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Kind of awkward ? about body hair.
Hmmmm, wonder how many views that post title will get??
So, DH is German, Sicilian and Mexican. He looks more German than anything, but lucky Sabrina she got the Sicilian and Mexican genes in terms of body hair.
Like, poor love has dark hair on her shoulders and back. Like, kind of a lot. Really noticeable, IMO. Also? To add insult to injury, her skin is pretty fair (although she does tan).
Seeing as though I'm Irish and know nothing about how girls/women deal with dark body hair, and I have a feeling my MIL would be offended if I asked her if she had any issues, I don't know what to do. Does it go away eventually? Get worse? Clearly getting her back waxed at age 2 seems absurd (as well as illegal, I would think).
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Re: Kind of awkward ? about body hair.
I'm sorry, I have no advice, as a fellow Irish girl I don't know anything about this. I just wanted to let you know that I totally laughed at this, then felt bad for laughing at S...hopefully someone will have some insight.
What about those hair removal things that you just rub on the area....Smooth away
I found a link
https://www.amazon.com/Smooth-Away-75450202574/dp/B001ORBJVW
I am a similar mix, Irish, Sicilian and Mexican. I am not sure about darker hair on my back when I was little, I don't have anyone to ask.
I have had darker hair on my arms as long as I can remember. Maybe ask your pedi about it. I know tanning will lighten the color of the hair.
This cracked me up, but it is a valid thing to be concerned about! I'll go out on a limb and say that as someone who is half Greek and half Polish, I'm no stranger to body hair. Not sure how hairy my back and shoulders were as a toddler but they're not hairy now, lol. I think we all know how to deal with leg hair, and I choose to shave my forearms because the hair is dark (though fine). Just teach her how to use a razor safely when she becomes a teen and she'll be good to go.
...though Kyva did inherit my unruly brows unfortunately. I have visions of chasing her around with a pair of tweezers trying to tame her unibrow before sending her out to catch the school bus.
Being red-headed and vaguely Irish, I honestly don't know but I can tell you my arm hairs are darkish in the winter and get light for the entire summer after my frst day in the sun. So maybe they'll bleach out?
Sam has eyebrows that grow way down almost to his eyelids. I am not going to wax them, but I had to laugh at your post because I'm glad I'm not the only one who considered it...
Ok...just because I think you are fabulous Katie and I absolutely LOVE you for posting this...I'm going to put myself out there for you.
I'm freakin hairy. I'm Sicilian, German and Dark Irish. The only teasing I consistently got throughout elementary school (and kids can be effing MEAN) was about my hairy arms. At one point I sand-papered (yes, horrible) the hair off my arms because I was so embarassed. I bleached my upper lip for the first time in fourth grade. By fifth grade I threatened my Mom that if Santa (I'm the oldest) didn't bring me an electric razor to shave my legs for Christmas, I was using my Grandma money to buy one and would do it when she was sleeping (God help me if I ever give birth to myself).
I guess I'm just trying to build my street cred for my opinion and advice.
At 2, doing anything is absurd. My only shallow comment would be to not have family pictures taken with her in an outfit that shows her future committment to laser hair removal or anything. I think the hair on her back will probably fall out as she gets older. A bit of color in the summer will help a lot too.
When she does get old enough to start asking you for the number to an esthetician...buy Jolen bleach and go for it...arms, legs, lips, back, etc. Don't let her, but go ahead and tweeze in between her brows if she needs it. Do what you feel is right.
I really really hope this doesn't come off as shallow at all. I just know exactly what you are talking about and worried about because I was that kid.
Lucky me I also married a hairy man too....I used to tell him that we need to start both college and laser hair removal funds at the same time for our poor kids.
Good luck.
I'm a crazy mix and thankfully did not get the Mexican dark hair thing that so many do. Lucky me! I'm sorry S did. A childhood friend of mine did and she started shaving early. She had crazy dark arm hair and lots of it and started Nair in junior high. I don't know about shoulder/back hair. Maybe it will fall out? C was born with it but it fell out within weeks.
Good luck K!
I am Irish, English, Japanese and Spanish with a little Native American thrown in.
The females on my fathers side (white) don't seem to have a terrible time with body hair issues so I don't think I get my hairy-ness from them.
Females on my mothers side (Jap.&Sp.) have dark hair, but don't seem to be as hairy as I am. In fact my grandmother is pretty much hairless and plucks the 4 hairs that do grow on her legs, no underarm or arm hair at all.
In addition to my hair issues, I am white. Like transparent. I didn't get one single tan or olive skin gene. My son got them ALL!
Sun does bleach the hair follicles a little so a little bit of exposure even with sunscreen will help reduce the glaring shadow that is dark hair on fair skin.
Even when I shave my legs when tan(what I can call tan) you can see the dark follicle and it appears as if I've got a 5 o'clock shadow - on. my. legs. urg.
I have some thin, darker hair on my face & have noticed that the texture & color vary with hormones. For the most part I remedy that with waxing, but have come to terms with my "chops" or "sideburns". It's faint and I'm sure that i'm the only one that notices my fuzz, and I will admit I'm a little self concious when the dentist gets all up in my grill, but other than that I don't care.
I am who I am. I've always been hairy. If it's not your bag, then you're not my bag baby.
Lesson from me, she's going to grow into the confident beauty that you see in her because that's all she'll know. One day she will make the changes she feels need changing to feel even better about herself, but for the most part - she's Mrs.K's daughter after all, that power & attitude has to count for something.
Give the shoulder fuzz some time, most fuzzy toddlers that I've known grow out of it come Kid-time (5yo+).
Your post made me laugh, not at Sabrina, but because I look at my DD almost everyday and think "damn, you are hella hairy" DD has a little mustach when in certain light and her arms, shoulders and back could use a good waxing. That being said, I wouldn't do anything right now. We are mexican. And my mom said I was just as hair when I was a baby and it got better as I grew up.
I will say, that when she starts grade school, if it ever becomes an issue for her, I will do whatever to help...wax, shave, bleach. But right now, she doesn't know she is hairy.
I'm as hairy as they come, and it's just something she will learn to deal with (if it turns out she's still hairy as she gets older). I just tell myself that everyone has things they're unhappy with about their body, and I'm thankful that hairiness is fairly easy to fix.
Hair removal technology has come a long way, and I'm sure it will be even better and more advanced by the time she's a teenager (which is the earliest I'd start doing anything about it). I get my arms waxed, but I really should just suck it up and get laser removal done on them. Did the Jolen bleach thing forever on my upper lip (would not recommend - super noticeable having a blonde mustache ;-), then waxed for years, and I finally had laser hair removal done there just before my wedding.
Did laser removal on my legs 10+ years ago, and in the process of doing my underarms. Still wax bikini area, but I know I should buck up and do laser there too.
DH is hairy too, but it's less of an issue for males. Our older son has beautiful, light white skin, and my dark, dark hair, so he's got the hairy back right now. The only time anyone would see it is at the pool, and he always wears a swim shirt anyway (to protect that light skin from the sun).
The two things I'd advise against are the easiest fixes - bleach and shaving. Bleaching is still noticeable, and shaving is so short term. Fine for light hair, but when you have dark hair, it shows up immediately so I'd definitely steer her towards more long term options like waxing and laser.
FWIW, laser is most effective on super dark hair and super light skin, so she's an ideal candidate. :-) But again, hopefully, she'll grow out of it and it won't be a big issue for you all.
Hairy girls across the world say thank you.
I wish my Mom had that attitude when I was little.
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I have always been a very hairy person. I have light skin and dark hair. My legs were really hairy as a kid, but the worst thing was that my forearms are very hairy. It was a very painful thing to be young and teased about something I could do nothing about. I remember bringing it up and my mom brushed it off. I really wish she had helped me actually do something about it rather than choose to mostly ignore it.
I also shave my forearms because I am still so flippin insecure. I wish I didn't have to, and I wish I had money for laser removal, but I don't.
If I had a little girl, I would be prepared to talk to her about it in 3rd-4th grade and do something about it in 6th (maybe 5th). It always made my self-esteem sink and I wouldn't want that for my daughter.