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How would you sleep train your 2 year old?
So, we never CIO with Matteo, not against it but it just didn't seem right for him. He has been able to put himself to sleep by himself and pretty much has slept through the night for about 8ish months with a few hiccups. I have seen him wake up roll over and go back to sleep but now he starts crying the minute he wakes up. However now he has been getting up a few nights a week for maybe 3 weeks with the last week he has been waking up every night and refusing to sleep alone back in his crib. This has made it so we have either slept on the couch with him or he has fallen asleep in our arms and brought to our bed. We used to cosleep after he woke up but after this long and knowing it is just separation anxiety it just isn't working for us.
A side note is that we have been trying to not let him sleep on us but us going in and getting him sleepy, leaving, patting him in his crib has easily gone from 2am - 5am before we are so tired we just give in and let him sleep on us.
When he wakes up crying how long would you wait before going in?
What would you say when you went in?
Would you just hug without picking up or pick up and settle?
How long would you stay in the room?
What intervals would you go back to comfort?
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Re: How would you sleep train your 2 year old?
:-( i'm sorry you guys are not sleeping.
When he wakes up crying how long would you wait before going in? I would go in right off the bat.
What would you say when you went in?ask him if he needed anything, water etc. I wouldn't pick him up out of the crib, but give a hug and a kiss. Tell him i would be back to check on him.
Would you just hug without picking up or pick up and settle? yes
How long would you stay in the room? very short, 1-2 min
What intervals would you go back to comfort? 5, 10, 15, 30. i would go in, keep it short and sweet, we love you, rest your eyes, i will be back to check on you.
What would you say when you went in? 10 minutes. But that is about how long it usually takes for her to calm herself down and go to sleep.
Would you just hug without picking up or pick up and settle? Hmmm. DD is in a BGB, so I'd probably lay with her. Not pick her up, so I don't have to transfer.
How long would you stay in the room? Probably no more than 10 minutes. I usually take about 5 minutes to quietly whisper and tell her that she's a big girl, its time to go nigh-night, big girls go to bed without mommy or daddy or talk about how in the morning after everyone goes nigh-night, we get to see our friends at DCP. That usually calms her down. Then I spend some time just being quiet with her stroking her hair, or rubbing her belly... then I tell her Good night and give her a kiss and leave.
we've had a lot of problems with DD getting out of bed lately (at bedtime, in the middle fo the night) so we started the above routine.
What intervals would you go back to comfort?
I wouldn't go back in.
When he wakes up crying how long would you wait before going in? I go in as soon as I'm able to stumble to his room, to make sure there isn't a problem (dirty diaper, etc).
What would you say when you went in? I check him over and then lay him back down and rub his head or pat his butt (the two things he likes) and tell him it's time to go back to sleep.
Would you just hug without picking up or pick up and settle? the first time I pick him up to check his diaper, calm him down, etc. any other time I have to go in, I just lay him back down without saying anything.
How long would you stay in the room? I rub his head/pat his butt for about 2 mins max. If it's obvious he's going to sleep I'll continue and he'll be out in another minute or so. If he's not going back to sleep, I tell him that I'll be back in 5 minutes to check on him and then I leave.
What intervals would you go back to comfort? I go back in 5 mins, then 10, then 15, etc, until he's asleep. When we first started, this process could go on for 45mins or longer. Within a week or so, he was usually asleep within the first 5 mins.
We are battling the same issues but DS has NEVER been a good sleeper. What is working for us right now is that if he wakes I let him get to the point of crying and calling out "MAMA!" Sometiemes he doesn't get that far and goes right back to sleep (about 2-3 minutes of a whine). If he begins to cry, and work himself up then I go in. I always tell him when I come in "mama is here. Your okay." I take him to the rocking chair and we rock but nor for very long, 5 miutes tops. When we rock I tell him he is okay, it is night time and time for sleep. That he needs to sleep in his crib. I rock a little longer and then stand up and put him in the crib. He normally gives a good scream or two (seconds long) and then settles down to sleep. I don't need to go back in to comfort because tops he cries is 10 minutes, much much less most night.
I will say the first 3 nights he tried to climb out of my arms to go into my bed. I just told him we weren't doing that tonight and that if he continued to squirm he would go back into the crib. Those nights I would go back in after 3-5 mintues pick him back up and comfort again.
Sleep issues are so hard. I am sorry you guys are going through this.
We have tried everything under the sun but I always go back to the same routine and I kick myself for not just starting with that when the sleep trouble began. It has always worked in 1-3 nights and now we are using it at nap too.
Eloise wakes up- I go in w/in 2 minutes. I do not get her out of bed. I just whisper it is nigh-night time and she needs to go to sleep. Then I tell her I love her, give her a final pat on the head or back and say, "I'll be back in __ minutes to check on you." Then I turn around and walk out and she is crying/yelling. I do this at the following interval: 2, 5, 10, 15, 15, 15, .... It has never taken beyond a 3rd 15.
Good luck and get some sleep!
We had similar sleep issues at that time and continue off and on since then.
When he wakes up crying how long would you wait before going in? I don't jump up and run in, I try to see if they'll calm themselves back down. If it just gets progressively louder and they sound very upset, I just go in. (For us, the boys share a room so I don't want it going on too long so the other one gets woken up)
What would you say when you went in? Usually they are asking for hugs or me so I just comfort them (hugs, shushing, back rubs, kisses, etc).
Would you just hug without picking up or pick up and settle? Usually I try to hug without picking them up or taking them out of bed.
How long would you stay in the room? I stay until I know I can sneak out and they won't wake up the minute my foot steps outside of the door
What intervals would you go back to comfort? Usually every few minutes, again depends on how loud and disruptive the crying is. If I've gone in more than 3 times, I usually throw in the towel and bring in the little one to bed with us. Not ideal for some but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.