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Emer · April 2011

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thethomps · April 2011

I wouldn't be offended, but I would be quick to point out that my husband helps with the household duties and that they are not solely my responsibility.

ali-1411 · April 2011

Not offended at all. I can't consider household stuff a 'job', not really. Everyone has to clean regardless of their employment status.

But as a SAHM it is my responsibility to clean and do laundry. DH will help with anything I ask of him but I would never expect him to work all day and then come home and vacuum.

Sinafey · April 2011

My "job" is being a mom, not a maid. My duties include dealing with all night wakings (DD still wakes up several times/night...), socializing her, providing her with healthy meals and snacks, educating and entertaining her.

While handling all of those responsibilities I can usually make 3 healthy meals for myself and my WAH DH, do the dishes and laundry, etc.. but if I'm unable to complete all of the cleaning and errands during the time that DH is at work (which is also the time that I consider myself "working") then we both should be sharing the responsibility of the leftovers.

It's what works for us.

ETA: My DH is a slob. If I was expected to do -all- of the cleaning, cooking, and upkeep of the house single-handedly I'd be a craptastic mother with no time for DD.

mlf625 · April 2011

I do consider those things my job during my "working" hours (meaning, while DH is at his job). But once he's home, it's 50/50. Whatever I don't get done during the day, he pitches in with.

brideonjuly8 · April 2011

Sinafey:

My "job" is being a mom, not a maid. My duties include dealing with all night wakings (DD still wakes up several times/night...), socializing her, providing her with healthy meals and snacks, educating and entertaining her.

This. I end up doing both because we can't afford both and if it were staying home with my son or getting a housekeeper? Hands down, staying home. DH should help out some, but he works 11+ hour days, so he really doesn't have much time. I don't mind it, but I DO mind if he complains that something isn't clean, which he rarely does. He knows better.

kiarox2002 · April 2011

While I certainly wouldn't be offended, I freely admit that I am a crappy housewife. I view my main "job" as dealing with Kate all day. I get very little to no housework done during the day other than washing diapers, making food for Kate and I, and maybe cleaning up the kitchen. Oh, and I'll begrudgingly run errands.

ShernRich · April 2011

brideonjuly8:
Sinafey:

My "job" is being a mom, not a maid. My duties include dealing with all night wakings (DD still wakes up several times/night...), socializing her, providing her with healthy meals and snacks, educating and entertaining her.
This. I end up doing both because we can't afford both and if it were staying home with my son or getting a housekeeper? Hands down, staying home. DH should help out some, but he works 11+ hour days, so he really doesn't have much time. I don't mind it, but I DO mind if he complains that something isn't clean, which he rarely does. He knows better.

lol. This exactly. My DH works 11 hours sometimes 12.

MrsMillerTime · April 2011

Is this like: "Your JOB as a SAHM is to take care of the kids, cook, clean, blah blah blah" or "You don't clean? Why not? Dumb biitch, it's your JOB!!"

My point: I would depend on the context. Big Smile

Emer · April 2011

MrsMillerTime:
Is this like: "Your JOB as a SAHM is to take care of the kids, cook, clean, blah blah blah" or "You don't clean? Why not? Dumb biitch, it's your JOB!!"
My point: I would depend on the context.

I definitely was asking about a matter-of-fact statement rather than a forceful or judgmental one

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