Ok I am a little confused...(IL Vent)
So a few weeks ago MIL asked me to "be careful" with what pictures I post on FB of the babies because apparently some friends/family are "scared" to look at them. One of these said friends is currently pregnant and said that it makes her nervous to see my babies, so I edited my settings so that she can no longer see my updates or photos unless she specifically goes to my profile and clicks on them.
Mind you other then that my settings are set so that only those people who I am friends with can veiw ANYTHING on my page. Friends of Friends, etc can see nothing but my profile pic and name. Not to mention, a lot of our close family and friends have found comfort in seeing the babies progress, especially those who haven't had a chance to meet them yet.
I just logged on to see that MIL has just taken every.single.picture. of the babies that I uploaded and created her own album on FB titled "OUR BABIES".
I am a little peeved because I do not like the idea that her profile settings are very public and anyone can see all of her photos etc.
I realize in the grand scheme of things my account could be hacked and someone could find out information, but I just don't like the idea of our kids photos being passed around FB, and wouldn't this be the pot calling the kettle black?
Am I over reacting? Should DH mention something to her about this?
Re: Ok I am a little confused...(IL Vent)
You are not overreacting at all. She crossed the line and should of asked you in the first place if it was ok. Tell her how you feel, don't keep it in.
I 100% agree with this. I would ask her to take them down immediately.
I dont think you are overreacting whatsoever. YOUR babies are YOUR babies! You should be able to post any pics you want to post. Your babies are not scary, they are precious and beautiful! It makes me so mad that she said that. If it scares people, they dont have to look it at. Period. Anything is possible and God forbid your pregnant friend had something wrong with her baby, she would have to see it like that too. Plus, she is an adult. If your little babies are strong enough to deal with what they are going through then she should be stong enough to view thier pic of the internet!
Just because our babies were hooked up to machines and wire and tubes, does not make them scary to look at. If you look beyond all that, you see an innocent, precious child suffering and fighting for thier life. A little miracle.
I struggled with whether or not to post my NICU pics on facebook but then I thought about it....that is my baby, wires or no wires, scary or not scary, I should be able to show him off no matter. He is the most beautiful, adorable thing I have ever seen. Who wouldnt want to see him? All the other moms get to show thier babies off. I should get to show mine off too.
I didnt even answer your question about the albums, did I? I would probably mention to DH if it bothers you. And yes, I think it is the pot calling the kettle black too!
I agree with everyone else, tell her to make it private or take it down. Its your right as the mother.
Also, to the pregnant lady who doesn't want to see things like that, she needs to grow the F up. What does she do when people tell her horror stories about labor? Plug her ears and say "lalalalalala"? Seriously, that is ridiculous. My sister has pictures of her girls in frames in her living room, hooked up to everything in NICU, and she is PROUD at what little fighters she has.
I could not have said it any better than the rest of you ladies...I think you nailed it! And Boston...you made my day with this comment.
What I would talk to her about is why she told you to take the pictures off your FB (which Is dumb people are forced to look at pictures on others Facebook page) but then turn around and put up the same pictures on hers.