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November 2011 Moms
SamSam31
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Army Girl, been in since Feb 2003 married to an Army Man, in since 1990.
(NBR) Vent: Why Do Some People Like to Cut Others Down?
SamSam31
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Sometimes I don't like people.
I'm in an Army school and just did a briefing for the other half of the class I'm in (we got split up into two small groups). At the end, one of the women in the class said, "well you didn't tell us boo about you. Why don't you tell us something about yourself?" So I went into my Army history and then talked about my government civil service time, just a little one-over-the-world about what I do and how I got to where I am. I mentioned that I did some HR, became a civilian supervisor at my last unit, then went on to move from San Diego to San Jose to be a operations and training specialist. Essentially, I went from a supervisory position to a non-supervisory position, which some people frown upon, but I don't because I need training in the operational area of the Army and I never had the opportunity to work in operations before.
Well this "woman" jumped on me and asked me how I qualified for a position if I never had any experience in it (she is a civilian supervisor at her unit). She first thought I had taken a pay cut and I explained to her it wasn't because it was the same civilian paygrade. She then really went off about how "this isn't how the system works and don't make people think like it does" and how it was basically wrong the way I got my job. I didn't feel like arguing with her because it was rather pointless and her even bringing this up as a point of contention was rather unprofessional IMHO.
It pissed me off because she didn't ask any questions (sure, I didn't offer any more information, either, but again, I just wanted to get back to my half of the class) and made a snap judgment based on very little and acted as if she has done everything on the up and up in her entire career. During the entire brief, she was aloof, disinterested, found every little thing wrong and jumped on it.
I don't know, I'm really just venting, and I feel extremely hormonal and missing my husband (he's back in Cali and I'm at Fort Jackson, SC) and I'm trying really hard not to let it get to me and remind myself that I probably won't ever see this witch again. It makes me so mad that some women just seem to live to make others feel bad so they can feel better and listen to themselves talk...
Thanks for letting me vent. Crap, now I'm crying. This isn't like me. Ugh.
ETA: I forgot to mention that I never lied on my resume. The description is very basic:
"Provide technical advice/guidance to staff sections/subordinate units of the command on setting up and operating plans/programs/relevant administrative tasks and responsibilities. Review various training circulars/master training schedules/inspections/test results/other publications to determine what unit and individual training is necessary or required. Advise units of necessary/directed changes in training goals/procedures. Formulate/recommend/issue implementing instructions to ensure compliance or uniform application. Process actions related to attendance at service/schools/training courses/classes by Reserve personnel. Allocate slots/reviews submissions for regulatory compliance/processes paperwork/orders. Prepare/submit data for budget formulation purposes to include estimated man-days/ATA spaces/training materials/etc. Review mobilization plans for compliance with plans/objectives. Assist/advise Commanders in mobilization planning."
I might not have worked on any of the systems that pertain to this, but I have done this in my previous capacity for a commander.
Army Girl, been in since Feb 2003 married to an Army Man, in since 1990.
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Re: (NBR) Vent: Why Do Some People Like to Cut Others Down?
Oh no, hun. It sounds like she was just out to argue, it wouldn't have mattered what the topic was about. You and your job (and how you got there) are totally fine. Please don't cry. =(
It's Friday afternoon, try to think about doing something nice for yourself tonight when you get home.
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Hey girl, yeah it sucks when people act like that. Usually they just aren't happy with their own lives. Sometimes they are so used to getting walked on that when they think they have a chance to be on top, they jump on people.
Just have confidence that you're great at what you do and she clearly has no idea what she is takling about.
Thanks everyone. I talked to DH about it and he felt the same way. First he said, "well why did you even go down that route" and then realized that I was cornered into it. He's much better with words than I am and much quicker on his feet when someone decides to act this way toward him, but I realized that she must be unhappy with her career or life and took a chance to "get" someone so she can feel better about herself.
I'm bent on teaching my children good manners but to also be able to defend themselves better than I have in the past and to then immediately forget about stupid people like that. Don't get me wrong, I didn't expect puppies and rainbows when talking to people like that, but I was expecting a minimum amount of respect. It's not easy to just walk in front of a new crowd and conduct a class or briefing and I've done this sort of thing for years. The least she could have done was pay attention and not act like she was better than everyone else. It was apparent to the rest of the class how she was acting and I could tell with some people that they were over it.
Oh well. It's the weekend and I'm that much closer to seeing DH for two days in Phoenix before heading off to San Antonio for a few more days. And after that is the NT ultrasound, so I have a LOT more to look forward to than that b!tch!
Army Girl, been in since Feb 2003 married to an Army Man, in since 1990.
So glad to read that you're getting over this. What a witch! We can't drink, but go treat yourself to a pedicure or something for surviving that!
Catch2010, that's a great idea. I just took a look at my nails and they're long (hooray!), but they need love. Now I gotta find a nail place around here. SO happy I rented a car for the weekend...
On a totally unrelated note, I drive a Mustang at home and I ended up with a Mazda5. I certainly didn't need to rent such a big car for the weekend, but it'll be nice to experiment with a larger car to see if I like it/ can handle it.
Army Girl, been in since Feb 2003 married to an Army Man, in since 1990.
I had the Mazda 5 for my last rental and liked it okay. It's definitely roomy! One of my close friends has two boys and drives the Mazda 5 and loves it. She says that they don't ding cars in the parking lot with those minivan doors.
Have a fun day today!