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Here's why ex h makes me sad.

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ex h is on "spring break" drinking bender with his bff from college in hotlanta.  Which is fine, life the life you want, right?  But personally, I'd rather stick rusty nails in my eyes than EVER miss a holiday with my little man.  Especially this easter when it's  his first real easter egg hunt that he is aware of and can enjoy.  He's going to be SO CUTE.  I'm also getting him the bubble mower in lieu of tons of candy (i dont give him candy, his easter eggs will be filled with gold fish crackers and home made organic cookies- i know it makes me sound like a total nazi).  

And also- I found the most adorable seersucker dress pants, and he's wearing a white button down with a yellow argyle sweater vest.  HOW FAH-REAKING CUTE.

 

But I am sad for ex h.  How do you get to a place in your life where you can willingly miss major milestones like that?  Here's something that describes it aptly: "anyone can be a father, but it takes someone truly special to be a dad"

 

/vent. 

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Re: Here's why ex h makes me sad.

  • walkernewton0704walkernewton0704

    I'm no longer a single mom, but I am a child of divorced parents & "adoption", where my biological dad signed his rights over no questions asked to my mom's current husband at the time. 

    So I can relate in a way to this.  I am so very sorry for your little boy's sake that he will have to go through this for his whole life probably. It is very saddening, and I don't understand either how a parent (of either sex) can get to the point in their life where they don't mind missing these milestones, especially to spend time out on the town drunk.

    I'm glad your son has a mom like you, who will still go on in spite of things and make things for him the best possible. I commend you for that.
    Try not to let ex h get to you to much, or to make you too sad. Remember that it is his loss, and he is the one who will have to explain to his son one day why he missed out on all these things, and he will be the one your son resents! Keep your head up & good luck! 

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    thank you.  seriously.  it was very sweet to say that.  and it gives me hope that my son will be ok, because you seem pretty grounded in spite of everything.  

    he is seriously cracked in the head to not want to absorb every second with this little guy.  seriously he is the funniest cutest baby (ok he's a toddler now, but hes my little baby heh).  

     

    one thing is for sure- despite his father- he has SO many people in his life who love and adore him- my family is amazing.  he will always be such a loved little guy.  and his demeanor- is so sweet, such a caring little kid.  

    i am lucky, very lucky.  i look at it in general (aside from random venting)- that i got the BEST part of my ex.  and that for some reason, this was supposed to happen (the marriage, the baby, everything), so i could be a mom to him.   

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  • walkernewton0704walkernewton0704

    You are EXACTLY right, you did get the very best of him, and it's awesome that you appreciate that!! 

    I like to think that I'm pretty grounded (hah!). For the longest time I was mad and angry, but now I have so many things in my life going great, and I look around and thank my biological dad for what he did. It got me to the place that I am in my life, and if he hadn't made the decisions he made, I may not know the people I know now, or have my amazing son in my life either!

    You seem like an awesome mom & I'm sure that he will grow up and be just fine & thank you for supporting him & standing by him regardless of what his "father" chose to do.

    I'm sure he will have an awesome Easter with you & will never know that he "missed" anything. Hopefully his dad will wake up one day & realize what he is missing before it's too late! 

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    I really hope that he realizes what he is missing.  These days are so precious.  But if he doesn't realize what he is missing, it's ok, I"ll just get to spend even more time with him.

     

    I think easter will be a success.  I just now FINALLY found the bubble mower I was looking for.  Every place was totally sold out.  So that's my good news of the day.  haha funny what things make you happy when you're a parent.  :)

     

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