Those who didn't take your husband's last name...

LauraOTR · April 2011

..what will your baby's last name be? Will it just be his, or are you hyphenating? I can't believe I've barely thought about this, and that DH and I haven't even discussed it. I guess in my mind until now, I was thinking the baby would just take his, but now I'm considering if we should hyphenate. I really don't like the way it sounds hyphenated, but I'm wondering if I will regret not having my last name included with his....hmmmm.

supermom83 · April 2011

My maiden name already has a hyphen in it so it would have been ridiculous to have my son have two hyphens in his name!

So our son has DHs last name and I think it's wonderful. It's also tradition in my culture that women do not change their last name and all children have the fathers name, so I guess it was a no-brainer for me.

I think if you and your DHs last names hyphenated looks and sounds fine then maybe you could consider it, but if it becomes too long or sounds very heavy then maybe not? I've also seen people give the mothers maiden name as the middle name though not all last names would work that way. Just a thought. Good luck with your decision!

ekfritsche · April 2011

I took DH's last name but my mother didn't take my father's last name. My siblings and I just ended up with two middle names... Which basically just meant that we all had freakishly long names that no one wanted to have to write out. Made signing legal documents a real pain until I changed my name when I married (I removed both last names from my name when I married).

caruso_60 · April 2011

My DS has my DH's last name and my last name for his middle name. My last name is often used for first names, so it sounds like a normal middle name.

ChristinaMT4 · April 2011

Our son and this baby have my husband's last name. My first two sons have my last name. When I was pregnant with my 3rd we were going to give him my last name so that all the kids would be the same. (hyphenating wasn't an option for us since we both have long last names). About a week before he was born I decided to give the baby his last name. I gave it a lot of thought and made the decision under no pressure from anyone, including him. I'm glad I didn't just do it because it was expected, but did it for my own reasons. If you want to pass down your name then talk to your husband about it and try and come up with a solution that you're both happy with. There are a lot of options.

sunset+skies · April 2011

I eventually decided to take DH's last name several months after the wedding, but had I not, LO was still going to have DH's last name.

tkspilot · April 2011

Our LO will have DH's last name. If we have a boy I'm thinking about having my maiden name as his one and only Middle name, we haven't decided on it yet. (the name is a bit too strong for a girl's middle name)

JuneBug0611 · April 2011

tkspilot:
Our LO will have DH's last name. If we have a boy I'm thinking about having my maiden name as his one and only Middle name, we haven't decided on it yet. (the name is a bit too strong for a girl's middle name)

This is our plan too.

kas80 · April 2011

I did take my husband's last name, but a couple people I know who didn't went the route of girls get the wife's last name and the boys get the husband's. I would think it would be confusing, but it seems to work for them.

mesr · April 2011

we hyphenated dd's last name.

i was worried about what that would look like, so we tried it out on the cats for a few years before we decided to reproduce. by the time dd was born, i'd gotten used to the hyphenated name.

runnergrl6675 · April 2011

tkspilot:
Our LO will have DH's last name. If we have a boy I'm thinking about having my maiden name as his one and only Middle name, we haven't decided on it yet. (the name is a bit too strong for a girl's middle name)

I use my husbands last name but our baby's middle name is my maiden name.

asl71476 · April 2011

Our baby will have my husband's last name. I have a three syllable greek last name, and he's got a funky italian last name. Hyphenating would have been a mouthful! Plus, I think my in-laws would never get over it if the baby didn't have their last name. They weren't at ALL pleased when I kept my name. They've made a ton of comments about how people might not find our registry because they'll be searching for his last name. Um, the shower invitation very clearly gave both last names...but I digress....

flows912 · April 2011

LO will have my husband's last name. I don't plan on using my last name as his middle name. Eventually I may choose to hyphenate mine.

Melissa2216 · April 2011

flows912:
LO will have my husband's last name. I don't plan on using my last name as his middle name. Eventually I may choose to hyphenate mine.

This, except I may end up taking MH's last name once I am no longer teaching and I'm a SAHM. Hyphenating does not work with our names.

LauraOTR · April 2011

Thanks everyone for the input, it's good to hear about what others are doing. I'm think I'm leaning toward just giving our kiddo DH's last name. I don't love the hyphenated last name for our child, though might hyphenate mine eventually, just so I don't have to 100% give up my last name, but will still have his/our child's.

klv · April 2011

I didnt take DH's name. The baby and any future kids will have his last name. I really done have a problem with it.

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