discouraged it. For me - its just not worth it. If DD is awake, I'm awake with her. If she's asleep - she's in her bed or PNP.

jess1984 · April 2011

DD bedshares as well. At first i was like pp and she slept next to me, now she sleeps propped in a boppy b/c of silent reflux. I'm a ver light sleeper and dh is sleeping on the couch. Until dd's refkluxs gets better she will continue to be there since i cant hear her from her room.

Bed sharing can be done safely and a lot of families do it. All my friends do/ have with their children.

nattn · April 2011

I only do it in the morning when DH leaves for work. That's when she's the crankiest and I'm not so tired so I wake up easier. I always make sure there's no pillows or blankets around her and I somewhat awkwardly sleep with an arm under her to prevent me from rolling on top of her.

1Mrs.Jones · April 2011

Ohh, also, NEVER do it if you have had an alcohol or are overly tired. (I know most of us are probably "overly tired" wayy too often). But if you get too sleep deprived, you could go into the deep sleep that most moms don't go into when sleeping with their LO).

New Years Eve is the night that the most SIDS deaths occur yearly. Likely because the tipsy, tired parents go into a deeper sleep and don't take the needed precautions for their LO. Here is the link from WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/parenting/news/20101217/increase-sids-new-years-day.

If you do it, you have to work hard to make sure all the conditions are safe- just like you have to work hard to make the conditions safe in the nursery.

EmandChris08 · April 2011

Dina Lynn (Jesse's Girl):
Ohh, also, NEVER do it if you have had an alcohol or are overly tired. (I know most of us are probably "overly tired" wayy too often). But if you get too sleep deprived, you could go into the deep sleep that most moms don't go into when sleeping with their LO).

New Years Eve is the night that the most SIDS deaths occur yearly. Likely because the tipsy, tired parents go into a deeper sleep and don't take the needed precautions for their LO. Here is the link from WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/parenting/news/20101217/increase-sids-new-years-day.

If you do it, you have to work hard to make sure all the conditions are safe- just like you have to work hard to make the conditions safe in the nursery.

This. I sometimes have DS sleep in bed with me, but only if DH has already left for work or is sleeping on the couch. I lie on my side next to him and normally I am hyper-aware of the fact that he's there, and never go into a deep sleep.

HOWEVER, on Monday night I was up all night with the stomach bug, so last night I must have been overly tired because of the lack of sleep. DS was in bed with me and I woke up in the middle of the night facing away from him. I must have rolled over, but I don't remember doing it. He was fine, but it scared the hell out of me that I moved without realizing it. I am definitely going to be more careful!

StellarStina26 · April 2011

Since we started bedsharing, I get the best sleep! I am rarely over tired, unlike before when I kept trying to put her down in her PnP. My mom also bought us a snugglenest because she is worried about the bedsharing. But, all my friends did it. I am still curious why it is such a huge thing in Texas... maybe I will go visit google.

paulrules · April 2011

I agree that it is a large number but I wonder what it is in other places? Either way, I do make sure there are not any pillows or blankets around us, and usually wait until DH has left the bed. I am sure that I will be much more sensitive to his movements after reading this article (on the rare occasion that I do bring him to bed).

Magical95 · April 2011

We have bed sharing deaths every couple of months here. Not worth it in my opinion.

lmg423 · April 2011

My lo relaxes and falls asleep so easily when she is next to me. We've got a little routine where she'll fall asleep next to me and sometimes I will drift off as well. Then my dh who is still awake doing things around the house will come in and move her to her bed.

I don't feel comfortable with her there all night but right now an hour or so seems to work for us.

nicolenjoli · April 2011

scares me too so I haven't done it- your also not supposed to let em sleep in boppy but I do when I am awake- I put a thick blanket over the boppy which keeps baby from moving much and wiggling down- plus baby is pretty big now and for him to sink down in a position where his face was stuck on the side- it has never been anywhere close to that... I can see how it is very dangerous for babies= just the boppy on it's own and no supervision. I do let baby sleep on my chest and I sometimes doze off- he sleeps like a brick that way and I don't feel like he is in danger- I make sure I am in a position that I am propped where I won't move and he usually sleeps so deeply that he doesn't move much. I worry just as much when he is in his bassinet- I wake up all hours and just make sure hes breathing- I fear he could choke or gag on his own spit up... or just stop breathing- there doesn't seem to have to be a reason for sids... so terrifying it doesn't matter where he sleeps I am worried! all we can do is be as careful as we can...

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