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IOmommy2005
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anything I need to know about R&R
IOmommy2005
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My DH will be coming home sometime in the future for 15 days for R&R and didnt know if there anything particular I need to know.....This is our first deployment so anything will be helpful 
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Re: anything I need to know about R&R
Have fun, but don't plan too much. Keep it low-key and follow his lead. If he wants to hang with family and friends go for it, or if he wants to travel and get out and do things every day plan for that, but if he would rather sit at home with you and your son for 15 days, let him.
And whatever you do, enjoy the present time together, and don't dwell on the fact that he'll be leaving again shortly. Make the most of every day.
Haha, I do love the comfy factor, but I'm only "allowed" to use it after the kids are in bed. That is THEIR blanket that was given to them by Daddy when he was home on leave (ok that they pretty much stole from him), and they will cut you if you try to use it.
At least they share it nicely between the two of them though, so I can't complain much.
Every time my DH has come home on R&R we seriously don't do anything. At all. But, if you do plan something.. don't get upset if he doesn't want to. Depending on your DH.. you really just have to play everything by ear.
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It really depends on him. Last time we didn't do anything, just stayed at the house. This time he wants to get away, and take a vacation instead of sitting at the house. So we are going camping. It's our kind of vacation. It will nice and relaxing.
I had a friend that rented a beach cottage for a week, and they wished they had rented for the whole 2 weeks.
Ask him what he wants.
All PPs had the best advice: don't plan and ask him what he wants. When I deployed and came home on R&R, I did what I wanted to do. Depending on his work situation overseas, he may want to be the owner of his destiny for the next two weeks.
Definitely have some ideas if he seems overwhelmed, but try not to be disappointed if he doesn't want to do anything at all except veg and love on his family.
Enjoy your leave time together!
Army Girl, been in since Feb 2003 married to an Army Man, in since 1990.
Have his favorite comfort food ready, even if he doesn't ask for it (option overload will often result in dozens of "Uhhh, I don't know" answers!). We eat very healthy food in general, and DH's redeployment food is hot dogs and Kraft mac & cheese. Disgusting, but it's his thing, so we always eat it the first night.
Ditto to the don't overplan suggestions.
And be prepared for an odd dissociation at first. Literally the first time I saw DH in the airport, it was "ooh, there he is! Wait, that's not him. Yes it is. He looks a little different. But it's him! Right? Here we go..." For us, it wasn't a big makeout session with mad sex as soon as we got home. It was sortof a tentative physical reunion. Kissing felt a little funny, and the first day or two we needed to just be near each other and break back into our routine. So if that happens for you, you're not the only one! It doesn't mean you didn't miss him or love him or cry for him in the past months. Plus, he's adjusting to having a toddler who he doesn't know well.
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Yes I agree with everyone as well! Just let him decide what he wants to do. It is hard to not dwell on how much time you have left while they are home but, think of it as another day closer to when they will be home for good!
My DH and I are planning a get out of town mini vacation and going to sit on our bums for 3 days straight and do nothing but enjoy each other. We are going to turn the cell phones off and take a break from reality! I can't wait!
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August 2012: HSG - All Clear
September 2012: Timed Intercourse 100 mg Clomid CD 4-8 w/ Repronex & HCG Injections = BFN
October 2012: Timed Intercourse 100 mg Clomid CD 4-8 = BFN
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