When it rains, it pours (illness/ death).

mcurban · April 2011

I feel like, over the past two weeks, so many people have fallen seriously ill and/or have passed.

One high school friend lost his battle to cancer last Tuesday. He is survived by his wife and 3 year old daughter. A former colleague of mine was diagnosed w/ a rare blood disease last year and died from complications of that on Easter Sunday at the age of 32. My husband's great uncle (like a grandfather to him) is on a morphine drip to help w/ the pain from cancerous tumors in his abdomen and his family has been told that he has days to live (granted, this was two weeks ago). I got a call from one of my best friends last night that her mom's cancer has come back, this time in the brain. Oh, and my parents just spent the last week w/ my grandfather and my dad said he's not doing well, at all.

Sigh. Double sigh.

Anyone up for a sunshine and rainbows post?

rssnlvr · April 2011

Sad

I'm sorry.

Duckie07 · April 2011

I'm so sorry.

mrs.wildman · April 2011

I'm sorry. Sending lots of twinkles and unicorn dust your way!!

michelleaxo · April 2011

I'm sorry

2H2L · April 2011

I'm so sorry.

fjaril · April 2011

*hugs*

mcurban · April 2011

Thanks, y'all, and I *totally* didn't post this for sympathy. Just kind of a "well, this sucks" post.

Semi-related (if only slightly):

You may remember that I decided not to go to BIL's wedding. DH's flight up there was 500 bucks. I refused to pay 2,000 bucks for our flight, $200+ per night for a hotel, rental car, etc. only to get there on Friday and fly out Sunday morning. Definitely used the cost of the flight as an excuse.

But, when my good friend said she wished I lived closer b/c she could really use a hug and someone to talk to who "knows" her, I booked a flight home for me and the boys. But, it's for week, so that's different, right? Tell me I won't be judged when I email my ILs and tell them. Bonus, though, it means that when DH flies up the following weekend (to help me get the boys back home) he'll be able to go to his sister's graduation (from her MD/PhD) AND be there for his goddaughter's baptism. So, not the same thing as a weekend trip, right?

KateAggie · April 2011

mcurban:

Thanks, y'all, and I *totally* didn't post this for sympathy. Just kind of a "well, this sucks" post.

Semi-related (if only slightly):

You may remember that I decided not to go to BIL's wedding. DH's flight up there was 500 bucks. I refused to pay 2,000 bucks for our flight, $200+ per night for a hotel, rental car, etc. only to get there on Friday and fly out Sunday morning. Definitely used the cost of the flight as an excuse.

But, when my good friend said she wished I lived closer b/c she could really use a hug and someone to talk to who "knows" her, I booked a flight home for me and the boys. But, it's for week, so that's different, right? Tell me I won't be judged when I email my ILs and tell them. Bonus, though, it means that when DH flies up the following weekend (to help me get the boys back home) he'll be able to go to his sister's graduation (from her MD/PhD) AND be there for his goddaughter's baptism. So, not the same thing as a weekend trip, right?

You know what? If your ILs don't get it, don't worry about it. Your friend needs you, and that's what matters. Hopefully your ILs will surprise you.

L L CG · April 2011

I am so sorry, MC. What a tough time. HUGS.

keado · April 2011

KateAggie:
mcurban:

Thanks, y'all, and I *totally* didn't post this for sympathy. Just kind of a "well, this sucks" post.

Semi-related (if only slightly):

You may remember that I decided not to go to BIL's wedding. DH's flight up there was 500 bucks. I refused to pay 2,000 bucks for our flight, $200+ per night for a hotel, rental car, etc. only to get there on Friday and fly out Sunday morning. Definitely used the cost of the flight as an excuse.

But, when my good friend said she wished I lived closer b/c she could really use a hug and someone to talk to who "knows" her, I booked a flight home for me and the boys. But, it's for week, so that's different, right? Tell me I won't be judged when I email my ILs and tell them. Bonus, though, it means that when DH flies up the following weekend (to help me get the boys back home) he'll be able to go to his sister's graduation (from her MD/PhD) AND be there for his goddaughter's baptism. So, not the same thing as a weekend trip, right?

You know what? If your ILs don't get it, don't worry about it. Your friend needs you, and that's what matters. Hopefully your ILs will surprise you.

Ditto. Surely they will understand. Weddings are chaotic, and your presence would probably be appreciated but not necessary. This is more quality time.

I am so sorry for your losses and the bad news you seem to be receiving. My grandfather passed away last weekend. Its still hard to believe he is gone, but we chose to celebrate his life. I believe that in death we are (hopefully) at peace - that it is the surviving that have it toughest in death. Spouses, children, etc.

ditzydi_2000 · April 2011

I'm sorry. Sad

thethomps · April 2011

I'm sorry. If you want a little sunshine, a friend of mine had a brain tumor (I think I posted about her last year) and the cancer spread to her spine. The doctors told her mom that she only had months to live. Well, here we are almost a year later and the doctors are now saying she's in remission! I know it doesn't always work that way but miracles can happen.

ETA: I hope that didn't come out insensitively. I am very sorry for all you're going through and all the sadness.

mrslaquinta · April 2011

I'm so sorry.

mcurban · April 2011

thethomps:
I'm sorry. If you want a little sunshine, a friend of mine had a brain tumor (I think I posted about her last year) and the cancer spread to her spine. The doctors told her mom that she only had months to live. Well, here we are almost a year later and the doctors are now saying she's in remission! I know it doesn't always work that way but miracles can happen.
ETA: I hope that didn't come out insensitively. I am very sorry for all you're going through and all the sadness.

Oh, it didn't at all. I love hearing the success stories. My friend's mom has small cell lung cancer, so they knew it would be coming back. They just didn't know when, where, or to what extent. So, it was kind of a hit to the gut when it came back in the brain. She (my friend) just had a baby and both of her sisters are pregnant. They are hoping that her mom will be able to make it through the birth of two more grandchildren. Crying

libbyann · April 2011

(((hugs))) I'm so sorry, MC

flymansWife · April 2011

((((((((((( hugs )))))))))))))

OrangeFelt · April 2011

Sorry to hear.:(

FeistyFille · April 2011

mcurban:
You may remember that I decided not to go to BIL's wedding. DH's flight up there was 500 bucks. I refused to pay 2,000 bucks for our flight, $200+ per night for a hotel, rental car, etc. only to get there on Friday and fly out Sunday morning. Definitely used the cost of the flight as an excuse.
But, when my good friend said she wished I lived closer b/c she could really use a hug and someone to talk to who "knows" her, I booked a flight home for me and the boys. But, it's for week, so that's different, right? Tell me I won't be judged when I email my ILs and tell them. Bonus, though, it means that when DH flies up the following weekend (to help me get the boys back home) he'll be able to go to his sister's graduation (from her MD/PhD) AND be there for his goddaughter's baptism. So, not the same thing as a weekend trip, right?

(I already posted a response for this, but it's not here. Weird.)

As I was saying... IMHO, a friend in need trumps a wedding any day of the week. Of course, it'd be nice to be there and help celebrate with your BIL, but you'll be 1 of many, many people there. Whereas with your friend, you can give her some real quality one-on-one time when she greatly needs it.