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2nd Trimester
tired of people telling me..
how I am going to be miserable through my pregnancy and my body is just gonna be horrible looking.
I understand that at the end of my pregnancy i will probably not be comfortable at all, but please dont keep telling me its just going to be horrible. I tell her i understand i will be miserable, then she fires back with no you have no idea you think you know but its way worse when its really here. does she want me to feel bad or something she doesnt stop with the negative comments about pregnancy!! this is my first child. I'm trying to enjoy this and you are making me worried about everything!!
Another thing is yes, I know my body will not look the same. That doesnt mean i am not going to go to the gym to get back in shape. Just because you didnt doesnt mean i am gonna look just like you!!!
omg im sorry i just had to vent a little. SOO ANNOYING!!!!!!!!!
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Re: tired of people telling me..
I know what you mean. My sister gave me the book "The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy" when I first found out and I just about returned it to her after reading a few page. It was all about the negative stuff- getting fat, having cellulite and all the pain involved in the process. Like you, I refuse to fill my head with what other people think pregnancy is all about.
And guess what? I've had no morning sickness,constipation or heartburn. I've gained weight but it's a healthy weight and even my minor skin issues are "okay" because I know it's for a good cause.
Just ignore these people who are trying to make you feel bad about what's to come. And remember, we all have different points of view. When I asked my sister why she liked what I thought was an AWFUL book, she said it was the only thing that made her feel better since she was so miserable during her pregnancy.
And good for your for staying active. My sister and her friend have the mentality of "who cares" during pregnancy and tell me I should eat what I want, when I want and not worry about working out. What?? Of course I'm going to eat healthy and exercise. Why on earth would that change now?
Stay positive, use affirmations and a vision board and you won't have to validate other people's realities/points of view
Thank you!
Yes everyone's pregnancy is different. Let me experience mine and just support me on my bad moments during this time and also help me celebrate my good times. Is that not what friends are for?
Like you said I just need to ignore but it's hard sometimes, it just makes me want to prove her wrong haha!
Good luck with your pregnancy and thanks for responding, makes me feel better!
I'm glad I could help. I wonder if people say these types of things because they like to focus on the negative. Or maybe they honestly have had really tough pregnancies and don't want to feel like they were the only ones!
Sorry you are having this happen to you! Good luck!
I remember being around 13-14wks, and telling my neighbor who is TTC how miserable she is going to be through pregnancy. LOL I felt pretty miserable at the time, she was mortified when I said it..
The 2nd tri is MUCH easier at times, but it's definitely still hard, and it makes my body feel wrecked at times. But I do have a lot more energy now, so I guess it's give and take. I think some people just do pregnancy better than others =/
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
Yes I honestly think like some of you said, that some of their pregnancys were not that good so they want to make sure ours isn't as well. my pregnancy is going very well in my 2nd trimester i had a little morning sickness at first but that is over with.
Thank you all for responding and making me feel better about this situation i just didnt know what to say to her at all..
Good luck ladies with your pregnancy as well (hope its wonderful
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I really hate the "just you wait" statements, whether it's about pregnancy, motherhood, or anything else.
Can I please just experience it on my own and form my own judgments? And, FTR, I've done this before so it's not like I'm clueless. Ugh.
girl, me too!! all this negative stuff just gets me down...and what's kind of ironic is that the same people have been pregnant and should want to keep you upbeat! Sure our bodies won't look the same, but who's to say they won't look BETTER?!
also, people that say "Sleep now while you can" are annoying. i look forward to having my child here, even if it means i won't sleep as much. they mean well, i'm sure, but when it comes down to it, it's like ruining the ending to a movie. I WANNA SEE IT MYSELF!!
pffft. rant on!!
I agree that you have to ignore it to a point, however; it may not be a bad thing to tell your friend that her negative attitude isn't appreciated or wanted.
Just let her know that you're thankful she has shared with you what her experience was and that now you'd like to focus on your own.
You're not going to be looking horrible!!! The only thing that bothered me at the end of my last pregnancy is the fact that I was walking so slow. I am a teacher and I stayed in school until a week and a half before giving birth. Just remember to take it one day at a time and you will be fine. It's not easy, but I try to tell myself to enjoy the ride.
And so what if you're body is not perfect right away after giving birth. It's not like you pigged out on chocolate every day for nine months, you will have given BIRTH.
Just try and stay positive. : )
This is what I was thinking. I think she may be jealous of you! If you're in shape now that is. She probably secretly wants you to turn into a mess like her! I call the jealous card on this one.
Keep rocking it!!!!! People have tried telling me that and I have just been firing back and telling them that I am not you 
It drives them even more crazy.
I totally get it! I just wish you were all around when I was pregnant with my DD
The negative comment I hated the most was "your life will never be the same". Now having a 2 year old...it's true your life will never be the same bc all of the bs you cared about before doesn't matter at all! My DH and I constantly say that whatever we were doing on a Fri/Sat night before kids was never as much fun as hanging out as a family now.
As for the body comments etc. I gained 56 lbs with my DD and got every lb off and got back into all my old clothes. Yes it took some work but it's worth it. People told me I would never look the same. I actually had a girlfriend tell me (just before I got pregnant this time) that I looked better than I did before having my DD. I was thrilled with the comment. Also, I had a a really difficult delivery and was on my back for 3 months post delivery. It is still all worth it and I'm doing it again only 2 years later.
I had a cousin of mine tell me that a few weeks ago that I had no idea what I was in for with a boy. I'm sure boys are different than girls. I have one sister and we are very different. Each child is different. People always try and scare you and I really don't know why. I know it is difficult but try and ignore it.
Yep, my mom has used this line on me already!
I also hate how people tell me "Oh you're due in August...you are going to be soooo miserable!"
Summer is hot ANYWAY, but thanks for the advice! Jeez.
Just lurking here...I was never miserable during any of my pregnancies. I was in pain during my last one because I had SPD (pubic bones are too loose), but I got through it. The other two I felt good and was able to be active. Everybody has a different pregnancy and there are just as many positive stories as negative.
ETA: I am done having children and I am sad that I will never feel a baby move again and never have that amazing moment when you first meet your child. Cheesy to say, but treasure this time because it is an awesome journey.
Thanks ladies for the encouraging words and just about everyone on here seems to be happy with their pregnancy and their lives with kids!
As long as I stay in shape and dont let myself go i think i will be fine. Of course I wont come out of the delivery room looking like a super model it will take time but seeing my child will let me know it was all worth it in the end : )
I get tired of people telling me how miserable I'm going to be because I'm due in August. They ask my due date and when I say August, they say 'you poor thing!' Yes I know texas heat sucks and I didn't plan it this way, but please keep telling me how miserable I'm going to be big and pregnant!
This is my second and my first was also born in Sept, so I went through the full summer heat/humidity in DC and I still absolutely LOVE being pregnant. I know that doesn't seem to be the norm, but I have yet to have anything more than slight nausea/food aversions and although I am a bit achier this time with RLP and whatnot, I still love the whole process. It's not like this is something I get to experience a lot and we had to work hard to get here.
I personally cannot stand most pregnant women. They turn into such drama queens and act like the world should revolve around them. I loved every minute of my pregnancy with my son and this baby so far. Sure I get ridiculous heartburn everyday, leg cramps, and a sore back and had morning sickness with both...but all I can do is smile thinking that I'm creating this little human that is making me feel this way. It is all worth it to me to have a healthy and happy baby. What is the point of complaining and making people around you miserable? There are so many women out there who would kill to have these symptoms and be able to get pregnant. I was on my feet all day at work up until a week before I was due with my son. So many times I want to yell at these women who complain about everything but I keep my mouth shut and secretly hope they have fussy babies.
It is all worth it when you hold your baby for the first time. Even the pain of delivery disappears.