How dare he say that!!! (boss/work vent)

Jen10702 · April 2011

So things have been getting kind of bad for me at work... my boss is a prick and saying he is not sure if I am actually doing my job.. and dumb stuff like that... this morning though just topped everything off.. And I have NOO problem telling him to kiss my ass and leave!!

We were all sitting at the counter and they were having coffee.. and they are talking about the baby.... ( I wore a tight shirt today.. because my boss has said he thinks it looks tacky when women do that.. so I made sure I got a nice tight shirt to wear today...hahah) anyway so they are talking about how big my belly is getting.. and he says TO ME.... " you ruined a perfectly good body" and instantly I blurted out "F*CK YOU"... and the other boss didn't hear so hes asking huh? what? and I told him what he said and what I said and he says.. that wasn't nice.. and I said that wasn't nice either! The girl I work with had to walk away because she was laughing so hard!!! I just can not believe some of the *** that comes out of peoples mouths... how dare he say that!!!!

I have a job where I am in my car most of the day.. so while I was driving around this morning I could not stop thinking about it and what I could have/should have said!!! But those words I did say.. were the only things I could say because I was soo mad!!! UUUGHHH!!!

Thanks.. I had to get that off my chest because I can't tell my DH for fear he will go and knock him out (literally).... or my mother for that matter!

P.S. Happy Good Friday.. and my baby is the size of an onion!!! YAY!!

angv1 · April 2011

It will just feel that much better when he sees you pp and you look fantastic. DS is 6 months old and my pre-preggo clothes are too big! what a jerk your boss is!

NikkiBenzo · April 2011

I do believe that you can go to HR about that.

WashingtonQueen · April 2011

WOW! That is totaly uncalled for! I think that you held yourself back pretty good. I sure as hell would have blown up completely!!

jenna0627 · April 2011

That is weird boss/employee communication on both your parts.

Jen10702 · April 2011

Well there is not an HR at my work.. its a small business that has 4 full time employees and we have no vacation or sick days or anything like that...

MrsM1113 · April 2011

What your boss said is definitely crossing the line, and I would be furious.

But, if you want to be treated professionally at work, then you need to act professional. Wearing a tight shirt (which is pretty much a no-no in any profession) out of spite, doesn't make you seem like you take your job seriously. And the way you responded to your boss was out of line... two wrongs, don't make a right. And it doesn't make you look good to HR, if you were to file a complaint.

Jen10702 · April 2011

jenna0627:
That is weird boss/employee communication on both your parts.

yeah I know.. my work is small and casual.. usually friendly...

jenna0627 · April 2011

Jen10702:

jenna0627:
That is weird boss/employee communication on both your parts.

yeah I know.. my work is small and casual.. usually friendly...

Honestly it sounds completely opposite of friendly. It sounds like high school. In normal work situations, employees don't do things they know are wrong (wear a tight shirt to get a reaction) and the boss doesn't make those comments and if they did, one certainly doesn't fire back with the F bomb.

macdidlyicious · April 2011

That boarders on sexual harassment.

Jen10702 · April 2011

MrsM1113:
What your boss said is definitely crossing the line, and I would be furious.
But, if you want to be treated professionally at work, then you need to act professional. Wearing a tight shirt (which is pretty much a no-no in any profession) out of spite, doesn't make you seem like you take your job seriously. And the way you responded to your boss was out of line... two wrongs, don't make a right. And it doesn't make you look good to HR, if you were to file a complaint.

my work is not a professional work place and thats not what I was after.. and yes I mis-typed... It was like a tight shirt like teenaged girls wear.. its a shirt that my belly really shows in unlike some of more flow-y ones I wear.... which is not unprofessional... sorry but the belly is going to show...

VeilSdeGTO · April 2011

I worship you. Sometimes, I wish I had the guts to just come out and say fvck you.

I'm sorry your boss is such a prick.

BabyBLove · April 2011

Yeah, I'd like to know what you do... because everything your boss said and you said is completely unprofessional. I work in a pretty laid back office setting, but I would never speak to my boss that way, joking or not... and I would expect my boss to not disrespect me in the way yours did! I guess I've just never heard of such an odd boss/employee relationship? His comment was definitely sexual harrassment, but sounds like your company not having an HR really doesn't help!

NikkiBenzo · April 2011

Jen10702:
Well there is not an HR at my work.. its a small business that has 4 full time employees and we have no vacation or sick days or anything like that...

Then I think you handled it perfectly!

MrsM1113 · April 2011

Work, by nature is professional. An office can be casual, laid back, etc., but should still remain professional. When people (not just you and your boss) begin to blend the lines between appropriate office behavior and act as you do among friends, that is when a work place becomes unprofessional. No matter how casual your office, you can still conduct yourself in a professional manner.

And I'm sorry, but a tight t-shirt that teenage girls wear are a.) for teenage girls, and b.) never appropriate in any work. Your belly showing isn't unprofessional, nor is it tacky. But the office isn't the place to wear your Abercrombie and Fitch tees, and dressing like a 16 year old sends the message to everyone at your work that you're not serious about your work.

Jason'swife · April 2011

jenna0627:
That is weird boss/employee communication on both your parts.

That's what I was thinking.

Jen10702 · April 2011

MrsM1113:
Work, by nature is professional. An office can be casual, laid back, etc., but should still remain professional. When people (not just you and your boss) begin to blend the lines between appropriate office behavior and act as you do among friends, that is when a work place becomes unprofessional. No matter how casual your office, you can still conduct yourself in a professional manner.
And I'm sorry, but a tight t-shirt that teenage girls wear are a.) for teenage girls, and b.) never appropriate in any work. Your belly showing isn't unprofessional, nor is it tacky. But the office isn't the place to wear your Abercrombie and Fitch tees, and dressing like a 16 year old sends the message to everyone at your work that you're not serious about your work.

ok maybe this is getting complicated because it is the internet (lol) but.. your telling me my bump showing like this ( pic below) is inappropriate?

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Kitty Holland · April 2011

jenna0627:
That is weird boss/employee communication on both your parts.

this

Jen10702 · April 2011

ok apparently I don't know what I'm doing on here and can't paste a picture in my post... so if you care... this is the website for that picture

https://www.motherhood.com/Product.asp?Product_Id=92415Z10011&MasterCategory_Id=MC2

Jen10702 · April 2011

haha ok apparently I don't know what I'm doing on here and can't paste a picture in my post... so if you care... this is the website for that picture

https://www.motherhood.com/Product.asp?Product_Id=92415Z10011&MasterCategory_Id=MC2

Janimal · April 2011

Your boss sounds likea jerk. BUT - if you were my employee, you would have been fired for your response.

Jason'swife · April 2011

Jen10702:
ok maybe this is getting complicated because it is the internet (lol) but.. your telling me my bump showing like this ( pic below) is inappropriate?

We can't see your pic (or at least I can't). And no, that's the opposite of what she said.

MrsM1113 · April 2011

I think in a casual workplace, that shirt would be fine.

But it's a far cry from a t-shirt like the teenage girls wear, which makes me think of this:

jenna0627 · April 2011

MrsM1113:

I think in a casual workplace, that shirt would be fine.

But it's a far cry from a t-shirt like the teenage girls wear, which makes me think of this:

This is exactly what I was picturing.

jessicaclare · April 2011

There is a whole lot wrong with that situation and it isn't just your boss.

Jen10702 · April 2011

Jen10702:
MrsM1113:
What your boss said is definitely crossing the line, and I would be furious.
But, if you want to be treated professionally at work, then you need to act professional. Wearing a tight shirt (which is pretty much a no-no in any profession) out of spite, doesn't make you seem like you take your job seriously. And the way you responded to your boss was out of line... two wrongs, don't make a right. And it doesn't make you look good to HR, if you were to file a complaint.
my work is not a professional work place and thats not what I was after.. and yes I mis-typed... It was like a tight shirt like teenaged girls wear.. its a shirt that my belly really shows in unlike some of more flow-y ones I wear.... which is not unprofessional... sorry but the belly is going to show...

ok LMAO.. it is suppose to say " It was NOT like a tight shirt like teenaged girls wear" My bad... silly silly.. or pregnancy brain.. not sure !

amy0610 · April 2011

As someone who is self employed and looking at having employees at some point, you both would have been reprimanded, but definitely him more for making SUCH an inappropriate comment.

As someone who has been in unhealthy work environments where HR is useless or nonexistent, I fist bump you in solidarity. You did what you had to do.

sandrarn11 · April 2011

I LOL'd when I saw you said fvck you. I'm glad you stuck up for yourself, but be careful about making such an inappropriate work place even more inappropriate.

sjBear123 · April 2011

You should really tell HR what he said. That is sexual harassment by definition. He should not be allowed to talk to any employee like that.

ZaraLou · April 2011

I've worked at a VERY small company before and the environment sounds similar to yours. The owner/boss talked to all his employees HOWEVER he wanted.. and when there is no HR dept. and he is the owner, he pretty much can get away with whatever he wants. I guess someone could go and sue him or something..but who would go through that effort? Either just find a way to ignore his comments, or find a new job. When I worked with my boss like that I just felt like he was a complete idiot and every time he said something rude I just laughed and thought 'what a moron'. Just try not to take offense to people's idiotic comments..it's really not worth your time or energy.

NurseLaLa · April 2011

amy0610:
As someone who is self employed and looking at having employees at some point, you both would have been reprimanded, but definitely him more for making SUCH an inappropriate comment.

I'd have reprimanded the boss, but feel the fvck you was justified. I'm a laid back and very easy going person, but his comment was rude, out of line, hurtful, disgraceful, tasteless, etc., etc.

Amya · April 2011

Wow, I think you should talk to your other boss and say that you need to be treated with more respect. He definitely crossed the line.

katchowski · April 2011

Thank you, your story makes me happy. I have a co-worker that I had to call fat before he would stop commenting during my first tri-mester on my ' new baggy clothes," which were the basic work dresses and skirts I had been wearing for the last 2 years at work. Some people have to realize, don't mess with the pregnant hormonal lady.

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