(Is this where I should post? I feel like the boys are too old for the 24+ board, but they're not actually in preschool yet...ah well! )
Tomorrow morning, I'm having back surgery. Nothing hugely major, but I will be in the hospital overnight, and I won't be able to pick them up for 6 weeks. There will be a pretty big disruption in their lives because of it, with me not bringing them to daycare for the next month and a half, and not being able to pick them up or bend over, etc.
This morning I sat them down and said, "You know how Mommy's back hurts?" (chorus of nods), "Well, the doctors are going to fix me tomorrow, and after that, I won't be able to hold you for a long time. You're going to stay at Granny & Grandpa's house for a couple of nights, and then Grandee is going to stay with us for a little while."
They nodded some more, then ran off to find their cars.
Is this all I need to say? Should I just chill out about it? Or do I need to say anything else?
Re: What to tell 3y/os about my surgery?
I think you did a great job of explaining it on their level.
If they didn't have any questions I'd let it rest for now.
I would give them a reminder the day before and then be prepared for the questions and just answer them as honestly and simply as you can.
Using the word "fix" is brilliant. "Fix" they understand - things like hospital, surgery, recovery, etc are more complicated.
You were wise to keep it simple.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
I had to spend a month in the hospital before my dd was born and then had a c-section so I couldn't pick up ds or play much for a while with him.
I told ds that I had a boo boo on my tummy and he couldn't touch it because it would hurt. I showed him on his tummy where it hurt. DS may not have understood all the details but he definitely understood that I had a boo boo and not to hurt me. I think your 3 year olds would understand it on that same level and that's all they really need to understand.
By the way- I wondered what happened to you- I haven't seen you around in a long time. Your boys have gotten so big!
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Although my DS is much younger than your triplets, he understood that Mom's back hurts (when I was pregnant) and that I couldn't lift him. I think he liked the indepence a lot because he had to learn to crawl into the carseat alone and I no longer carried him places.
When DS came and visited me in the hospital (after c/s) I told him I had a boo-boo on my belly and to be very careful. He understood and didn't ask to many questions. GL with your surgery!
thanks ladies!
jill - i know, i need to come hang out here some more. i am generally just on the multiples board, but i need to branch out.
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