Breakdown in the shower

Syncronicity09 · April 2011

So I just took a shower...and tried to blind groom and it sent me into a wave of pregnancy emotions. I hate how the simplest tasks can turn me into a blubbering baby. Long story short, my struggle in the shower got me thinking how big I am getting (I know I am pregnant its normal) and led me to thinking about how I will need to loose this weight once Ashur is here. I was bigger to begin with and it has always been a struggle to loose weight. Next thing I know I am crying like a baby thinking my weight is only going to get worse and I will never loose the baby weight, let alone the weight I had pre-pregnancy. I guess I should be glad this thought hasn't occurred to me sooner, but I hope I can shake it. I did manage to pull myself together and get out of the shower. I can only imagine how scary it would be to my husband to come home from work and find me a bawling mess in the shower. Is it June yet?

thatgirl84 · April 2011

I resorted to using my cosmetic mirror tilted and shaved in front of the sink. You shouldn't feel bad. We are all right there w/ya. Your belly will go down considerably after baby is born. Especially if you're breastfeeding. I plan on cutting back on unnecessary refined sugars (like the love of my life -- ice cream) after baby is born, but not cutting back on much else b/c I will be breastfeeding. I have a tendency to lose weight when I'm stressed, and what is more stressful than having a new baby? Maybe you're the same way? Otherwise you will have to really watch it This may not be the most accepted idea, but I have done atkins, and once I'm done with bfing I will be going on that. I lost about ten pounds a month on that w/o exercising before.

I'm sure we will all still be here and helping each other through being new parents, and losing the dreaded baby weight!

Back when I lost weight (I was close to 190 at 5' 7") I found a girl through craigslist, since I was new to the area, and being accountable to another person can really keep you on track. Maybe find a walking buddy, then start jogging once the baby is 6 months -- I'm waiting that long b/c that is when baby's neck is suppose to be stable enough for a jogging stroller.

pammeelala · April 2011

I had a very similar breakdown yesterday. MH and I bought a bigger car a few weeks ago. It's mine. I have only driven it in the test drive because while prego, my MW & MH decided I don't get to drive because I randomly pass out (not that I argue that). Add to it, I can't go to work because I am on modified bedrest, have trouble keeping up with the housework because of pain, can't play with my dogs because they drop their toys at my feet and can't reach my hands if they tried, and my already fat ass is gaining even more weight. So i cried telling him i feel fat and worthless and there's nothing I can do about it. He didn't couldn't find words...

IdigDirt · April 2011

I actually have not cried since first tri when I was hungry and too tired to get out of bed and DH wouldn't go bring me crackers. I have been more irritable but I don't actually cry, abut that is besides the point. I have been freaking out about loosing the weight as well (also that I will have really saggy boobs but I don't know if anything can be done about that). I think after June we should do a fitness or weight loss or whatever you want to call it check in so we can keep each other on track.

Jessynlove · April 2011

I do most of my thinking lol in the shower...so I cry alot in there too :-)

DH has mores than twice caught me... ha

But , I would like to share that I too cant see my vagina anymore well for the past 6 weeks or so. It sucks... I even resorted to asking my husband to help me down there shaving.... yeah not my finest moment. (He couldnt do it)

Rachel5782 · April 2011

I had a breakdown last night. I'm officially feeling like a whale. DH and I have been so busy, we've been too exhausted to ... well... you know. Last night DH was in the mood, and I just wanting nothing to do with it. I feel so frustrated because I know once the baby comes it will be at least 6 weeks before we can do anything, but I just felt so gross and unattractive last night. I feel like a terrible wife. DH was so sweet and understanding about the whole thing, sometimes I feel like I don't deserve him! And yes, I'm so sick of shaving blindly. I miss seeing my vag. LOL

kimbo1216 · April 2011

You're not alone. I think we've all been there at one point or another.

I agree, I hate shaving blindly--especially when I'm swollen down there. I know a lot of women say just don't worry about and go au natural. That just doesn't work for me. I hate the feeling and would constantly be itching myself inappropriately. So I have to keep it clean. Like PP said, I've even considered asking DH for help. If I bring it up, the idea seems to scare him. lol.

As for the weight, yes it's scary. I just keep reminding myself that I'm planning on breastfeeding (yeah 500 extra calories burned daily), walking daily with DH and DD as soon as I can, and getting back to aerobics as soon as I'm cleared. I know that these things will get me back to shape in no time.

The hardest part for me is that I had lost about 30 pounds before I got pregnant. I still had a good 20-30 pounds to go before I got even close to my pre-wedding weight. I haven't gained that much so far, but it's still scary. I don't want to balloon like I did post-wedding.

northtamarack · April 2011

I too am really worried about the post baby weight. I don't loose weight easily, so I'm concerned how it will go especially with a new baby to care for. For me, it is my own anxieties about weight and then to top it off with the unknown of this life change.

I really like the idea of checking in with each other after our babies are born. :-)

bookkitten · April 2011

I agree with checking it with eah other after. Prior to getting pregnant, I had lost 70 pounds; it took me close to 3 years and was not an easy thing to do. I still was technically overweight, but I felt good about myself and wearing a Medium/size 10-12 for the first time in my adult life. So far, I have gained between 32-35 pounds and it is stressing me out.

My Sweetheart tells me not to worry and threatens to hide the scale. He has reminded me that if it took 40 weeks to gain all this weight, it may take 40 weeks to gain it again - *not* what I want to hear, but maybe not unreasonable.

I had a breakdown of my own last weekend when I laid in bed while my Sweetheart and cried about my weight. Wrote my husband a letter explaining my fears about not losing again and him maybe finding me less attractive. He made clear to me that he is *not* less attracted, which helped, but still a bit worried about after.

I think we are lucky to be having babies when the weather is nicer, though, because it will make walking outdoors with them easier. I still worry that my energy will be low and I won't want to do it, but at least I can't blame the crsappy Chicago winter!

kimeve · April 2011

I had a weight breakdown yeserday as well. I also was on the heavier side when i got pg. I talked to my MW at my appt yesterday and she told me that I could go ahead and lose some before baby since I've gained too much anyway. Not for everyone, but talking to her really helped because I've kept thinking "After I have him I'm gonna work really hard and eat right and lose it!" But that's just doing what I've always done: pushing it to some future time. So I have a definite new healthier outlook for the rest of my pregnancy.

Sorry for the ramble, but I needed to get it off my chest anyway! Good luck and don't stress!

mari_gold · April 2011

Those are all totally legitimate concerns. I was the same way before I had my first!

The good news is, once you give birth, you automatically feel dramatically thinner because you've lost the huge bulge in your belly. I remember walking past a mirror and thinking, "Wow! Look how thin I am now!" -- and I was still 30+ pounds over my pre-baby weight.

I gained 55-60 pounds total and lost all but 10 of it within 6 months. I don't lose weight easily, either. There is hope. Smile

Alfie02 · April 2011

I am actually looking forward to getting back on WW once I get the all-clear. I feel the same way though - how am I going to get rid of all this baby weight PLUS the weight I was already working on taking off? The good news is that I can look back on this time and think of how much I wanted to get started on WW and use this as motivation when a huge bag of Doritos is calling my name four months from now.

actresscye · April 2011

I had my breakdown today and couldn't even understand my nonstop tears at the kitchen table. I looked at our carpet and I hate it. Having a dog and a "big kid" (my husband) makes our carpet so doggone dirty. It is awful. I mean I am upset about it but then I couldn't stop crying about it. There's nothing I can do about it other than vacuum (but I am on bedrest) and the vacuum barely gets anything up anyways. I wish I had the $5-6k to put down laminate or hardwood floors!

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