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If you work night shifts, please help me.

kkramer99kkramer99
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Posted this on 0-6 mos, but thought I'd try here too. I'm really stressed and could use any helpful thoughts:

Any of you ladies work night shifts and struggle w/ extra fussiness on the part of your dc when you are at work. I work both days and occasional nights - during the day, my dd is fine w/ dh or our nanny. I start my night shifts at 7pm - often I can get her to sleep or drowsy prior to my departure and she's happy. Over and over now, dh calls me in a panic saying that she started SCREAMING the second I left and it continued for an hour until he called me. I actually have left work twice to go home and I can usually soothe her relatively quickly. This is so hard - it's heartbreaking to see her so upset and dh looks like he will cry also. Maybe it's because she's becoming more aware of her surroundings as she matures. DH never had issues soothing her before. Any tips? I think if this continues I may have to re-think these night shifts, but that will hurt me professionally.

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    I don't work nights, but we've had days/evenings where one or both of us have trouble soothing her.  IMO, I think DH and DD need to learn each other.  Yes, she might scream a bit, but she needs to learn that other people can take care of her, not just mama.  Instead of racing home, I think you and DH need to take that approach to it.

    I went on my first business trip last week, and their first night together was miserable for both of them in my understanding.  The second night, she was back to sleeping like a rock.  She knows that I'm not the only one capable of taking care of her.

    GL!  It can be very hard to not fix it for both DH and DD, but it's well worth it.

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  • NurseTheresaNurseTheresa
    I work 7pm-730am 3 night a week and DS definitely has a harder time when I'm not home. ?However, we just started putting a shirt of mine that has been worn near DS in the crib so he can smell me. ?It seems that he's sleeping better for DH. ?Went from waking every two hours to sleeping for 4 1/2 hrs straight. ?I agree with PP though that your DH and DD need to figure each other out. ?Good luck!
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