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Have a question - how did you know your S/O was "The One"?
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How did you know? Did you just feel it? Was it right away or did it build up to it?
Just curious - feeling kind of mushy today! And yes, there is a reason for my asking...
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Re: Have a question - how did you know your S/O was "The One"?
I knew John was the one when we took a cross country drive from CA to NY... to drop me off at grad school. He was flying back across the country. I knew if we could spend 2 weeks together in a 2 door Honda Civic out on the road, then we could do anything. That was 2 years into our dating relationship and 5 years into our friendship.
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This is going to sound really weird but he had all of the qualities that my best friend (the best friend I've had since we were kids) had. When we'd hang out, he was just easy to be with. He just fit me. He could be himself, I could be myself. I didn't want to stop hanging out with him. We'd laugh a lot and he's really thoughtful.
I knew after the first few months of hanging out.
DD2: February 2014
We met. Spent the entire weekend together. He asked for my number, but I thought it was highly unlikely that he would call considering we lived 400 miles away from eachother. I remember saying goodbye and looking in my rear view mirror feeling kind of sad because he was such a great guy. He called two days later.
I knew a few weeks in that he was special. Told my Dad after about 5 weeks that I thought I met his future son in law. It was a smack me in the face kind of thing. I was a huge commitment phobe and this was the first guy that didn't make me want to run.
He also knew every obscure song that I knew and laughed when I sang "Brandy, you're a fine girl!" after our first night of hanging out.
Oh and there were fireworks when we kissed. Literally.
I've known my husband since I was 15. I have fallen in love and had my heart broken with him many times, and I've also had many "moments" when I knew he was the one.
The first time is a long story and rather dramatic for a couple of teenagers. Might as well be a country song
The short version is I needed a ride, and DH was the only one willing to leave a party to take me home. We sat in a car for 4 hours talking spilling our guts out... and then he kissed me. I was on a crush high for a week.
Another big moment was when I was broke, living on my own in college in another state. I was embarrased about the sad state of my fridge and cried about my awesome dinner of dry cereal. About 5 hours later in the middle of the night, DH showed up at my door with 4 bags of groceries. ::Swoon::
We just clicked. He told his roommate after our first date that he just met the girl he was going to marry. My roommate told me that I was going to marry DH after our first week of dating. People could just tell that we were right for each other and DH and I knew it as well.
(I will also say that we were set up. My best friend played match maker and called me up one day to tell me she just met the guy I was going to marry. I, however, was very cautious and didn't really believe her or allow myself to believe her for awhile. Turns out, she was right. We had/have very similar values and goals in life. He allows me to be me. Allows me to be completely silly, challenges me, and seriously makes me be a better person.)
ETA: he also planned the best first date ever--knowing he put THAT much effort into the date still makes me smile.
It was only our 2nd date, but I knew totally (I think it also helped that we were set up by a very good - to both of us - mutual friend, so we both felt like we knew each other and knew a lot about each other's character based on the connection to our friend, BUT...)...
We had a day date planned and a few things on the agenda - lunch, him showing me a project he'd worked on, just driving and listening to music. After lunch, he said he had a surprise for me and opened the trunk of his car to reveal a kite. I really think it was just knowing he'd gone to such great efforts to plan something so fun and youthful for us to do made me seriously think "I want to marry this guy." Thoughtful was the quality I most desired in a partner because I think being truly thoughtful leads to so many other great qualities of a friendship and partnership, and he was/is the most thoughtful person I've ever met. The kite was just it for me
Oooh! Thinking good thoughts for you!
I just knew. He opened the doors for me and he treated my parents with respect. My dad later told me he had a firm handshake when they first met and he knew he was going to be good guy.
We really clicked on the phone and in person. Also, he made me laugh. Just like does today!
OooOooh, Mel- I wanna hear some details :-)
The first time I knew because I felt so comfortable around him and like I had known him for years. Plus the fact that we came from such different backgrounds yet wanted the same things out of life was a big draw. It was a long and bumpy road for us, including one broken engagement, no one I dated ever came close to making me feel the way I did with him.
I love hearing these mushy stories...
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We came to a make or break point in our dating, and I knew if I let him go I'd regret it the rest of my life. DH also came with me when I had to go to the ER for pain after foot surgery, he sat with me when I was on a moprphine drip asleep (all at 1 am), even the staff said - he's a keeper : )
I'm really hoping you find a great guy just like you deserve : )
How did you know? Did you just feel it? Was it right away or did it build up to it?
We both *knew* right away. Like within the first week of pre-dating (ie phone calls/emails) and our first date. I remember telling my grandmother that I found the one! And within a month of us dating we were already talking about how we knew we were it for each other.
Ours was a build up. I actually thought, when we first started dating, "this will be a fun two week relationship".
I don't think there was one moment that clicked for me to think "he's the one!". We dated for a while, loved each other and I couldn't imagine my life without him, and it also seemed like the natural progression of our relationship.
Can't wait to hear why you asked this!
I knew right away. Sorry, this is long & I feel inclined to share.
I had been in a Boomerang Relationship for about a year. On for a few weeks, off for several, on again. There was never really a reason for our splits, but I knew I wanted more than that guy did & eventually gave up. I started living for me & only me. I moved to an apartment by myself (first time with no roommates), had my cat, and came & went as I pleased. I wouldn't say I was overjoyed emotionally, but I was happy with where my life was and wanted to live in it for a while. Love me, ya know.
Well my BFF had different plans. He met DH through a co-worker who was DH's roommate at the time. BFF talked DH up for months, begged me to go meet him. Swore that DH was the male version of me and that we were perfect for eachother. The famous quote, "He's an ***, just like you." (speaking of our sense of humor).
BFF eventually tricked me into meeting him. We planned to GTG with the Coworker and were going to meet at his house. I didn't know it at the time, they were roommates. About 5 min left of an hours drive, BFF was giggling uncontrollably. I punched him and swerved all over the road when he finally told me his evil plan. Being 5 min away though, I couldn't justify turning around.
BFF was right. DH & I hit it off immediately and had a great time. There were some awkward moments, like when BFF and his coworker completely ditched DH & I. Later that night, as we were wrapping up convos and saying goodbyes we got on the subject of birthday's... someone's was coming up.
So we all started sharing our birth dates. DH spouted off my birthday as his own. I carded him because I was convinced that BFF had filled him in & it was a joke. Numbers mean a lot to me, especially my birthdate, it's my favorite number. It was true, DH was exactly 4 years my senior.
The next day I went to see two people. Boomerang, who I said my final goodbye to & who seemed more broken up about my final farewell than I expected. And my father, who before DH, I had never felt an urge to share my dating status with because our family had been seperated for so long.
Turns out BFF had never once mentioned me to DH before our meeting. Come to find out later DH had never dated a girl more than 2 months - he figured it wasn't worth wasting their time or emotion if he didn't feel it was going somewhere. I guess I blasted that to the moon. We've been together since we met that night, ten years in February.
There are many moments when I knew he was the one w/o a logical reason (For example, when he told me about collecting iron shavings with a magnet from the sandbox when he was a little boy and then trying to sell them in a garage sale for $30! So charming. I still swoon!) But logically, I knew he was the one when I realized I felt more like my true self around him than anyone else in the world and that I could not imagine not having him be in my life.
It became really clear to me when I found myself filling out a transfer application to U of Utah (the one state in the nation, I swore I would never live) because his grad school advisor got tenured at the U and DH would have to go with him or else loose 2 years of his PhD program. We had only known eachother 4-5 months but it never occured to me not to follow him there.
PS: Excited to hear that you are excited about someone!
Hmmm I never had a "he's the one" moment....We just dated...adn fought and made up and grew together.
For me its all about his bad qualities adn mine. He can deal with mine and I can deal with his...To me thats the end all be all of a strong relationship.
Honestly I think for me he became the one about a year into marriage during IF treatment and my first miscarriage...Thats probably totally wrong huh!
And most importantly so happy to hear you asking this...cannot wait to hear you share yuor "he is the one" story
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I knew Emilio was the one when he asked me to be his girl. It was a gut feeling I don't know what it was. I don't think there was one event that made me go wow he's the one, but it made my gut feeling stronger that I knew we were meant to be with each other.
I was 16 when the hubs and I met and I just knew...didn't we all know everything at that age? LOL!
The hubs and I met and from that night on were inseparable. We have been together a very long time ... that said we've had many highs and many lows (terrible, terrible lows). I have girlfriends that ask me why I stuck around (during the lows). I don't have an answer. All I know is that I did and I am happy now. I also know that there are moments when I look at the hubs or spend time with him and get those "feelings" that I had when we first met/started dating. I love the guy.
I worked with DH when we first met, and crushed on him from the very first day I walked in. I thought there was no way we'd ever be together- I was brand new to the city and he seemed to know everyone!
A few nights into work I locked my wallet, keys and phone into the locker and forgot the combo (duh!). I was freaking out, I didn't know anyone, had no keys, cash or phone. Nobody could get into the locker until DH showed up with a pair of bolt cutters and removed the lock for me. After that I worked up the courage to ask him out and we've been pretty much inseparable ever since. He's my knight in shining armor!
We net online and on our first date we met at the Greens for brunch. I was having a nice time talking to him and then he said "people are waiting for the table, maybe we should head out" or something. I felt bad, like he was not interested and wanted to leave. As we were headed out, indeed people were lined up for tables.
When we walked out we saw a sign for an art show across the way and he said "let's check out the art show", and I had an aha moment, "hey, he really is that considerate! How unusual". So it was a long date actually we walked around the whole marina. and had a great time.
Our next date was also great, we saw 12th night in Russian (with supertitles) which was a little crazy but cool. The third date we went to see Happy Feet, he invited me back to his place for dessert. Things got to that point and I said "I don't want to go there if you are dating anyone else" and he was surprised I wanted to be exclusively dating him but that he was with me. By that time, I was saying to my girlfriends that "this is the one I've been waiting for". I don't know what it was exactly, he was kind, considerate, cute, smart, sexy, funny, and we liked to do things together, and yeah, I just knew.
I've been thinking about this today and trying to remember if there was a one moment that I just knew, and I can't pinpoint any. However, our meeting was quite serendipitous so I always felt something was meant to be with him from that point. Then after our second date, we spent a while just hugging and staring at each other, and he was kind of transfixed looking into my eyes, like he was seeing something miraculous he'd never experienced before. He said some beautiful things about being able to see eternity, how our souls were connecting. It was pretty amazing, yet the crazy thing is he doesn't remember it now! Sounds like it was drug induced or something, but no... whatever it was, it definitely sealed us as a couple.