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"Cry it out"

sarahjane936sarahjane936
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Did you ever let your kids cry is out?  If so, how old were they when you did it?  They sleep very well through out the day, but come 8pm they fight sleep like none other.  It's been 3 months and I need a little sleep.  HELP!
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  • RobynKRobynK member

    Even the CIO experts recommend that you DO NOT do it before 6 months...you need to wait until 6 months adjusted at the earliest.

    Try putting them to bed a bit earlier, at that age 8pm was too late for us and we missed the "window" for an easy bedtime.  Or take a look at your bedtime routine and see what might need changed, if you don't have one start one.

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  • bellasmom27bellasmom27
    Yep I agree with Robyn. I heard this from my pedi before, saying that it can be emotionally and psychologically damaging to an infant if you let them cry it out at an early age, and that when they are screaming and crying for your attention in the middle of the might or at any time for that matter, you must go and hold him/her close to you, lots of hugs and kisses then put them down, then repeat!
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  • saverchicsaverchic

    I agree that an earlier bedtime will help.  We were putting our boys to bed at around 9, but we gradually moved it earlier and earlier each day.  Now we start our bedtime routine at 6:45.

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  • JenandtonicaJenandtonica member

    We went through a phase like that at about the same adjusted age. Good news: It was just a phase. Bad news: It seemed to last FOREVER.

    CIO isn't recommended for that age, but letting them cry while you step away to regroup is entirely different and often necessary.

    All the sleep frustrations run together, but I want to say that's when my trio just wanted to be held or worn. Of course, we did a lot of rotating through different "stations" - their rocking chairs, their swings, a bath, our arms, a wrap, the strollers, the car seats - till we found what calmed them most/best.

    GL, lady. The late witching-hour cries are the hardest to endure. Why can't they come at the beginning of the day when our ears are freshest?

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  • shellshavintwinsshellshavintwins
    Yes Yes Yes on the earlier bed time we were going to bed at 6:30- 7:30 (latest) for months and months and they usually went down w/o a peep. Ever since DST changed we are struggling. They still go down much much easier at 7 pm then 8 pm but the whole familes dinner and down time has shifted thanks to having more daylight and we are trying to get back on that time frame. That being said one of my LO's has NEVER let you soothe her to sleep, by 3 months old she needed to cry for about 5 mins while she squirmed , now rolls around till she is comfy. Even if you hold her she rolls in your arms. At that age she never cried for more then 5 mins so I didn't worry about psychological damage, it was what she just did. I wouldn't have let her do it longer then that. Even now if either one of them cries longer then 20 mins it means they are not going to go down alone.
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  • Haven1Haven1

    imageshellshavintwins:
    Ever since DST changed we are struggling. They still go down much much easier at 7 pm then 8 pm but the whole familes dinner and down time has shifted thanks to having more daylight...
    Who knows if this will help, but I put a black trashbag up on their window two nights ago, and it made a HUGE difference in how well they went to bed and how well they slept in in the morning.  I'd been all over town pricing "darkening shades" and planning to purchase fabric to add to their curtains. 

    DH suggested taping up trashbags since that's what they'd done during rush week in his fraternity house.  (I didn't ask.)  It worked like a charm!

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  • regenabregenab member

    I would not do before they were 6 months adjusted. Lucky for us we didn't have to do CIO until they were 13 months old and we took the pacis away. You can try an earlier bedtime, but looking at their adjusted age it is kind of early for this. I went to an earlier bedtime of 6pm when they were 3 months adjusted and then we started working on sttn 12 hours, but not before that adjusted age.

    I would just keep sticking to no longer than 90 min. to 2 hour of awake time during the day including into the evening. Mine were melting down at that age at about 7 pm every night, at the time, I didn't realize, I needed to be putting them down for a little nap instead of keeping them awake at that time of the evening.

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  • mrs.cammrs.cam member
    What do you mean by CIO? If you mean let them protest cry ( not hysterical sobbing) for a few minutes...then yes. We never let ours cry more than 10 minutes and certainly never let them get too worked up but a few mintues to settle down definitely. But totally try the early bedtime thing, even if you need blackout curtains and white noise. My boys go to bed at 6pm, with not so much as a peep. Heaven! Good luck.
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