Looking back - How did you tell DH?

JayElleJayCee · April 2011

I was looking back at my pictures today when I came across a pic of a very special box... Now that we are all so close, it just reminded me of how far we have come.

The box in the picture is how I told DH that we were expecting. I called off of work for the day because I had a feeling that I was pregnant. That morning I took 2 tests and then went back out for a 3rd just to be sure.. All of them positive. My best friend told me to tell DH in a special way because she regretted just telling hers. So off I went on a scavenger hunt for a nb onesie that said I love my daddy. I went EVERYWHERE! My last stop was a resale place called Once Upon a Child. I found not one but two perfect onesies! One said Little Buddy on it. *DH and I call each other Bud or Buddy instead of Babe or Baby. It couldn't get better than that. I also finally found one that said I Love My Daddy. I put them in the box with all 3 positive tests and a letter.

Not sure if this is gonna work.. never added a PIP before..

Looking back - how did find out you were expecting? How did you break the news to DH / SO??

denall · April 2011

My hubs is a photography junkie. Nice cameras, collects old cameras too (oldest one we have has wooden parts!) Anywho, so I took photos that day with our nice SLR, and decided amongst the photos I took, a photo of the multiple pregnancy tests I had taken would be thrown in there. So when he got home from work I made him look through the photos and to give me his opinion (artistically) only to stumble upon the reveal photo amongst all the others! He just paused, had this quiet demeanor about himself, smiled, and... well kept his thoughts to himself for the rest of the day. He was shocked but once that wore off he has been SOOOO happy and thrilled. In fact, he is probably more excited than I am most days.

ha ha.

Pookie's_Girl · April 2011

That is such a sweet way of telling him! I didn't get to tell MH, he ended up telling me! It was about a week from Halloween and we had just gotten back from the mall at night. MH was bugging me nonstop to take a pg test since I hadn't gotten my period yet, but I honestly didn't think I was. (My periods have always been horrifically irregular when I'm not on the pill.) So I went into the bathroom and took one just to shut him up. I didn't even sit in there to see the results, I just set it on the sink to ferment while I got something to snack on. DH went into the bathroom after me to go pee, and, after I heard him finish, I heard him come running out of the bathroom. I think I knew what it was going to say, even though I refused to believe it at first. Simply because there would be only one reason he would come running out of there. DH shoved it in my face and it took a few seconds (although it felt like a lot longer at the time) for it to register in my mind that it said "Pregnant" instead of "Not Pregnant," like I was expecting. I just stared at it, stunned, and he held me close. He was ecstatic about it, but I refused to believe it until I took another one, which also came out positive. And, after 8 months, it's started to sink in. Stick out tongue

Syncronicity09 · April 2011

I looked everywhere for an "I love my daddy" Onesie or bib but couldn't find one. I finally found a teething toy that said it and bought that. I had planned this before I got pregnant, so I had it on hand the morning I got my BFP. I put the toy and both tests (I took 2 because I couldn't believe it) on the counter for him to find when he went in to brush his teeth.

JayElleJayCee · April 2011

@ Denall - That is so cute!! Definately a good idea. DH was shocked too... haha. He didn't exactly have the reaction I was hoping for (we were in the middle of planning our wedding - not a baby lol) but after a few days - he was also more excited than me. I think he was more worried about what his parents were gonna say since were not married yet more than the fact that we were having a baby.

@ Pookie - I think it's cute he was so excited for you to take one. I laughed imagining the scene play out. lol

@MrsPrevost - I could not believe how freakin hard it was to find an I Love My Daddy onsie!! It was insane! I went everywhere! Poor daddies out there... haha

kevinslove · April 2011

I had a feeling that I was pregnant, but I wasn't sure because we had only been trying for 1 month. I took the first test and it came back with a faint line, but I was still 4 days before I was supposed to miss my period so I didn't say anything. I took another test a couple of days later, and it was a faint line again. I showed DH, and he didn't believe me (said that he couldn't see the line and that it was just wishful thinking). I took a 3rd one the next day, and he still said that he couldn't see the line. So, the next day (the day I was supposed to get my period) I took a digital test and it said +yes. I went in to the bedroom, woke up my husband, said "see, I told you so" and then went to work. I was really annoyed that he didn't believe me the first 3 times and he didn't seem very excited (I think he was thinking it would take more than 1 month and was hoping it would have). Not very romantic, but that's how it happened.

Sunidaze · April 2011

I woke him up at around 5ish in the morning I was getting ready to go to the gym). I had already taken two tests a couple of days prior, but it was just the cheap storebrand tests that I used so I bought a digital one just to be sure. I woke him up, told him and while he was still in shock, I finished getting ready and headed to the gym.

I do not regret not going overboard in telling him.

CarlaAndJames · April 2011

Nothing that elaborate!

I had taken a lot of negative tests in the year prior, and it was the first month we were on Clomid, and he knew that it was the first possible day that a test could show I was pregnant (he begged me to wait a few more days so I didn't get a false negative and end up disappointed again!) The line was faint. So basically I woke him up, shoved the stick in his face, and said "Do you see a line, or am I imagining it??" He just started crying and gave me a big hug.

M&M227 · April 2011

I was not so creative. I was pretty sure I was not pregnant because I had been spotting for a couple of days. 10 days past ovulation came and the spotting had basically gone away and my temperature went up so I used and internet cheapie and dumped out my first morning urine because I was sure it would be negative (usually I would wait so I could use it to confirm with another test). I was getting ready for work in our bedroom and had the test on the counter, DH was in the guest bathroom getting ready. I kept looking back at the test and swore I saw a super faint line. When DH came into the room he asked about the test and I showed him and asked him if he saw it too. I expected him to tell me I was nuts and that there was no line, but he confirmed that he saw it too. So he said "What does this mean" and my response was "that your going to be a daddy!" I was too excited when TTC and could never test without him knowing.

SpceCadet · April 2011

I might be the odd one out here, but I only took one at-home test. I guess I was convinced!

After taking the test, I went out and bought iron-on paper and a blank white onesie. DH and I were dressing up as Dr. Seuss' Thing 1 and Thing 2. I created a "Thing 3" and stuck it onto the onesie, wrapped it up and attached a monkey finger puppet. DH calls his niece and nephew "the little monkeys" all the time, so I thought it was appropriate to include something with a monkey too.

DH opened the present and was in shock, despite having gotten help from our RE. He was so convinced the test was incorrect, he went and peed on a stick himself to be sure it wasn't a faulty batch.

actresscye · April 2011

I was terrible to DH. I was just sooo excited about the possibility of getting pregnant that as SOON as a saw a light faint line at like 8 DPO, I woke him up out of bed to tell him. Every day it got darker, I woke him up and told him. Finally I took a digital one at around 12 DPO while I was at work, took a picture of it on my phone, and texted it to him. It was so anticlimactic. I didn't feel bad at all. I was spending so much money on strips and tests that I couldn't hold it in.

NEXT time I will make it more special. I think I'll even keep the gender part away from him. I suck at it.

aanchor · April 2011

MH was working afternoons when I took my test. We had only been trying for 2 months so I wasn?t really expecting to be PG. I took the first test and only one line came up so I went into the kitchen to poor myself a glass of wine. After a few minutes I had a funny feeling so I went to the garbage and took the test out for another look (gross, I know). There it was, the 2 pink lines. I took another big gulp of my wine and poured the rest down the sink, went back to the bathroom and took another test to be sure. Anyway, a week or so before this I had bought a cute onsie that said My Daddy Rocks for when the time came that I actually got pregnant. So when he came home that night I handed him the onsie and he just looked at me and said ?we're already buying baby clothes?. It totally went over his head, I burst into tears and finally spit out the words. I will never forget the look on his face, he was in total shock. After being on the pill for 15 years we expected it to take at least 6 months!! We went out the next day and bought 2 more tests of a different brand just to be sure, in total it took 4 tests for it to really sink in for both of us.

JayElleJayCee · April 2011

awww.. I love reading all of these stories! That day is so special that it doesn't matter how it was told. I feel like most of the men had the same reaction! lol. It always kills me how scared they get when we are the ones who have to deal with it all first hand! hahaha.

celiabeth · April 2011

I didn't think we were pregnant because it was the first month we were trying and didn't feel any symptoms, but because I know I ovulated I was pretty sure my period was late. I'm a worrier so I took a test early in the morning and it was positive (faint two lines). I told DH, who was sleeping, and he said "oh good" and went back to sleep. For me, for the next hour or two before it was time to get up I was the one who was shocked and had trouble falling back to sleep. I wanted this; I just didn't think it would be so easy (I know it wasn't for many of you).

heie0008 · April 2011

We were out of town at my brother's wedding and I brought the test with...we were leaving town very early on monday (the soonest I could test)...so of course its 4:30 am and I have to pee super bad so I go into the hotel bathroom and take the test (expecting it to be negative of course)...I was so shocked when I got back 2 lines!

Then I didn't know what to do because we weren't going to wake up for another 1/2 hour or so and I couldn't plan any cute way to tell him (there was no way I could keep this a secret until we flew back)...so i grabbed DH's phone which was charging in the bathroom and set it as his background image and went back to bed....I just waited for him stumble across it after he woke up

kbel424 · April 2011

I wish that I had done something cute but I had to tell him as soon as I saw the test because of the previous m/c's and me being so scared to death of another one. I took a picture of the positive test and sent it to him. He was at work and isn't usually available to talk on the phone when I call, so I knew that would prompt him to call me. He was just as cautious as I was until we got out of 1st tri! The last time we had a BFP, I had made cupcakes with pink and blue frosting, but it didn't turn out well so this time was more simple!

MommaA117 · April 2011

not very original but I called him at work and told him.

aniceucchik · April 2011

It was our first cycle trying so I wasnt the least bit expecting a BFP since it took us 11 months to get a sticky bfp with Jacob. I still tested with a $tree at 10dpo, just because. I tested and didnt see anything so I just sat it down and went on with my day. My mother was in town, so that kept me busy.

IDK if it was that same day or the next, but I just happened to look at the test again and I saw the faintest of all things faint and I was like, oh its an evap line at this point. I mentioned it to DH and he looked at it and agreed that he saw something there. So then I proceeded to test numerous more times until I got a pinker line. No excting reveal this time, more shock that it happened so fast.

MommaG123 · April 2011

I took a HPT while he was at work on a Saturday because I wanted to dye my hair and was a couple days late so I just thought I'd check and it came back positive! Smile So I took a pic of the positive test with the camera and then I took a couple of cute pictures of my puppies and I and met DH for lunch. I told him I had some cute pics on my camera of the dogs he should see and he was flipping through them and then got to the pics of the positive HPT and he just kind of froze and looked up at me and said "are you kidding me?" over and over. It was super cute! He wanted to like announce it to the whole restaurant but luckily I talked him out of that.

MrsAllison33 · April 2011

He actually told me lol

My period was a week late, my boobs hurt and I was having period like cramps with no period so I had a strong feeling I was but we were trying for 7 months and I didn't want to be disappointed again but I took a HPT and he told me not to look at it. I left it on the counter and he went in and he came into the livingroom where I was and he was like "Well...you're not..." and I was like "I figured." Then he's like "Yeah..not gonna have a baby until 9 months goes by!" and I was like "SHUT UP" lol

bookkitten · April 2011

We weren't trying yet, but I just had a feeling (in fact, I even told my baby niece - who did not yet talk - before I was even late that I thought she would have a cousin soon!), so one day after my period was due, I went and got some tests. I took one and it was positive. I didn't even think of taking another, just called the doctor to make an appointment for a few days later to confirm.

That day, we had received a gift card from a brew pub we had gone to on our honeymoon (this was a honeymoon baby!). So, when he got home, I told him I had some good news. I said we had a gift card from the Grumpy Troll and, even better, he'd be able to try a bunch of different beers since I wouldn't be drinking for a while. He said, "Oh, Hell." Ha! Then he apologized and hugged me.

He told me later that he had been wondering if I was pregnant because I had suddenly started getting super sleepy all the time.

It didn't even occur to me to try to think of some clever, memorable way to tell him!

LollyBug18 · April 2011

Fun post Smile

I told DH by wrapping up a onesie that says "I love Daddy". It wasn't hard for me to find at all, I feel like there are tons of daddy clothes out there and not much for mommy! He was more amused that I had tested earlier than he thought I should than he was surprised or anything. Pretty much since ovulation I had had a feeling that that was THE cycle and I had shared that with him (and my "picture-perfect" chart) so he wasn't very caught off guard. He confessed later that he had hoped the little box the onesie was in was actually lingerie, lol!

SarahP15 · April 2011

My periods are ridiculously normal - every 28 days without fail. We tried for one month, and to my surprise my period didn't come. The following day I got home from work, we went to the store together, I peed on the stick and left the bathroom. DH went in there a couple minutes later and said "uh, babe...come here" and showed me the "+ yes". I think both of us were in shock that it happened so quickly so we just hugged and kissed and went on with our night. I think for the next one I will want to surprise him somehow.

justme04 · April 2011

When I was pregnant with DS I picked DH up from work and took him out to lunch and told him over the meal. It was especially sweet when DH said I could have just sent him a picture test of the positive test.

So this time I sent him a photo message of the positive test with a message that read "looks like its time for round 2"

My DH isnt really into sappy things.

gymnst1013 · April 2011

I had been testing out my trigger shot from IVF so I had been getting positives for something like 6 days. No way of knowing if it was still the trigger or the real thing. The trigger tests were getting lighter as the trigger left my system so starting around 5dp3dt (8 dpo), every morning I would have him compare the test to the test from the day before to see if it was getting darker or lighter. We decided that 6dp3dt was no longer trigger and was a positive test instead. Very unexciting.

Hbowers16 · April 2011

I love once upon a child!

Emcat1980@yahoo.com · April 2011

With DS I crawled into bed and woke him up at 5 AM and said "I think I'm pregnant!" We were not trying/not preventing....and I was a little freaked out! I was crying and laughing at the same time and asking "Is this a good thing?"

With this one, we had JUST started trying. He left town for a conference and while he was gone I tested --- so DS and I picked him up from the airport with DS in a "Big Bro" t-shirt. The big grin on H's face when he saw it is a priceless memory.

Bran_ham · April 2011

I think with DS's pg I wrapped the + pg test and gave it to him. With this one I tried to surprise him by telling him I had something for him. I had it clenched in my fist and told him to hold his hand out so I could give him the surprise. He freaked out before I dropped the test in his hand so it landed on the table instead. Guess he thought I was going to drop a dead bug in his hand or something. That kind of ruined the surprise, but he was shocked.

Turtle143 · April 2011

Ours was a shock. We were having unexplained infertility for over 3 years.

After our vacation abroad, I was sent out of state by work for a conference, then the day after I got back, I had an appointment with an OB/GYN to try to work me up for endometriosis. I was sure I had it with my history of painful cramps and other symptoms.

OB then sends me to get a pelvic ultrasound, the next few days I had the US done, and that's when the technician told me I was actually 5 weeks and 5 days pregnant then. I was completely shocked. She had a radiologist take a look at it and they confirmed it was an embryonic sac in there! She advised I get a HPT in case I needed more convincing (LOL) so I picked one up on the way home and as I was just done viewing the result, DH comes home from work asking me how my US appointment went and I just told him "well we're kinda.....umm pregnant" and I told him what happened and then showed him the stick! LOL He was really shocked, we both were. We were so scared to even be happy after having TTC for over 3 years! For days we were in denial or something. We were both trying not to even look or sound overjoyed then until our first appointment with the OB at 8 weeks and we saw the little flicker of the heart beat. That is when we really allowed ourselves to at least be a little happy that it was real! But because we weren't past the first trimester yet, we were always so cautious about feeling "too happy." It was kind of miserable and exciting at the same time for us in the first trimester.

cookierlr1 · April 2011

I wish I had a sweet story... but it doesn't always work that way when you are not expecting it. DH actually told me..."Honey you don't have a stomach bug and your period is definetly late..go take a test" I was out of town and under a ton of stress because I was taking care of my mother who had major surgery so I figured it was the stress.. then mom told me I was pregnant and to go get a test... Yep sure enough they were right, I had to call DH and tell him over the phone because I wasn't going to see him for another week...We laugh about it now that we aren't in shock that were going to be parents : )

Sazhrah · April 2011

We weren't going to have any more kids but SIL and BIL had recently told us they were expecting their first child. A couple of weeks after we were talking and ultimately decided that we should start trying for another one. I have very irregular periods so I never have been "late". It comes when it comes. Anyway, I decided to take a test just so I can start documenting when I took one and when my period started. No biggy. I had the digital test and it came back inconclusive. So i tried another one, same thing. It was getting annoying. So, after work I went and got some regular tests, the ones with the lines.

I took the test and immediately saw the first line. Not faint, and didn't even take 30 seconds. I think my heart stopped beating for a minute. I knew EXACTLY what that meant. I ran downstairs and showed DH. He said "that can't be true". I told him I would take one again in the morning but that I was pregnant. I took another one the next morning and woke him up going "SEEEEEEE?".

Come to find out I was already 6 weeks pregnant. We call him our time traveling baby.

kas80 · April 2011

I was told by every gyn I'd seen since I was 18 that I would never be able to have kids without fertility treatments/help because I very rarely ovulate. As in I get maybe one or two periods a year, at the most. Many years I don't get my period at all.

So, it was not at all on our radar- our plan had been to wait a few years into our marriage and then fill out adoption paperwork. Then I got a bunch of really strange symptoms like becoming allergic to random things that I never was before (like my shampoo) and I remembered that back when I worked at Dairy Queen in college when the manager was pregnant she became allergic to random stuff like her wedding ring, so I took a test. It was positive.

I wish we had a cute story, but honestly it had been 8 months since I had a period, I never thought I could get pregnant at all so I was freaked out and texted my husband that something was wrong. I have a lot of urinary tract/bladder/kidney issues so first we thought it was bladder cancer (which can cause false pregnancy test positives), that's how sure we were that I couldn't get pregnant. Then after it was confirmed that it was not cancer and I was indeed pregnant we were terrified (as was my obgyn) that I was quite a bit along without realizing it. I was having "I didn't know I was pregnant" images in my head along with running a reel of every "bad" thing I had done in the last 6+ months.

Luckily, my body knew something was up and alerted me to the impossible only about 5/6 weeks in. I have no idea how that happened, but I'm thankful it did. It took us about 6 ultrasounds and 4 months to calm down about the whole thing.

Not the best scenario overall and I really wish we had a cutesy moment.

kimeve · April 2011

We weren't trying, we had been using natural family planning, and we had slipped up a few times, so a few days after I was supposed to have my period I had a feeling. I took an old test that I had, assumed it was wrong and went and bought more. After 3 tests, I called DH. I asked him if he was somewhere he could talk, he gave me his jolly "Sure. What's up?" And I told him. He said "Hold On" and moved to a more private location while I proceeded to cry. He was really really sweet about it considering we were wanting to wait about 4 more years!

TashaK2011 · April 2011

I bought a bib that said I love daddy and put it in a gift bag and handed it to DH. He was so excited to get a present. He opened it and just said "Oh that's cute". He didn't get it. Soo I pull out the 2 positive tests, still had to ask me if it meant I was pregnant. Sometimes he can be thick headed lol.

It probably didn't help that he was still getting ready to go see the fertility specialist to help us get pregnant. I had called and canceled the apt without telling him so he thought it was still a go. I had gotten the positive tests while out of town at my dad and step-mothers and gave him this "gift" when I got back before the time the apt would have been.

I also found bibs that said I love my grandma and grandpa to tell my mom and step-dad and another grandma one for DH's mom. Everyone was so excited

cvl105 · April 2011

I took a test...he was in the bathroom when it turned pink and I said to him "um, I think I'm pregnant". haha We then went to target to get a digital to confirm.

RobinSparkles81 · April 2011

Turtle143:
We were so scared to even be happy after having TTC for over 3 years! For days we were in denial or something. We were both trying not to even look or sound overjoyed then until our first appointment with the OB at 8 weeks and we saw the little flicker of the heart beat. That is when we really allowed ourselves to at least be a little happy that it was real! But because we weren't past the first trimester yet, we were always so cautious about feeling "too happy." It was kind of miserable and exciting at the same time for us in the first trimester.

I COMPLETELY understand...in fact even now it's not totally easy to feel "confident" that my body won't let me down....

did you ever find out about the endo? I hope you don't but may be worth getting a laporascopy to find out after baby is born...endo sucks!!!

RobinSparkles81 · April 2011

We did IVF and so I was very good and avoided testing during the wait between my embryo transfer and my beta test (about 10days)....We went in for the blood test in the morning and were told they would call us later that day with the results.

It was the LOOOOONGEST wait ever and every time the phone rand my stomach would do flips. I told DH that I didn't want to answer the phone...I couldn't bear to hear them say I wasn't pregnant. So when they called he picked up and said I wasn't available. I could see him searching grab a pad and paper and try not to show any feeling on his face...he was great cause he even went outside so I wouldn't hear anything. When he came back in I was shaking and he had a huge smile on his face and said "hey Mommy!" I kept saying that he had better not be lying to me...I really didn't believe it worked. He came over and hugged me and kissed me and we both just cried tears of joy. After nearly 3 years the impossible had happened. He started shouting "wooohoooo!" all through the house then he ran out and bought me some hpt. I peed on them and the second line came up pretty much right away...i couldn't believe it...I NEVER EVER EVER thought I would see that second line. It was a moment neither of us will ever forget.

monkeysmama62 · April 2011

It was September 25 the day before our first wedding anniversary. I was deciding on an idea for a tattoo that I wanted to get (it was going to be my present from DH). We were talking about it when all of a sudden it popped in my head that you can't get a tattoo while pregnant an we had recently been going at it like rabbits an not using any protection. So I tried thinking back to my last MS an when I relized that I couldn't thats when I knew I had to take a HPT. While I was waiting for the results is when I told DH about not being able to remember my last MS. His response concisted of looking at me terrified and telling me that he'll kill me if I am pregnant. It was priceless honestly. When I went back to look at the results my heart stopped. There was the faintest line. I even questioned myself an asked DH if there was the second line or were my eyes just letting me see what I wanted to. He said there was a second line but it was faint so he didn't trust it an wanted to get a digital one. So he went out in the middle of the night to get the digital test which immediately said positive.

kattyleigh · April 2011

Love love love this thread! No matter how it happened, it still was a moment we will all never forget. Gives me chills. We had only been trying one month and DH made me POAS just because he was anxious. I quickly did it and handed it to him before I saw it. He was sitting on the couch holding DD. After the three minutes was up, I said, "so?". And he said (sarcastically) "well how do you read it?" and handed it back. It was so nonchalant, though totally unexpected. I think we were just both so scared that 2 under 2 was going to be a reality sooner than we expected.

Want a personalized experience?

Looking back - How did you tell DH?

Re: Looking back - How did you tell DH?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards