Just wondering....bath related

mags1984 · April 2011

So i just wondering how you do baths with more than one child, I usually give my DD who is 4 and my DS who is 14 months a bath together, they love it and i never leave the side of the tub. I ask becuase my MIL gave me the side eye one day when i mentioned it. I dont see anything wrong with it at their age. What do you think?

LoriJ11 · April 2011

I only have 1 but I don't see anything wrong with giving them a bath together

babygirlcc · April 2011

I think 4 is too old to take baths with a sibling of the opposite sex simply because they clearly notice the difference between brother/sister now. It's kinda hard to explain because I see your point of view but I would've given you the side eye as well.

mojito14 · April 2011

I give them a bath together. Why on earth would I give them seperate baths? Takes up more time, imo.

I get the bath ready while they both have playtime/nakeytime. Once the bath is ready, Preston (my 4.5 year old), gets in and I wash his hair and body. Once he is washed. Harrison gets to join him and I wash him up. They play together for about 10-15 minutes (they both love bathtime) and then I take Harrison out, get him ready for bed (the bedroom is right next to the bathroom). When I'm done with him, I let him down and get Preston out and lotioned up. He puts his own jammies on.

mags1984 · April 2011

mojito14:

I give them a bath together. Why on earth would I give them seperate baths? Takes up more time, imo.

I get the bath ready while they both have playtime/nakeytime. Once the bath is ready, Preston (my 4.5 year old), gets in and I wash his hair and body. Once he is washed. Harrison gets to join him and I wash him up. They play together for about 10-15 minutes (they both love bathtime) and then I take Harrison out, get him ready for bed (the bedroom is right next to the bathroom). When I'm done with him, I let him down and get Preston out and lotioned up. He puts his own jammies on.

I think she didn't like it because they are opposite sexes....but honestly they dont pay any attention they love to play together and it saves time, obviously i wont be doing it that way for too much longer but for now i dont see a problem.

mojito14 · April 2011

mags1984:
mojito14:

I give them a bath together. Why on earth would I give them seperate baths? Takes up more time, imo.

I get the bath ready while they both have playtime/nakeytime. Once the bath is ready, Preston (my 4.5 year old), gets in and I wash his hair and body. Once he is washed. Harrison gets to join him and I wash him up. They play together for about 10-15 minutes (they both love bathtime) and then I take Harrison out, get him ready for bed (the bedroom is right next to the bathroom). When I'm done with him, I let him down and get Preston out and lotioned up. He puts his own jammies on.

I think she didn't like it because they are opposite sexes....but honestly they dont pay any attention they love to play together and it saves time, obviously i wont be doing it that way for too much longer but for now i dont see a problem.

As long as it hasn't become an issue, then I would still bathe them together too. It's all a learning process anyway (opposite sex speaking). We are a very open family though.

khagan9368 · April 2011

Wow, I a shocked anyone would give this the side-eye, maybe if the kid was 7 or 8 but 4. Heck yeah I'd be bathing them together!

diana.filipi · April 2011

My big brother and I arre 3 1/2 years apart and we certainly took baths together as kiddos.

white318 · April 2011

My sister and I used to BEG to take baths together... it was so much fun. My brother was a baby and we used to love "helping" him in the bath. (We are each 2 year apart) I see nothing wrong with it...I think once you are in kindergarden alot of kids become "too cool" for bathing with a sibling.

SailorGray · April 2011

babygirlcc:
I think 4 is too old to take baths with a sibling of the opposite sex simply because they clearly notice the difference between brother/sister now. It's kinda hard to explain because I see your point of view but I would've given you the side eye as well.

What's wrong with them noticing the difference, though? I think it would be a fine time to start introducing to a kid that boys and girls are different. Also, a lot of older siblings like to "help" with the LO when it comes to diaper changes, etc. You can't hide the fact that one has a penis and the other has a vagina forever. I am not being snarky. I just don't get why it's so bad that they see they are different from their sibling.

mojito14 · April 2011

SailorGray:

babygirlcc:
I think 4 is too old to take baths with a sibling of the opposite sex simply because they clearly notice the difference between brother/sister now. It's kinda hard to explain because I see your point of view but I would've given you the side eye as well.

What's wrong with them noticing the difference, though? I think it would be a fine time to start introducing to a kid that boys and girls are different. Also, a lot of older siblings like to "help" with the LO when it comes to diaper changes, etc. You can't hide the fact that one has a penis and the other has a vagina forever. I am not being snarky. I just don't get why it's so bad that they see they are different from their sibling.

This was the point I was trying to make. Yes

cotner · April 2011

They bathe together. Just like every other issue, it all depends on the kids. If you feel comfortable and think they are comfortable, I'd keep bathing them together.

ToBeMrsT · April 2011

my 3 y/o and 1 y/o take a bath together every day. It would be a PITA to do it separately.

jamie.renee · April 2011

I have all girls so I can't say what I would do if I had both. My first 2 kids are 2 years apart. They took baths together until they started showering at 4 and 6. At that point showers were much easier with their hair and they loved it. When my third came along the older 2 were 5 and 7 so she has also taken a bath herself. I personally think at 4 it is still fine for a brother and sister to take a bath together, until one becomes uncomfortable.

g8trkim · April 2011

For the same sex I would definitely do baths together. I'm guessing your MIL was referring to the fact that they are opposite sexes. IMO 4 is a little old since they are a boy and a girl and they notice gender differences at that point. If it were me I would probably do separate baths, definitely by the time your DD goes to kindergarten. That said, I don't think I would be judgey to you about it.

mags1984 · April 2011

mojito14:
SailorGray:

babygirlcc:
I think 4 is too old to take baths with a sibling of the opposite sex simply because they clearly notice the difference between brother/sister now. It's kinda hard to explain because I see your point of view but I would've given you the side eye as well.

What's wrong with them noticing the difference, though? I think it would be a fine time to start introducing to a kid that boys and girls are different. Also, a lot of older siblings like to "help" with the LO when it comes to diaper changes, etc. You can't hide the fact that one has a penis and the other has a vagina forever. I am not being snarky. I just don't get why it's so bad that they see they are different from their sibling.

This was the point I was trying to make.

DD is very smart and helpful she has liked to help with DS since he first came home, we have already had a talk about how boys are girls are different. I know some people probably think it is to early for that but we are very open in our house and when i was changing DS's diaper DD asked me one day why his private area looked different than hers, I simply explained it to her and she just said ok and that was it. Now she actually gets upset if DS doesn't get to take a bath with her.

outnumbered · April 2011

babygirlcc:
I think 4 is too old to take baths with a sibling of the opposite sex simply because they clearly notice the difference between brother/sister now. It's kinda hard to explain because I see your point of view but I would've given you the side eye as well.

Obviously written by somebody who does not have a 4 year old.

My six year old girl takes a shower because of her longer hair, but sometimes bathes with her toddler brother. My middle boy takes a bath with his toddler brother all the time. My middle boy(almost 5) and girl (just turned 6) see each other naked every day. They share a room and get changed at the same time. It is not a big deal that one has a penis and the other a vagina. Next year the toddler and the girl will switch rooms.

Jennicap · April 2011

I'd think you have at least a few more years before worrying...

seanandcallie · April 2011

outnumbered:
babygirlcc:
I think 4 is too old to take baths with a sibling of the opposite sex simply because they clearly notice the difference between brother/sister now. It's kinda hard to explain because I see your point of view but I would've given you the side eye as well.
Obviously written by somebody who does not have a 4 year old.
My six year old girl takes a shower because of her longer hair, but sometimes bathes with her toddler brother. My middle boy takes a bath with his toddler brother all the time. My middle boy(almost 5) and girl (just turned 6) see each other naked every day. They share a room and get changed at the same time. It is not a big deal that one has a penis and the other a vagina. Next year the toddler and the girl will switch rooms.

I'm sure my brother and I were still taking baths together when I was 6 and he was 4. We also shared a room so we had a vary similar situation. Once I said I wanted/needed more privacy, my parents made that possible.

C-Charm · April 2011

SailorGray:
babygirlcc:
I think 4 is too old to take baths with a sibling of the opposite sex simply because they clearly notice the difference between brother/sister now. It's kinda hard to explain because I see your point of view but I would've given you the side eye as well.

What's wrong with them noticing the difference, though? I think it would be a fine time to start introducing to a kid that boys and girls are different. Also, a lot of older siblings like to "help" with the LO when it comes to diaper changes, etc. You can't hide the fact that one has a penis and the other has a vagina forever. I am not being snarky. I just don't get why it's so bad that they see they are different from their sibling.

Yes

bbowie · April 2011

Together - 3.5yo boy, 14mo girl...they ask to take baths together.

July_2009 · April 2011

People have way too much time on their hands to worry about giving siblings bath together? Everything is an issue these days when it comes to children.

haleymay18 · April 2011

I think that is appropriate.

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