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I'm from California and I really dont know the laws on child custody. But the story is me and my daughters dad are no longer together but he has been there since she was born. We are civil with each other and he comes over to my house everyday to see his daughter. His family comes over 2x a week to see the baby also.

Now my baby is 2 months old. My family are now getting annoyed with the fact that his family comes over 2x a week and that my ex comes over everyday. I do live with my parents because they help me out with the baby. 

What I am asking is, when is it okay for him to take the baby on his own? for how long? Does he need to be supervised? She is breastfed so I need to have her when I'm not working so that I can feed her. I personally think she is too little to go with him but then again I could be wrong. Please give me advice

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  • Temp552270562505132Temp552270562505132

    i would get a court order for custody/child support.

     

    thats the best way to get this situation taken care of.  also, you are breastfeeding so baby wont be able to go TOO long with the dad and dads family.  but you need to get a court order.   

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  • dimakedimake

    I would definitely get a court order in place just so that you can establish some boundaries in regards to visitation and support.

    Other than that, since you didn't mention any red flag issues like addiction or abuse - it's great that the two of you are civil and he is so involved with your daughter!

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  • Meliss227Meliss227

    Since it seems like the two of you have a pretty good co-parenting relationship and I'm guessing live pretty close to each other if he comes and visits every day and his family 2x a week, is it possible to take her to his place or his family's?

    Maybe if your parents are ok with it he could still come to your place 2x a week and then she could go to his place 2x a week. Each visit could be about 2 hours. You could go with her the first couple of times to make sure he can handle the bottles and changing her, etc.

    I know when I was looking up parenting plans a lot of them suggested visits be short and frequent for infants.

    Good Luck! 

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