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I am going crazy ... can't get over comment from pedi

1Mrs.Jones1Mrs.Jones
in March 2011 Moms

It's starting to be bad because she's sleeping longer at night and I'm actually sleeping less. It's like every day I fall more in love with her and get more afraid of how terrible it would be if something happened to her. At her 1 month check up, the pedi said "make sure that if she gets a fever you take her to the hospital. at 1 month she is getting tougher, but we still want to make sure she doesn't try to die on us"... I don't know why she said this, but I cried immediately, cried when I told my DH, and get teary when I think about it now. It was two weeks ago and I feel like it switched something in me and I have been having trouble with anxiety since then.

I keep waking up at night thinking LO is crying, but she's not. I have a great moniter, but I keep thinking it is broken. The moniter is not broken, because when she actually cries, it lights up and DH wakes up. When I think that it is broken and go check on her, she is always peacefully sleeping. I feel like before that comment, I had a normal level of mommy worry, but now I have a "can't sleep, think I hear her crying when she's not" abnormally high level of worry.

 

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  • eturpeturp member
    omg i would want to kill LO's pedi if they said that to me! I'm sorry, I know how it feels to be paranoid, it's hard not to when you get so attached to LO and love them so much! Do you know where pedi lives? I would egg their house if you do!
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  • Cristin23Cristin23

    Are you kidding me?

    It's like the time my OB told me that he delivered a stillborn and talked to me for 10 minutes about how I always needed to be aware of LO movements.

    I started drinking pop once every 2 hours just to ease my mind.


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  • Magical95Magical95 member
    geez. I get what he is saying, but awful wording!
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  • minzyminzy
    Have you had your post partum check yet with your OB?  I think you should mention your anxiety to him/her.
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  • pregaftertubalpregaftertubal
    wow, thats a bit of a harsh way to get a point accross!  geez, what a douchbag!  i do agree that you should mention your anxiety to your dr.  any help will be worth it.  and for your piece of mind, if you have it i would spend $100 and get the angelcare monitor.  it has given me a piece of mind that i can not even explain to you.  do some research if you want, but it will let you know if the baby stops breathing/moving for any reason whatsoever!  it's the best $100 we have ever spent!
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  • CHS2005CHS2005 member
    Talk to your dr but I would also recommend an angel care monitor. I literally do not sleep if we aren't using it and now we take it everywhere - vacation and all. 
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  • MarchABCMarchABC member
    So wrong of the pedi to say that! Remember, just because he got his MD doesn't mean he's smart and/or thinks before he speaks (although a kindergartner could tell you to do that). Yes, terrible things happen and I'm sure he sees sad things much more often than any of us would like to imagine, but that's because he's in medicine. There's no reason to think that these bad things will happen to your family. If you find that you think about it and just can't shake it for a couple of weeks, then you should take action. Otherwise, I can totally understand how something like that could get in your head. Sounds like your pedi needs to go back to kindergarten!  
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  • MissYouDietCokeMissYouDietCoke

    imageminzy:
    Have you had your post partum check yet with your OB?  I think you should mention your anxiety to him/her.

     

    I agree with this. 

    Baby Boy Born 3.15.11. 8lb 9oz, 21.75in. 6 month stats: 20lb 11oz (92%tile), 30.12in.(100%tile - who knew it went over 99th? Which means 100% of other 6 month olds are shorter than mine!)
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  • 1Mrs.Jones1Mrs.Jones

    imageminzy:
    Have you had your post partum check yet with your OB?  I think you should mention your anxiety to him/her.

    My OB and pedi are literally across the street from each other, so I had my OB appt. one hour before the pedi appointment where she said that ...

    I guess I will give it a couple weeks, and meanwhile talk to DH about getting the angelcare moniter. I had registered for it, but recieved a different one in a big box of hand me downs at my shower (the hand me down box was seperate than the gifts, but really nice and gave me a lot of useful stuff). I can make another appt w/ my OB if needed.

    I felt a little better last night- I think it helped to vent on here. I realize that I could move her back into our room at night, but she is doing great in her nursery so it would be for me, not for her, and I don't feel right about that.

    Eturp- maybe if we go egg her house, I will be cured. :-) love the idea ...

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  • LynsiBHMLynsiBHM

    OMG why don't people think before they speak?? There are about 100 better ways your pedi could have made that point!  I haven't had any comments like that, but literally did not sleep for the first 10 days LO was home.  Not because he was awake, but becuase if he was quiet I feared there was something wrong.  I am finally better now, but I know how you feel!  Just try to tune out that awful comment and use your mommy instincts. 

    oh, and egg the pedis house  :)

     

     

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  • pregaftertubalpregaftertubal
    imageDina Lynn (Jesse's Girl):

    imageminzy:
    Have you had your post partum check yet with your OB?  I think you should mention your anxiety to him/her.

    My OB and pedi are literally across the street from each other, so I had my OB appt. one hour before the pedi appointment where she said that ...

    I guess I will give it a couple weeks, and meanwhile talk to DH about getting the angelcare moniter. I had registered for it, but recieved a different one in a big box of hand me downs at my shower (the hand me down box was seperate than the gifts, but really nice and gave me a lot of useful stuff). I can make another appt w/ my OB if needed.

    I felt a little better last night- I think it helped to vent on here. I realize that I could move her back into our room at night, but she is doing great in her nursery so it would be for me, not for her, and I don't feel right about that.

    Eturp- maybe if we go egg her house, I will be cured. :-) love the idea ...

    it's SOOOOO most definately worth it!  i made my hubby drive me 40 mins to get it when LO was less than a week old because I was so nutsy cookooo about her sleeping.  and if she's already in her own room, your just going to take 10 steps backwards bringing her back into yours.  the monitor will work great in her own crib/room. 

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  • charley7charley7

    I don't even understand that pedi and how they could say something like that to a new parent?  Are you fricking kidding me??!!  I would SO get a new doctor but that's just my opinion...  Sounds morbid and inappropriate to me.  

    As the Donald would say, "You're fired!" (that's what I would tell pedi)

     

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  • Maggee206Maggee206
    I can;t believe she would say it so bluntly!  Also, you may want to call OB they can help with some of these anxiety.  I called because I was up all night b/c of awful nightmares. 
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