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I am so upset I want to throw up
kimb311
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SO just got home from work. He is a PA in the Coast Guard. And dropped this bomb on me.
There is a VERY GOOD chance that he is getting deployed to Africa on May 23rd for 2 months. I am due May 28th. It is down to him and one other guy, and one of them HAS to go. The other guy is claiming medical conditions will prevent him from going. which he so doesn't have. SO is his medical provider! So that would leave Jason. We won't know until tomorrow or Friday. Need some of that magic T&P from you guys. I'm sick to my stomach and think I just had my first real contraction. 
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Re: I am so upset I want to throw up
I can't imagine the Coast Guard taking the other guy's word for having a medical condition. I would think they would want proof from his medical provider and if that's your SO then I doubt he will lie for him.
You just need to go into labor before the 28th;)
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Thanks Ladies! Well, after a long night of tossing and turning and maybe a few tears I have decided to put my "big girl pants" on and deal with whatever comes our way. Jason is just as upset about the possible deployment as I am. There is no need to be an emotional wreck. I need to be strong. I'm going to be the Mommy, for crying out loud! Isn't that our job? to be the calm in the middle of the storm? Who knows, this could all be for naught. I mean there is a 50% chance he doesn't go, right?
as far as the other guy goes, I don't know exactly how it works, but once he claims a condition that would disqualify him from deployment they have to do a "medical board" or review of him to decide. I guess that could take a while and he would not be able to go anywhere until a final decision is made. Best part? This guy is a "friend" and there is no real reason why he can't go other then he doesn't want to.... gotta love friends huh?
As we were talking about all the details that would go into him leaving we did briefly talk about induction maybe a week early. We are on the fence about that. Is this a good enough reason to kick her out early? IDK...
I'm sorry Kim that totally sucks.
You have options but they're probably not so great. Could he possibly tell them he plans on taking some form of FMLA leave as a new father during that time to disqualify him? Granted he likely wouldn't be paid for the time off, but he'd have his job when he returned from leave, and he'd get to be home...
I'm not sure how the Coast Guard works in relation to "regular" jobs, but it's something to look into as a last resort.
It's an unfortunate situation and even more unfortunate is his coworkers decision to try and get out of it knowing full well you guys have your first baby on the way. It really sucks how selfish people can be.
So sorry this was sprung on you! My goodness... I can't imagine. Hopefully it will work out for the best and your SO will remain stateside and with you. Try as much as you can to relax and keep LO in there for a couple more weeks.