Anyone else never left LO overnight?

cs1007 · April 2011

I keep hearing a lot of friends/moms talking about going on vaca without little ones, even when they are really young (2 months). I know my DH would really love to getaway without DS, but I honestly don't think I could even bare the thought! I feel like it would be a lot to ask of someone (my parents)...but not only that, I really enjoy my DS being around and I feel like my vaca would be more fun with him there. I know, I know...it is important to have couple time. DH and I do have date nights, just not overnight. Anyone else-I am feeling alone here!

kedwards85 · April 2011

i agree, 100%.

hollywood1589 · April 2011

I didn't let anyone keep my DS overnight until he was around 13 months.. He is now 17 months. It is wonderful to get some downtime and peaceful rest while he is away! I miss him like crazy but it truly is great! It gets easier the more you do it. I would do a trial overnight stay with the person you want to keep him before actually taking a vacation/weekend away. That way you can make sure everything goes smoothly and you're close in case your needed. It will much harder on you than it will on him! My DS loves staying with grandma! DS gets undivided attention from grandma and it gives DH & I some much needed time alone! Win-Win Situation!

Edit: DS now stays at grandma's usually once every 4-6 weeks.. After re-reading my post it seemed like he goes all the time.. He's only stayed 4 times! just wanted to clarify! Big Smile

hterry85 · April 2011

Nope, I'm with you. My parents are actually leaving today for their first over night trip alone since I was born! lol (My youngest sister is 19) We could only afford 1 trip a year, if that, so they were always family trips. We're the same way...about all we can afford right now is one weekend away every once in a great while. I have no intention of not taking the kids anytime in the foreseeable future.

jenn&Dave2005 · April 2011

We're leaving tonight. DD will be with her grandparents and then take a short 30 minute trip over to see her god parents.My parents love having her and we're going on a trip with 10 other no baby couples. To each their own I guess, if you don't want to go don't go. But I hope you're not suggesting that if you leave your baby for the weekend you must not really enjoy having them around.

Gen & Joel · April 2011

I have never left LO overnight and i'm actually very anxious about leaving him when LO#2 arrives and i'm in the hospita,l but i think DH will be with him overnight after the delivery so at least he'll have 1 of us.

cs1007 · April 2011

No, I am not suggesting that if you go away that you do not enjoy them being around...

superaunt · April 2011

no, you're not alone. we take her with us everywhere and always will. that's just the way it is with us. you can have quality alone time with your SO w/out excluding your child from vacation plans IMO.

diana.filipi · April 2011

We haven't left her overnight yet. We WANT to take her to dinner, on vacay, pretty much anywhere we go :-) I really couldn't imagine going on vacay without DD. When our nephews lived with us they were always included in vacay plans too. I think things like that are more fun with kids, just a different kind of fun :-)

I don't judge the friends I have who do go on vacations without their LOs.

knbarr · April 2011

My daughter is 12 months old and we haven't left her over night yet. I'm not ready we do sometimes go out for a couple hours on the weekend. But we both work full time during the week so our weekends are family time.

Temp36641187503164 · April 2011

You are definitely not alone. We actually canceled our 5th anniversary plans in January because I couldn't leave him overnight (we were going to go to Charleston for 2 nights).

My Mom is actually the only person that has watched DS so far.

yankeebaby2 · April 2011

superaunt:
no, you're not alone. we take her with us everywhere and always will. that's just the way it is with us. you can have quality alone time with your SO w/out excluding your child from vacation plans IMO.

You know some people have vacations with their families and solo vacations with their husbands too and no one gets excluded

I'll be honest, I think it's weird if you have a toddler and have never left him/her overnight. I don't actually care if you do or don't but I do giggle at the inflammatory wording of "excluding lo" or "we actually like having him around" or "our time off is family time"

Singingmama · April 2011

Our daughter goes everywhere with us and I LOVE having her with us. I don't feel a need to have alone time with DH, but he recently told me that he feels like it's something that we need to do. So, this summer, we will be leaving DD with her grandparents (his parents for 2 days, then my parents for 2 days) for 4 days. We're not sure where we are going to go, we may just go to the next town over and spend some time at the river and just enjoying each other's company.

I'm excited about our trip. I didn't feel the need to take the trip in the first place and I wouldn't be disappointed if we were suddenly unable to go, but I'm excited about going. I know that we will miss our daughter, but I also know that she'll be in excellent hands, with undivided attention. She'll probably not miss us, lol!

I realized that, although I don't feel this need to "get away", my DH does and I need to keep him happy as well.

haleymay18 · April 2011

That is crazy. What is the harm in an overnight alone?

PizzaBride · April 2011

My MIL would LOVE for us to leave DS with her overnight. As soon as I told her he didn't need to bf to get to sleep anymore, she said, "Oh! So he can spend the night here!" Yes, lady...that's the reason I stopped bfing him to sleep...

I am not ready to leave my child with someone overnight. I already miss him after he goes to sleep & he's just in the next room. I don't think I would be able to sleep if he wasn't in the house. And sometimes he wakes up in the night & I bf him to sleep & I know that MIL wasn't the most gentle with her kids & gets frustrated easily so I will not be leaving him there overnight any time soon.

And I simply just wouldn't ask my parents to do that.

And I agree that I think any vacation would be way more fun with DS there. I would love it if we were able to take a vacation with him. I would love to show him things like that. You know?

mrsolsen2000 · April 2011

We left DD with the grandparents for 4 nights when she was 18 months old. Now we are oping to book another Vegas trip for September/October so about a year later. We had a blast! Yes, I missed her but it was nice to relax and sleep in.

FYI- I also think you have a child who still does not STTN (like ours) a vacation can be a great way to catch up on sleep lol!

sophiet496 · April 2011

We have left DS for one or two nights here and there with my parents. I can do it only because I know how happy he is with them and well-cared for. He has also never had any seperation anxiety or anything...if he did, I don't think I could do it. But Lucas seems to love his little 'vacations' to nana and papa's house. We do it when we are both sick or just want a little get away. More than 2 nights would be hard, though, I think...

Chrysallys · April 2011

We haven't and don't plan on it any time in the near future.

mvanderc · April 2011

we haven't, and we don't really get date nights either. we're stationed in korea now so i don't feel comfortable leaving her with someone that isn't family.

as for date ngihts, she goes to bed at 7 so we have plenty of time to talk, watch movies, whatever. i feel like we get enough of a break without having to go anywhere!

jonnygurl76 · April 2011

we haven't left DD overnight and won't until i have #2 and i am in the hospital. everyone will do what they feel comfortable with and we aren't comfortable leaving her overnight.

DH and i do date nights out and that works for us...we don't want to vacation without her, we did that before we had her.

BelhurstBride · April 2011

I've never left DD overnight before. She doesn't STTN and we're still nursing. I just feel bad asking someone else to deal with that all night long.

Though to be honest, I'm getting ready for a break. She's been going through a horrible non sleeping spell and I am just plain exhausted. I need a break, but would really only feel comfortable leaving her with my parents or sister and neither of them want to deal with her!

robynlesley · April 2011

I haven't ... but that's because I have nobody to watch him. I'm an "older" mom and my parents are in their late 60s and in ill health. My in-laws are in better shape but still not able to take care of DS for an overnight -- or few nights.

Honestly, I don't know if DH and I will be able to get away until DS is potty trained and sleeping in a bed--when we can leave him with my SIL (who has two active boys aged 5 and 7).

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