I really need to vent! (nifr)

matt'sbride · April 2011

I am so over my SIL and BIL. They are the BIGGEST babies! Let's start with my BIL. He's 27 (so is SIL, twins) but acts like he's 17. He works at a dead end job because of his lack of ambition and he bltches and whines until he gets his way with everything. For example, we eat dinner with the whole family once a week. If we pick a place he doesn't like, he just won't come. He'll say he "has plans". He just picks and chooses when he wants to be a member of our family, but then expects everyone to drop everything when something's going on with him. UGH.

Now, on to SIL. In the past, I've loved her. She has lived in TX for the last 3 yrs and moved back last summer. And ever since she moved back, it's like we're all a part of the "SIL" show! She isn't a "look at me" person, but she has characteristics about her that require you to always take into account her feelings and likes/dislikes. For example, she's recently become a vegetarian. Because of this, we had to change the entire dynamic of our family dinner nights. They now, almost completely, revolve around what she deems edible. Not all of us are vegetarians! Don't turn your nose up because I want a chicken taco! Ugh. But wait, there's more...She has also recently decided that God is telling her to move to the a very bad area of town and do His work. Look, I'm all for spreading God's word, but there's doing God's work, and there's being a nut. She's a single, 100lb, nurse who works nights. In the real world, it's not a great idea to move to a place with an incredibly high crime rates! I'm seriously very concerned for her safety. I don't even feel like it's a question of IF she'll she robbed, but WHEN. Here's the kicker...MH's parents won't say a gd word to her about it! They just nod and smile, and help her find a place to live in the ghetto, while they tell us how concerned they are that this isn't a good choice. NO KIDDING. It's a terrible choice! But they just let her do it! I'm all for being a supportive parent, but your job is also to keep your kids safe.

Deep breath...feeling a little better. Thanks for letting me get that out. Oh, and tonight we're having dinner with the family and we'll be meeting the GUY who is responsible for getting her interested in moving to such a scary place to begin with. Can't. Wait.

madelyn07 · April 2011

I'm sorry. I know exactly what you are going through. DH's sister is the same way. Right down to the vegetarian/vegan/lap band/every diet under the sun thing.

I've never met ANYONE in my life who can't make up their mind about ANYTHING the way that she is. She meets random people on the internet and randomly moves where they live. When I first met DH she was living in Iowa with her girlfriend. They broke up, she met a guy online and moved three states away and married him less than 6 months later. They divorced, she moved home, met a girl online and moved across the country two weeks later.

And she's attended 6 different universities/community colleges and doesn't have a single degree or certificate. As someone who works in higher education, I'm floored that is even possible!

Families are tough. Sorry you are dealing with it all too...

Hope she stays safe. I have no idea what area of town you are referring to but I know there are some seriously sketchy areas..

matt'sbride · April 2011

madelyn07:

I'm sorry. I know exactly what you are going through. DH's sister is the same way. Right down to the vegetarian/vegan/lap band/every diet under the sun thing.

I've never met ANYONE in my life who can't make up their mind about ANYTHING the way that she is. She meets random people on the internet and randomly moves where they live. When I first met DH she was living in Iowa with her girlfriend. They broke up, she met a guy online and moved three states away and married him less than 6 months later. They divorced, she moved home, met a girl online and moved across the country two weeks later.

And she's attended 6 different universities/community colleges and doesn't have a single degree or certificate. As someone who works in higher education, I'm floored that is even possible!

Families are tough. Sorry you are dealing with it all too...

Hope she stays safe. I have no idea what area of town you are referring to but I know there are some seriously sketchy areas..

I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like this too. I don't know how familiar with the area you are, but she's wanting to live in the Ensley/Fairfield area. I can't think of a more dangerous, crime-ridden area in the state.

madelyn07 · April 2011

matt'sbride:
madelyn07:

I'm sorry. I know exactly what you are going through. DH's sister is the same way. Right down to the vegetarian/vegan/lap band/every diet under the sun thing.

I've never met ANYONE in my life who can't make up their mind about ANYTHING the way that she is. She meets random people on the internet and randomly moves where they live. When I first met DH she was living in Iowa with her girlfriend. They broke up, she met a guy online and moved three states away and married him less than 6 months later. They divorced, she moved home, met a girl online and moved across the country two weeks later.

And she's attended 6 different universities/community colleges and doesn't have a single degree or certificate. As someone who works in higher education, I'm floored that is even possible!

Families are tough. Sorry you are dealing with it all too...

Hope she stays safe. I have no idea what area of town you are referring to but I know there are some seriously sketchy areas..

I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like this too. I don't know how familiar with the area you are, but she's wanting to live in the Ensley/Fairfield area. I can't think of a more dangerous, crime-ridden area in the state.

Yikes. Really?

Indifferent

Umm..wow.

matt'sbride · April 2011

madelyn07:
matt'sbride:
madelyn07:

I'm sorry. I know exactly what you are going through. DH's sister is the same way. Right down to the vegetarian/vegan/lap band/every diet under the sun thing.

I've never met ANYONE in my life who can't make up their mind about ANYTHING the way that she is. She meets random people on the internet and randomly moves where they live. When I first met DH she was living in Iowa with her girlfriend. They broke up, she met a guy online and moved three states away and married him less than 6 months later. They divorced, she moved home, met a girl online and moved across the country two weeks later.

And she's attended 6 different universities/community colleges and doesn't have a single degree or certificate. As someone who works in higher education, I'm floored that is even possible!

Families are tough. Sorry you are dealing with it all too...

Hope she stays safe. I have no idea what area of town you are referring to but I know there are some seriously sketchy areas..

I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like this too. I don't know how familiar with the area you are, but she's wanting to live in the Ensley/Fairfield area. I can't think of a more dangerous, crime-ridden area in the state.

Yikes. Really?

Umm..wow.

I KNOW, right!?! That's why I'm so concerned!

gervaisj6 · April 2011

Hey, I was thinking if she works at Cooper Green-she can minister to people on her job-that area is bad...atleast she will have security guards there...And madelyn's comment about the professional student....I know someone that it took 11 years to get a 2 year degree.. Argh... Some people!

illinigal · April 2011

Ugh. So sorry you have to deal with that. I'd be really tempted to speak up about her moving to a bad part of town. She may be mad now, but hopefully she'll see the light and thank you someday.

Bella2u07 · April 2011

illinigal:
Ugh. So sorry you have to deal with that. I'd be really tempted to speak up about her moving to a bad part of town. She may be mad now, but hopefully she'll see the light and thank you someday.

My thoughts too!

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. (((hugs)))

Sunshine05 · April 2011

matt'sbride:
I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like this too. I don't know how familiar with the area you are, but she's wanting to live in the Ensley/Fairfield area. I can't think of a more dangerous, crime-ridden area in the state.

Wow, I'm sorry you guys have to deal with her nonsense. I can't believe she wants to move to that area. Go out and do your ministry during the day, no reason you have to live there too. DH hates when he has to work in that area alone when it's dark outside... and he's definitely not a 100 lb. single gal working nights and living alone... she's nuts!

gervaisj6 · April 2011

That reminds me too, my sister had to drive out that way for her work, and the cops pulled her over, asked what she was doing, told her it wasn't safe there, and they could escort her to her destination...

madelyn07 · April 2011

gervaisj6:
That reminds me too, my sister had to drive out that way for her work, and the cops pulled her over, asked what she was doing, told her it wasn't safe there, and they could escort her to her destination...

Surprise

Oh my...

I knew it was bad but, wow..

gervaisj6 · April 2011

Yeah, her office is in mountainbrook, and she lives in vestavia-they knew she wasn't from that area...and they were right!

Mandy_Lou83 · April 2011

matt'sbride:
madelyn07:

I'm sorry. I know exactly what you are going through. DH's sister is the same way. Right down to the vegetarian/vegan/lap band/every diet under the sun thing.

I've never met ANYONE in my life who can't make up their mind about ANYTHING the way that she is. She meets random people on the internet and randomly moves where they live. When I first met DH she was living in Iowa with her girlfriend. They broke up, she met a guy online and moved three states away and married him less than 6 months later. They divorced, she moved home, met a girl online and moved across the country two weeks later.

And she's attended 6 different universities/community colleges and doesn't have a single degree or certificate. As someone who works in higher education, I'm floored that is even possible!

Families are tough. Sorry you are dealing with it all too...

Hope she stays safe. I have no idea what area of town you are referring to but I know there are some seriously sketchy areas..

I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like this too. I don't know how familiar with the area you are, but she's wanting to live in the Ensley/Fairfield area. I can't think of a more dangerous, crime-ridden area in the state.

Ensley! You got to be kidding me!! My DH was shot at in Ensley when he was younger.

So sorry your having to deal with this!

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