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Mlewis2319
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My name is Michele and I need to talk to some other women that are going through/have gone through what I'm going through. I feel like I can't talk to anyone around me b/c they haven't been through what I've been through and sometimes I just feel helpless.
For starters, DH & I have a wonderful son, just turned 3. I've had 2 m/c since DS, the first when he was around 10 months and the most recent was Dec of 2009. I thought that if I went back on bc it would help even out my hormones or might help with something. So back on bc I went. Now we've been trying since Oct 2010 to get preganant and nothing. OB said I could not go for testing until we've been trying for a year with nothing or I had another m/c. Every cycle when AF arrives, I can't help but feel helpless & worthless. This feeling lasts a couple of days, but then I decide to get back up on the bike & try again.
Now my bf is pregnant with her first and I'm happy for her, of course. And then it seems like everyone & their aunt is expecting on FB and then all these helpless feelings come flooding back. I think I've decided to take a break from FB for a while.
Anyone have any advise/tips on what to do while you have to wait before any testing would be done? should I see another doctor? I love my OB...I don't know, I just want answers.
Thank you for any insight, just feeling a low & need someone who knows what I'm going through.
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Welcome to the board! I am sorry you are going through this. It definitely can bring up a lot of negative emotions. I totally understand how hard it is when everyone around you is pregnant. That is how I feel too. My BF is also pregnant and we were trying to get pregnant at the same time. We both have DDs and they are only 6 weeks apart so we thought it would be awesome if our #2s were close too. Obviously she got pregnant and I didn't.
As for what you can do now, have you been charting at all? If you chart and notice a pattern that would show you are not ovulating or have a short luteal phase your ob might go ahead with testing. Fertilityfriend.com is a great site for this. How many more months do you have to try before it is a year? If you really want to get things started, you could go to an RE. I think they are usually more apt to test than obs, especially if you already think there is a problem. The only problem is that if your insurance doesn't cover IF it will all be out of pocket with an RE.
Welcome! I know a ton of people who are preggo right now too! I am so happy for the ones that plan, but the people who weren't planning or didn't really want to get pregnant really effect me.
If I were you I would either get a new OB or start seeing an RE. Two mc and TTC for as long as you have been warrent some testing and peace of mind. My ob started testing me 5 months after we were ttc. Our problem has been that I haven't started ovulating after nursing a year. Maybe you are having the same problem because of your mcs and bc. Good luck to you and I hope your stay is short!
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I was charting, I have the My Days on my phone, but I felt like maybe I was thinking about it too much, so I stopped charting, Everyting seemed fine when I was charting. I was thinking about starting to chart again this cycle.
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MC Feb 2009 8 weeks
MC Dec 2009 8 weeks
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