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Terrified of Repeat C/S with a 19mth old...
I'm am starting to have a lot of anxiety thinking about this baby coming in 38 days...my 18mth old is very independent which I'm thankful for but he still likes to be carried quite a bit. I usually only carry him up the stairs to/from bed and at this point I have to carry him to the car cause if I let him walk he takes off or gets mad when he has to get in the car....If you've had a RCS how did you handle not being able to lift LO #1?! I have help of course my DH will be around and my mom and MIL will be here to help us too...but he likes his Mama snuggles so I'm just nervous about how it's all going to unfold...TIA for any advice you might have!
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Re: Terrified of Repeat C/S with a 19mth old...
17 months apart here.
Like so many other things with 2u2 you just DO IT.
You'll figure out ways to juggle the toddler. Heck... I was avoiding lifting him by the end of my pregnancy any way!
And - poll the c/s moms on here. Over half of us didn't wait the full 2 weeks to pick up our toddlers. (one woman was saying she was supposed to wait SIX weeks!)
You do what you have to do when you have to do it.
You bend at the knees, go slow and listen to your body.
You have him climb up on the sofa to snuggle up there with you, etc.
It'll all come together!
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
My husband had to go back to work 4 days after we brought DS home, so I had to do it. I tried to do it as little as possible and I put a small stool next to my bed and the chair I usually sat in so DD could climb up to me. I still lifted her in and out of the car seat and high chair and while I think I was a bit sore for longer (in comparison to when I had DD) it wasn't bad and I won't do anything differently this time around.
it isn't bad if you have help. It is sort of hard to remember sometimes...but better not to pick them up then to end up back in the hospital because you opened up. I probably did it earlier than I should have. It works out fine though
Wow, thanks for sharing - that's so encouraging! I had such a rough time with #1 (labor that resulted in c/s)... I'm much looking forward to my scheduled, RCS.
Our DS was 23 months old when DD was born. I had a hard time because I had limited help after 10 days. My husband got 1 (ONE) day off work - the day she was born. My mom brought us home from the hospital. She stayed until the next day. In-laws arrived 2 days later (on a Monday). They were here for maybe 3 days, and were somewhat helpful. The majority of it, though, I just did. I have no doubts that I have adhesions now from lifting up DS before I should have. But, I did not really have a choice.
This time around should be a little bit better. Both kids can get in/out of bed by themselves. DS can do his own seat buckles. DD can get into her carseat most of the time, and we're working on encouraging her to do so more frequently so I don't have to pick her up.
Honestly, you do what you can (or what you must), you don't sweat the other stuff you can't do, and you survive.
It wasn't that bad. Recovery with a repeat c/s is much easier and faster. (I couldn't even get out of bed on my own for a week and a half after my emergency c/s with DS. After my repeat c/s with DD, I was able to get in and out of bed on my own.) My DS was 18.5 mo. when DD was born, and he also likes to be picked up/carried. My parents or DH were home the first 3 weeks, and DS stayed in daycare 3 days a week. DH did daycare drop off and pick up until 6 weeks post-delivery. We put DS in a toddler bed before DD arrived so that I wouldn't have to worry about lifting him in and out of a crib if DH wasn't available.
One thing I did a lot is sit on the couch and then help pull DS onto the couch (to read or snuggle). He did most of the work to get up, and that way I didn't have to completely pick him up.