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summergirl79
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Potential match!
summergirl79
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DH & I need to make decision tonight- the situation seems really great, it's just over our budget so we need to make sure we can swing it; also it's a little more open than we had definitely decided on- but have always been flexible in this area, please remind me this is a good thing!
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Re: Potential match!
At one point in our journey, we matched and it was more than our original budget. I was sweating the money UNTIL we got the call that the baby was here. I can't describe the feeling that came over me. All of the financial worries went away. I just wanted to go and be with whom I thought was my daughter (fell apart for other reasons).
I am a worrier esp about money so I feel like I can honestly say if you have wiggle room and it makes you slightly uncomfortable, it's okay. Your heart will sing when it you know the baby is here and yours!
If you need a cheerleader, I am here
(Of course, being financially responsible is very important. Don't allow your emotions to take you to a place that puts your future at risk, etc. It doesn't sound like that's the case... but I couldn't cheer you on w/o this little disclaimer.)
When is she due? Do you know gender
As long as the finances are within a reasonable reach, don't lose sleep over it!
Funny enough, as a worrier, I always looked for something to attach to and fret over. Try not to be me. Relax and enjoy the fun parts of a match
Baby boy, mid June!
I am a huge worrier too so can relate, already worrying about many things and haven't even discussed w/ DH yet except for the basics.
We went with a situation that was over our budget. For us, it meant borrowing from family because we didn't have access to any more cash. However, we went for it, and now we have our sweet, amazing little boy and of course it was the right thing to do
Our situation also ended up being more open than we ever wanted - not because of what the birth mom wanted, but because the agency was so absent and unavailable around the time of the baby's birth. We ended up exchanging last names and cell phone numbers with the birth mom, which we never planned to do. It worked out fine. In fact, I wish that we had more contact with our birth mother. Unless the birth mother's desires about openness are unreasonable, I would go for it.
Keep us updated and good luck!!
Definitely go with your gut instinct. Its a huge blind leap but it is worth all the scariness!
With my first (failed) match, I wanted it to work so badly, but looking back now, I always knew it wasn't meant to be. I think no matter what, you never know until its all done and you are looking back.
Definitely follow your heart!
Like pp said, please keep us posted!
Heart is not being clear ;-)- tends to be this way for me when it comes to big decisions!
waiting on some more info still...
Married my amazing husband May 22, 2010
Became Step-Mom to 2 boys.
Husband had vasectomy in 2004 during first marriage.
Adoption Is Our Path!
Application sent March 29, 2011 First Meeting with CW: April 25, 2011 Final Visit and home visit: August 16, 2011
September, 2011 - told we are ready to be considered by birth parents. Officially WAITING!
Spring of 2012, we start to work with a Consultant and apply with a few agencies around the US
June 2012 - we are MATCHED
July 25, 2012 - Our SON was born in Arizona
August 8th, 2012 - we flew home with our baby
Awaiting Finalization
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For one of the (national) agencies we are working with, you set a match budget and they present your profile to situations w/in your approximate budget. For our local agency, there is a set sliding scale according to income.