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Saying Hello....=(

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Today we went for our follow up US and received confirmation of a missed miscarriage (@ 6wks & 3days). DH and I have been trying to prepare ourselves after a previous US showing bradycardia, and plateaued Betas, but it was still a very emotional day. The D&C is scheduled for Wednesday, and I hope that will bring closure and help us move forward.

This was our first pregnancy, does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with the next few days? Or how to tell everyone there won't be a baby after all?

 

BFP #1 3/18/2011. EDD 11/27/2011. Missed M/C @ 9w1d 4/25/11. D&C 4/27/11. Anniversary
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  • RaeJ004RaeJ004 member

    I am so sorry for your loss :(  This is a great support system here!

    Telling people is the worst part.  DH and I told my family and my inlaws that I would prefer they tell everyone so I don't have to relay the story every time I see someone that doesn't know yet.  It made things easier for me.

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  • MrsCarebearMrsCarebear member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. (((Hugs))) My best advice for the next few days is if you can take the time just you and DH and grieve together and lean on eachother for support. I hope the D and C helps give you closure, it did for me, I just remember waking up from anesthesia crying (I guess this is quite common). We had to "untell" everyone as well since we thought everything was going well when we told them. I agree with PP, we called our parents and them relay the message, I did the same with work. I found it easier to hear the condolances when I saw them next than to tell the story out loud. I hope you find support on this board as well.
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  • chanteltbarrettchanteltbarrett

    I am sorry for your loss.  The next few days are going to be hard and I wish I had something to tell you about what to do.  Just take it one day at a time.

    As for telling people, I just told my parents and several of my close friends so I didn't have that many people to "untell", but those that did know passed the news amongst themselves, so I didn't have to keep telling about my loss. 

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  • meeko1985meeko1985

    I am sorry for your loss and what you are going through.  Those first few days are so hard, so much is going on physically and emotionally.  I was also pregnant with my first I had a natural miscarriage over a week ago and am just now feeling physically normal.  I cry everyday, but it is getting easier.  I don't have much advice about how to tell people.  Only my family knew and a few coworkers.  The coworkers and my boss - I emailed them about our loss. 

     


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  • FishNchips1FishNchips1 member
    Big Hugs... Im so very sorry for your loss.. Maybe just tell your parents and ask them to spread the word so you don't have to deal with the akward convos..
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  • hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    I don't know if it is a suggestion, but for the next few days/weeks, allow yourself to grieve the loss.  Anything you feel is normal and has been felt by someone on this board.  It is going to come in waves (fine one minute, upset the next), but you will make it to the other side of this nightmare.

    I actually found telling people about the loss wasn't that difficult. The way I thought about it is that by being open with my loss, maybe I can help someone in the future if they have a loss.

    Again, I am so sorry you are going through this.  I lost my first pregnancy too and can relate to how you feel. 

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  • LIa0909LIa0909
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    I am so sorry for your loss.

    I don't know if it is a suggestion, but for the next few days/weeks, allow yourself to grieve the loss.  Anything you feel is normal and has been felt by someone on this board.  It is going to come in waves (fine one minute, upset the next), but you will make it to the other side of this nightmare.

    I actually found telling people about the loss wasn't that difficult. The way I thought about it is that by being open with my loss, maybe I can help someone in the future if they have a loss.

    Again, I am so sorry you are going through this.  I lost my first pregnancy too and can relate to how you feel. 

    Exactly what she said. I don't know if my advice on untelling will be helpful as we were explaining the death of our child... but we called the moms, they called the rest of the family. And then after a couple of days of family and lots of tears, I had a strong moment and wrote an email that we sent out to the address books and posted on facebook. So sorry for your loss and know that we are here to support you during this horrible time.

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