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Tacky Tacky (NBR)

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A few months ago I posted about DH's friends who eloped and are having a celebration this summer. They sent evites, and a poll asking who was going to contribute what (bring food, setup, take pictures, stock the bar etc....) and a link to thier honeyfund so we can pay for thier honeymoon in addition to their ceremony. Yeah, so that was pretty rude IMO.

Now, it turns out that they have applied to be on the Newlywed Show and are having a fundraising night at a bar on Monday (where the husband hosts Karaoke twice a week as his full time job) to pay for thier trip to New York. 

So friends are not only on the hook for paying for thier wedding ceremony, honeymoon, but also a chance to be on cable tv in NY? Seriously? Grow up!

Plus, shouldn't the show pay for some of this? Or maybe they are being scammed...

Anyways, wanted to vent to someone other than my poor husband, who has heard enough of me hating on these guys. Thanks!

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  • MustanGTbaby13MustanGTbaby13 member
    Yikes. Okay, if I really push my limits I can say maybe it is okay to do a potluck. To each their own. But then asking people to contribute to the honeyfund? Um...perhaps they should be saving money if they cannot afford to have a honeymoon on their own (IMHO)
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  • justme04justme04 member

    Some people just don't have any class!

    My DH and I eloped and then my grandmother insisted we have a reception...we didn't even register because we didnt want anyone buying us gifts.  We made the choice not to make a big deal out of getting married....in our opinion it was too late to make a big deal out of it after the fact.

    I might add we still havent been on a honeymoon.  And DH's mother offered to send us.  We will go when we can afford it ourselves!  (And now that we will have 2 LO's I dont think it will be anytime soone..lol)

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  • OctoberCAPAOctoberCAPA member
    If it's a potluck, that's the gift.  How old are these people?  Do they have no sense?  I couldn't imagine the mindset that thinks that any of that galling behavior is okay.  Can you just decline everything and be "out of town" when it's going on?
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  • samjodosamjodo member

    Yeah, we want to celebrate with them, so we are going to the ceremony, I think we are bringing them some cash wrapped around a bottle of sunscreen or something for thier wedding gift, to use on thier honeymoon, and I think we are bringing a flask, which I would usually not do at a wedding, but they should appreciate it so we dont have to drink the booze their friends brought.... lol

    I am all for them having celebrations and traveling to Hawaii and then NY for the gameshow, but at 30, live within your means! A potluck is a fine idea, but don't rent out a gallery and expect others to supply fancy food and cake.

    What amazes me is that they have friends who are bringing things to the wedding, have donated to the honeyfund, and are now planning on going to the fundraiser. 

    Whatever. Jut going to wait and see what happens...

     

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  • luvbeingmomluvbeingmom member

    i have a friend who's getting married and they have a honeyfund, which i had never seen before. i'm not so sure those are a great idea, especially since this is her second marriage...

    imo, if you can't afford the honeymoon, don't go on one... or just take a short weekend somewhere. don't ask for others to pay for your upgrade to first class to hawaii...

    i thought for game shows and stuff they will fly and put you up in a hotel, but all other expenses come out of your pocket... so either, the game show is scamming them, or they are scamming their friends for a trip to nyc

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  • MommaA117MommaA117 member
    maan. Wait till they have their babies. They will be having a "baby benefit" to pay the medical bills. No shame...
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  • ashleah83ashleah83 member

    Wow I have no objection to an elopement/ potluck celebration.  But I think it is pretty nervy to register while inviting people to a party where they are asked to provide the refreshments.  I agree with AprilLynn - can't wait to hear about what they do when they have a baby!

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    wow...are you sure you want to be friends with these people?!
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  • lynn97lynn97 member

    I guess I'm in the minority in that I see nothing wrong with letting people help pay for the honeymoon if they want to (DH and I had a honeymoon registry when we got married a few years back as we were older and didn't really need "stuff").  Also, we had a wedding that we fully paid for and our family and friends attended. A casual potluck could've also been okay but I think doing both is tacky. And it's super-tacky to do the fundraiser as well. 

     

    My advice and thoughts are that you guys and their other friends and family aren't obligated to do ANYTHING. I hope they get stiffed by a lot of people b/c I think it's super-tacky that they are being so greedy. 

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  • sunshine336sunshine336 member

    I see nothing wrong with the potluck reception as long as the venue is appropriate- nothing too fancy.  But asking people to pay for the honeymoon and the NY trip in addition is tacky.  I agree with PP that if they want to do potluck, that is the only gift they should expect.  If people want to give a gift or money beyond that it is up to them.  When DH and I got married we had a very small ceremony and reception at a bed and breakfast in Gettysburg.  It was a 4 hour drive for our family so I did not expect any gifts beyond their attendance- we didn't register or have a bridal shower (although friends threw me a small surprise shower).

    A few years back a one-time friend turned acquaintance (due to her poor life choices) got busted for possession of drugs.  She hosted a "Keep xxxx out of jail" party where she wanted people to pay a cover to drink and donate to her lawyer fund.  Needless to say I didn't go. By that point I wasn't socializing with this girl anyway and only being polite when I ran into her.  It was sad and tacky.

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