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Moving in with In-Laws (long)

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So we are moving in with my In-Laws. I've been having VERY frequent migraines (10 in 16 days) and it's been difficult to care for my daughter since my FI works nights 2 nights on, two nights off and my family isn't very helpful (to say the least).

They live about 2 hours away. It's a huge move for me because I've lived in the town I live in now for my whole life and FI's family lives in the country about 10 minutes from the nearest town. His aunt, uncle, 3 cousins, grandma and grandpa, and parents all live in the same land (they have 40 acres).

My FI and I just really don't see any other option. I've gone to the ER for at least half of them because I can't function and am in seriously awful pain and I obviously just can't care for my daughter while on strong pain killers and sitting in the emergency room, and MIL and FIL can't keep taking off work every day or every other day to come down and help me either.

I guess what I'm MOST concerned about is that because the move will force me to quit my job it will be until Feb of next year until we can afford to get our own place. They only have 1 bedroom which puts us all in the same room. DD has slept in our room since birth but I had plans to move her out of our room and into her nursery since she is older and sleeping through the night.

What sort of "damage" will it do to her to have her in our room until she is at least a year old? We will probably move her to the living room when the new baby comes in November so that the new baby hopefully won't wake her up.. I guess I'm just hoping we aren't in for some huge fight when it comes time to move out and she has to sleep alone in her nursery at our new house.

Right now, she goes to sleep around 8:30pm and FI and I leave her alone in her pack n play in our room until we go to bed and she sleeps through until about 7:45am. When we move we plan to have her sleep in her crib in our room instead of the pack n play.

So nervous that this will make her so attached that she won't be able to sleep without us! I never planned to have her in our room until she was 1+ years old =/ Maybe I'm just totally over reacting and super emotional because of the pregnancy lol.

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Re: Moving in with In-Laws (long)

  • LordValuemartLordValuemart
    It'll be fine, you'll see. My brother and his wife lived in studio apartments and cramped 1 br places for the first 2 1/2 years of my nephew's life. They also thought that once they were able to afford a bigger place, they would have a hell of a fight getting my nephew to sleep in his own room. About a week after they moved into their first 2 bedroom place, I was over visiting close to my nephew's bed time, and to my surprise, my brother went in, did my nephew's bed time routine of bath, tooth brushing, story and bed, and it all went without a hitch, no screaming, no fighting, no nothing, just an "I love you papa goodnight" and a sleeping toddler. Kids are a lot more adaptable than a lot of people like to give them credit for.
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  • sarie1621sarie1621

    Thank you for your reply!

    I've been so concerned about this making my daughter so attached that she won't leave mommy or daddy's side =) Obviously I over react a bit lol =)

    At least we will get baby #2 out of our room before he/she is a year old =) (hopefully!)

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  • LordValuemartLordValuemart
    imagesarie1621:

    Thank you for your reply!

    I've been so concerned about this making my daughter so attached that she won't leave mommy or daddy's side =) Obviously I over react a bit lol =)

    At least we will get baby #2 out of our room before he/she is a year old =) (hopefully!)

    If I remember right, my brother, when they got ok'd for the new place, hyped up having your own room for WEEKS, he made it sound like a totally magical place, having space that's just yours for all your toys where you can sleep with peace and quiet and no one will bug you. He also explained that with the extra room for all of his toys, it meant that come christmas and birthday time, they didn't have to worry so much about what they had room for in the living room, he could get bigger stuff, and not have to worry. The day they moved, I babysat while they loaded the uhaul, drove it over and unpacked, and waiting in my nephew's room was a whole ton of big sheets of art paper, crayons, finger paints, and one of those plastic easels with the chalk board on back, THEN they unpacked his brand new race car bed frame, and he about crapped again.

    It's really one of those things that it REALLY helps to prep for it and hype it up a lot, in my nephew's case, it made it 1000x easier.

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    You'll do fine! My DS still sleeps in our room (even though we have 2 extra bedrooms, lol), and he's a normal, well-adjusted kid. He's actually much more independent than any of the kids in his playgroup. I promise you wont do any permanent damage.  :)  We even have my DD in the same room, and her crying never wakes him up.

    Honestly, if I were in your situation, I'd be more concerned with not killing my ILs. Although I love them and they're wonderful people, I'd go insane living with family. lol.

    Good luck and I'm sure everything will work out just fine. :)  I hope the migranes go away for you soon.

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