Unpopular Opinion Thursday

LauriJean_2009 · April 2011

C'mon ladies... let it all out!

Lambie. · April 2011

The whole "false positive" thing in regards to the NT screen, AFP, Quad screen or whatever is being discussed drives me nuts. There are no false positives because it isn't diagnostic. It gives you a risk. You might have a lower calculated risk or a higher one. It isn't a false positive or negative, it's just a probability. It is what it is.

DomerJenC · April 2011

1) people who say they won't "announce" on FB b/c they just put up a photo album. Guess what, that's a pretty clear signal that you are pg.

2) NBR: I'm sick of the baby boomers as a group. We as a country are screwed until they have all kicked it. They are selfish and don't care about anyone but themselves. Yes, they are our parents, but as a group, they suck. I hope our generation does better for our kids and grandkids.

EarthMommi1 · April 2011

DomerJenC:

1) people who say they won't "announce" on FB b/c they just put up a photo album. Guess what, that's a pretty clear signal that you are pg.

2) NBR: I'm sick of the baby boomers as a group. We as a country are screwed until they have all kicked it. They are selfish and don't care about anyone but themselves. Yes, they are our parents, but as a group, they suck. I hope our generation does better for our kids and grandkids.

This. (I also agree with the first as well)

I am so sick of the baby boomers too, it seems like that generation in general expects everything to be handed to them, (healthcare & social security) I wish they would have planned their retirements not based on what the government would provide for them, but what they could provide for themselves. There I said it. I'm sure there are exceptions to this, so I don't need to hear examples.

I am getting irritated at the "I ate... insert something stupid here" post Really? I mean, you are pregnant, and if you want to confess what you ate, wait until Friday.

Oh, and I am tired of people who have HUGE a$$ siggy photos. This is crazy, I love seeing photos and putting faces to the people, and looking at all the cute kids. I just don't need to see the photo 4 x the size it should be on a message board. Just fix it, and stop bogging down the system.

SarahOrca · April 2011

Besides HDBD, my favorite thread to read of the week!

Mine this week is... I'm really fricken sick of everyone every day asking me how I'm feeling, or did I get morning sickness.... am I getting tired? The best part is, is that it mostly comes from ladies who've already had babies and probably know the answer. Do you think what I told you last week when you asked, is going to be any different this week when you asked again? I mean, I'm sure people are just trying to be nice, but it's like a terrible broken record playing over and over and over.

Also, one other thing. "Weight gain posts"... we're all pregnant, we're all going to gain weight - it's a given. If I read one more post about how someone is eating 3000 calories a day but still not gaining a pound, I'm going to scream. It's like the really skinny girls who can eat all they want but not gain any weight. Even the posts that say "I've gained 15 lbs. so far...how terrible"... I don't need to read. Let's keep our weight situations to ourselves :P

SheLovesMrHip · April 2011

I am annoyed at reading posts that go on and on about " oh I have no bump" or " oh I haven't gained any weight". Really well thatss awesome for you but I am over hearing about it! I was a small itty girl before I got pg but guess what, my ass aand thighs are huge now and oh rub the belly becasue I got it for days now!

Bumping from my droid today.....

memo9 · April 2011

lisajay09:
I hate when parents ask you to participate in their kids' school fundraisers (buying candy, wrapping paper, pledging money for the kids to do some ridiculous thing like stand on their left foot for ___ minutes, whatever). I think it's rude and presumptuous to think I want to give my hard earned money to your kids' school. What's worse, is sending kids door to door or having them stand outside of supermarkets begging for donations. My kids will never do this. If there is a fundraiser at their school and they need/want to participate, DH and I will buy all the candy, wrapping paper, etc, so, I don't have to obligate family and friends or turn my kids into panderers.

(I've just been "asked" to give money, AGAIN, and I'm so annoyed).

I enjoy helping kids out and think it teaches them responsibility over their "earnings." I took part in many fund raisers in school and was always appreciative of the generosity of others. In the grand scheme of things, $10-20 to help out a school or family is not a big deal to me.

Mrs. Mo · April 2011

I know I should be greatful that people want to buy stuff for the baby but I'm getting a bit aggrivated with a few people. They just keep buying random crap that we will not use. That and they buy something even though we are planning on doing something different. EX: We don't want the baby to sleep in our bed but someone purchased a cosleeper (they already knew our plans). Same person purchased a bunch of stuff in a color that is the 1 color they know I hate and even said numerous times that I will not put my child in something of that color. Also, we are pretty particular about what car seats we use and someone bought a random one w/o even asking if we were planning on registering for one. I know this makes me sound like a brat but these are all from people that will know if we return the items or don't have them out so people can see ( think close family members). We live in a condo and although it is an ok size, we don't have room for random crap that we won't use.

jpeazybreezy · April 2011

I don't like that unmedicated birth has become "natural" birth. We're hypnobirthing, and my DH likes to say I'm going natural, but I told him that all women give birth naturally. Unless that baby climbs out of the top of your head (and probably even then too), you have given natural birth. If they have to cut, pull, suction, you just push, or it pops out of your chest Aliens style, its all still natural.

Along those lines, I also disagree with the huge backlash against c-section. Yes it can be overused and abused, but to put this way my midwife explained it:" For most women c-secions are a miracle. There are lots of mothers and lots of babies that wouldn't be here without it". I have friends who are so adament that this tool was developed to help Dr's go golf or to help rich women pick out their due dates and get tummy tucks. If you're going to be smart enough to research alternatives to traditional western birth, I think that you should also understand traditional western birth...duh.

jwls84 · April 2011

I am sick of people telling me what they "want me to have" if my MIL says one more time you better have a girl I might punch her in the face. The baby is going to be what the baby is going to be, you threatening me to have a boy or a girl is not magically going to change the sex of this baby!!!

alison2379 · April 2011

PappsMcgee:
The "anyone not doing ______" threads crack me up. Of course there are people NOT doing something, this is a public message board with millions of people on it. Life would seriously be grim if we were all doing the same thing. I just wish people would phrase the title differently, especially since there is at least one thread like this every day

I have been tempted to be like, "NO. You are the ONLY ONE." When I see one of those. But that would probably make me a bad person.

My feelings on weight posts are well established (I hate them) but what cracks me up more is the itemization of food choices. Usually, it's really not that appalling. Which makes me feel kind of sad for the poster, that she is spending that much time counting up food in her head.

My UO: I really judge people that don't cook. Or say they can't. REALLY? Being a gourmet chef is not needed, but you, as a functioning human being should at least have a few meals in your rotation that people can actually stomach. Saying you can't cook is basically saying you're too lazy to learn. And does that mean you buy every single meal out or packaged? Which then ties back to my food itemization thought: when I eat something like Five Guys, it's a rarity and I don't even give it a second guilty thought, because I cook most of my meals at home with organic protein and vegetables and high quality ingredients.

amy0610 · April 2011

People who obsess over what to name their baby or who are fearful about pleasing their mother/MIL/sister/BFF/etc. Its your child. Pick a name you like and be done with it.

itsmegin · April 2011

jpeazybreezy:

I don't like that unmedicated birth has become "natural" birth. We're hypnobirthing, and my DH likes to say I'm going natural, but I told him that all women give birth naturally. Unless that baby climbs out of the top of your head (and probably even then too), you have given natural birth. If they have to cut, pull, suction, you just push, or it pops out of your chest Aliens style, its all still natural.

Along those lines, I also disagree with the huge backlash against c-section. Yes it can be overused and abused, but to put this way my midwife explained it:" For most women c-secions are a miracle. There are lots of mothers and lots of babies that wouldn't be here without it". I have friends who are so adament that this tool was developed to help Dr's go golf or to help rich women pick out their due dates and get tummy tucks. If you're going to be smart enough to research alternatives to traditional western birth, I think that you should also understand traditional western birth...duh.

Amen sister! My mom and grandmother had to have c-sections or they and their babies (AKA my mother and me) would have died. They tried labor, both fully intended to go natural with no drugs, but after not dilating enough after being in labor for a ridiculous amount of time, there really wasn't a choice. It was a biological thing for them, their bodies just didn't work right to allow a vaginal birth and I hate how people look down on that, or assume it was an elective thing or the easy way out, especially since I wouldn't be here if it weren't for c-sections.

I think people need to be open to all kinds of birth options, and not so judgemental about what people end up choosing or needing. You don't look down your nose on people who have to have an appendectomy because your appendix works and you didn't need one, so don't judge mothers who have to have a c-section for various reasons.

jonnygurl76 · April 2011

jpeazybreezy:

I don't like that unmedicated birth has become "natural" birth. We're hypnobirthing, and my DH likes to say I'm going natural, but I told him that all women give birth naturally. Unless that baby climbs out of the top of your head (and probably even then too), you have given natural birth. If they have to cut, pull, suction, you just push, or it pops out of your chest Aliens style, its all still natural.

Along those lines, I also disagree with the huge backlash against c-section. Yes it can be overused and abused, but to put this way my midwife explained it:" For most women c-secions are a miracle. There are lots of mothers and lots of babies that wouldn't be here without it". I have friends who are so adament that this tool was developed to help Dr's go golf or to help rich women pick out their due dates and get tummy tucks. If you're going to be smart enough to research alternatives to traditional western birth, I think that you should also understand traditional western birth...duh.

thank you for this. i just got tears in my eyes reading this and i didn't think it still bothered me so much. i was given the side eye by nurses and friends when they heard i had a c section with my first baby "without even trying". my baby was transverse and very high and after 2 weeks of on and off contractions i hadn't dialated at all, my Dr told me it was my decision to be induced and hope she moved with the possibility to have an emerg. c section or to have the c section and not put myself or DD through the stress and possible side effects. it was with tears that i opted for the c section because i felt it was the safest choice for my child and myself. when my Dr. came to see me after DD was delivered she told me in all of her years of delivering babies she had never seen anything like my DD--i ended up with a much larger scar than the usual because she had to re cut me and use a medical tool that held my belly open so that they could get DD down and out--she never would have changed her position and moved down on her own. i had made the right decision for me and my Dr said she was so relieved that i had opted for the c section after she saw the position DD was in. i hate to think what could have happened if i had chosen to try to induce.

but to be told that i "didn't really deliver my baby" was the biggest slap in the face i have ever received from someone. my Dr wasn't in a rush to go golfing and i certainly didn't have a tummy tuck.....my main priority was to have a healthy baby and that is all that matters to me regardless of what others have to say about it.

rescueddogmom · April 2011

I hate it when people ask if this pregnancy was planned. So many people have asked us that, including MIL. I think it's completely rude and nobody's business. Is it so hard to believe a 32-year-old couple who have been married for nearly four years planned a pregnancy? It's like asking, "so, did you get drunk one night and forget to use protection or were you trying?"

osuwku · April 2011

I am getting irritated when people keep telling me, "make sure you eat more since you are eating for 2 now." Yes, I know I need to eat a few more calories than normal but if I'm full then I'm full!

Also, it's annoying when people point out the my boobs are huge now! Really?! Do they think I somehow managed to overlook these big heavy things hanging off my chest that hurt when I roll over in my sleep or even put on a bra. Thanks for letting me know that they are growing!

BettyBookworm · April 2011

itsmegin:
jpeazybreezy:

I don't like that unmedicated birth has become "natural" birth. We're hypnobirthing, and my DH likes to say I'm going natural, but I told him that all women give birth naturally. Unless that baby climbs out of the top of your head (and probably even then too), you have given natural birth. If they have to cut, pull, suction, you just push, or it pops out of your chest Aliens style, its all still natural.

Along those lines, I also disagree with the huge backlash against c-section. Yes it can be overused and abused, but to put this way my midwife explained it:" For most women c-secions are a miracle. There are lots of mothers and lots of babies that wouldn't be here without it". I have friends who are so adament that this tool was developed to help Dr's go golf or to help rich women pick out their due dates and get tummy tucks. If you're going to be smart enough to research alternatives to traditional western birth, I think that you should also understand traditional western birth...duh.

Amen sister! My mom and grandmother had to have c-sections or they and their babies (AKA my mother and me) would have died. They tried labor, both fully intended to go natural with no drugs, but after not dilating enough after being in labor for a ridiculous amount of time, there really wasn't a choice. It was a biological thing for them, their bodies just didn't work right to allow a vaginal birth and I hate how people look down on that, or assume it was an elective thing or the easy way out, especially since I wouldn't be here if it weren't for c-sections.

I think people need to be open to all kinds of birth options, and not so judgemental about what people end up choosing or needing. You don't look down your nose on people who have to have an appendectomy because your appendix works and you didn't need one, so don't judge mothers who have to have a c-section for various reasons.

I will piggyback along the lines of C-section. I think that they are marvelous for those women who need them.

My UO is that C-sections scare the ever-living bejeesus out of me. I am terrified that I might need one, but what can I do? If I need one, I need one & there it is. I would rather have a C-section, even if it scares me out of my wits, than die in childbirth or lose my baby.

I would like to have a vaginal birth. That is my "plan" but I am pretty sure that plans can change in an instant. So I am doing my best to be flexible & do what is necessary when the time comes.

norvelln · April 2011

I live in a military community. Only 14% of the military is female. I am one of the 14%...

#1:
"And what does your husband do?"
He is a stay-at-home who manages the house, the kid and me.
"So he doesn't do anything huh...wish I had that life, heh heh Mr. Mom, kept man"

Screw you.

My husband served his country faithfully for 20 years. He has graciously given me the opportunity to continue to do the same. He ensures there is a parent at home EVERY day with our daughter when she gets home from school. He packed me for deployment and TDY while schooling me on how to be a damn good NCO. And yes...once my con leave is up and I return to the world of the military, he will be the primary for our baby. Don't you dare call him "Mr. Mom", a mooch or lazy. He works WAY harder than I ever will and treats me like a QUEEN.

Yup, I am the primary breadwinner and he is the stay at home. GET with the effin' times. It doesn't take a penis to bring home a paycheck and he is just as effective a parent even though he does not have a vagina.

StephK · April 2011

jpeazybreezy:
I don't like that unmedicated birth has become "natural" birth. We're hypnobirthing, and my DH likes to say I'm going natural, but I told him that all women give birth naturally. Unless that baby climbs out of the top of your head (and probably even then too), you have given natural birth. If they have to cut, pull, suction, you just push, or it pops out of your chest Aliens style, its all still natural.

Along those lines, I also disagree with the huge backlash against c-section. Yes it can be overused and abused, but to put this way my midwife explained it:" For most women c-secions are a miracle. There are lots of mothers and lots of babies that wouldn't be here without it". I have friends who are so adament that this tool was developed to help Dr's go golf or to help rich women pick out their due dates and get tummy tucks. If you're going to be smart enough to research alternatives to traditional western birth, I think that you should also understand traditional western birth...duh.

Thank you! I love you for both of these points. I think it was discussed last week, natural as compared to.. unnatural? Words have power and calling unmedicated births natural immediately puts those who have medicated births in the realm of the unnatural and it drives me nuts. It really is unmedicated vs. medicated.

I have no idea how this baby will be born, because I have no idea how the rest of this pregnancy will go. I am at increased risk of complications, pre-eclampsia, etc., so I know I have to be flexible. I would love to have a plan that I will give birth vaginally, but I know better than to plan on it. My hope and dream is to give birth to a healthy baby, no matter how it happens.

Since we're on the subject, overall, I really hate it when people are absolute about their positions on all things baby-related - birth style, feeding choice, child care, etc. There is room for everyone, stop being so judgmental.

skruhmin · April 2011

I am so flippin' tired of being tired - and yes, having people ask how I'm feeling all the time. Can't you tell by the bags under my eyes and my half-opened eyelids?!? I'm also tired of people asking if I can feel the baby yet. Believe me, you'll know when I can feel my baby. I also don't like how my body looks right now, especially naked - yes I'm showing and I have been for a long time but when I'm sitting, in some ways it looks like just a big fat blob. I can't wait until it's definitely the pregnant look without the fat blob.

Mandy747 · April 2011

We've sort of been through this one before, but it keeps coming up IRL, so...

I am SO TIRED of the concept that pregnant women can't exercise or be physically fit. Most people were super supportive while I was running the marathon on Monday, but you wouldn't believe the number of people from the crowd who said, "You need to stop. You're going to hurt your baby." or "What kind of doctor would actually let you do this?"

Seriously, people? Get with the times. It is in no way necessary for pregnant women to sit at home with their feet up for nine months. In fact, it's actually really good for us and our babies when we exercise regularly. So suck it.

StephK86 · April 2011

Edit: I am going to try this again. My computer is being crazy today sorry!

freckleface77 · April 2011

I really adore my mother, and I know that she's just being her cute self...but why does she keep asking me how the baby is doing? How the eff should I know? Whaddya want me to do, knock on my belly to wake it up, ask and then wait for one or two knocks back in response for an answer??? Pfffffft *rolling eyes*

amyc216 · April 2011

alison2379:

IMy UO: I really judge people that don't cook. Or say they can't. REALLY? Being a gourmet chef is not needed, but you, as a functioning human being should at least have a few meals in your rotation that people can actually stomach. Saying you can't cook is basically saying you're too lazy to learn. And does that mean you buy every single meal out or packaged? Which then ties back to my food itemization thought: when I eat something like Five Guys, it's a rarity and I don't even give it a second guilty thought, because I cook most of my meals at home with organic protein and vegetables and high quality ingredients.

It's not that I can't cook, it's that I hate cooking.

cantalopes24 · April 2011

alison2379:
PappsMcgee:
The "anyone not doing ______" threads crack me up. Of course there are people NOT doing something, this is a public message board with millions of people on it. Life would seriously be grim if we were all doing the same thing. I just wish people would phrase the title differently, especially since there is at least one thread like this every day

I have been tempted to be like, "NO. You are the ONLY ONE." When I see one of those. But that would probably make me a bad person.

My feelings on weight posts are well established (I hate them) but what cracks me up more is the itemization of food choices. Usually, it's really not that appalling. Which makes me feel kind of sad for the poster, that she is spending that much time counting up food in her head.

My UO: I really judge people that don't cook. Or say they can't. REALLY? Being a gourmet chef is not needed, but you, as a functioning human being should at least have a few meals in your rotation that people can actually stomach. Saying you can't cook is basically saying you're too lazy to learn. And does that mean you buy every single meal out or packaged? Which then ties back to my food itemization thought: when I eat something like Five Guys, it's a rarity and I don't even give it a second guilty thought, because I cook most of my meals at home with organic protein and vegetables and high quality ingredients.

I completely agree with the cooking thing. People also always give the "don't have time" excuse. Going out to eat is way more expensive and time consuming than cooking at home. As for the weight thing, no one here knows your body type or how at risk you are for GD and other complications so I don't get the point of people asking how many calories they need daily or how much weight they should have gained/should gain overall. There is no real standard of healthy. That being said I also disagree with the "your body will tell you what to eat" and the "oh don't worry the pounds will fall off" Common sense will tell you if what you are craving is healthy and as an adult it's your judgement call on what's appropriate to give in to.

pennysuedog · April 2011

lisajay09:
I hate when parents ask you to participate in their kids' school fundraisers (buying candy, wrapping paper, pledging money for the kids to do some ridiculous thing like stand on their left foot for ___ minutes, whatever). I think it's rude and presumptuous to think I want to give my hard earned money to your kids' school. What's worse, is sending kids door to door or having them stand outside of supermarkets begging for donations. My kids will never do this. If there is a fundraiser at their school and they need/want to participate, DH and I will buy all the candy, wrapping paper, etc, so, I don't have to obligate family and friends or turn my kids into panderers.

(I've just been "asked" to give money, AGAIN, and I'm so annoyed).

My son is in forth grade, it is the schools who have the kids do all the fun raisers and believe me there is like one once a month. We choose to try not to participate, but they get the kids excited to do them and win prizes. If you try to buy all the stuff for them you will be spending a small fortune, if you try to, not participate you feel guilty. I agree they shouldn't use the kids like pawns to get cash.

LauriJean_2009 · April 2011

MY UO: If you don't like the title of a post, don't read it. Don't complain that the contents of a thread annoys you when you have control over whether or not you even open it.

memo9 · April 2011

pennysuedog:
lisajay09:
I hate when parents ask you to participate in their kids' school fundraisers (buying candy, wrapping paper, pledging money for the kids to do some ridiculous thing like stand on their left foot for ___ minutes, whatever). I think it's rude and presumptuous to think I want to give my hard earned money to your kids' school. What's worse, is sending kids door to door or having them stand outside of supermarkets begging for donations. My kids will never do this. If there is a fundraiser at their school and they need/want to participate, DH and I will buy all the candy, wrapping paper, etc, so, I don't have to obligate family and friends or turn my kids into panderers.

(I've just been "asked" to give money, AGAIN, and I'm so annoyed).
My son is in forth grade, it is the schools who have the kids do all the fun raisers and believe me there is like one once a month. We choose to try not to participate, but they get the kids excited to do them and win prizes. If you try to buy all the stuff for them you will be spending a small fortune, if you try to, not participate you feel guilty. I agree they shouldn't use the kids like pawns to get cash.

Once a month is way overkill. I don't think I ever did more than once or twice a year. Definitely annoying.

Sunburn19 · April 2011

Mandy747:
you wouldn't believe the number of people from the crowd who said, "You need to stop. You're going to hurt your baby." or "What kind of doctor would actually let you do this?"

People were yelling from the crowd? Really? I would have been cheering my butt off and probably had tears in my eyes for the awesome job you were doing. It's amazing that people were jeering. Wow, humans are strange.

sunshine610 · April 2011

My mom is trying to come up with something "different" for the babies to call her and my dad because she doesn't want to be called grandma because it sounds old. I hate it. It is my mission to make these babies first word grandma because I hope after she hears that we never have to have this conversation again.

Also? You have children old enough to have children. That is what a grandma is! Deal with it!

SandyandFrankie · April 2011

lisajay09:
I hate when parents ask you to participate in their kids' school fundraisers (buying candy, wrapping paper, pledging money for the kids to do some ridiculous thing like stand on their left foot for ___ minutes, whatever). I think it's rude and presumptuous to think I want to give my hard earned money to your kids' school. What's worse, is sending kids door to door or having them stand outside of supermarkets begging for donations. My kids will never do this. If there is a fundraiser at their school and they need/want to participate, DH and I will buy all the candy, wrapping paper, etc, so, I don't have to obligate family and friends or turn my kids into panderers.
(I've just been "asked" to give money, AGAIN, and I'm so annoyed).

That is crazy that kids still go door to door. Schools here still do fundraisers but they always stress that the kids should NEVER go door to door.. ask parents, grandparents, the end.

memo9 · April 2011

lisajay09:
MegMo10:
lisajay09:

I hate when parents ask you to participate in their kids' school fundraisers (buying candy, wrapping paper, pledging money for the kids to do some ridiculous thing like stand on their left foot for ___ minutes, whatever). I think it's rude and presumptuous to think I want to give my hard earned money to your kids' school. What's worse, is sending kids door to door or having them stand outside of supermarkets begging for donations. My kids will never do this. If there is a fundraiser at their school and they need/want to participate, DH and I will buy all the candy, wrapping paper, etc, so, I don't have to obligate family and friends or turn my kids into panderers.

(I've just been "asked" to give money, AGAIN, and I'm so annoyed).

I enjoy helping kids out and think it teaches them responsibility over their "earnings." I took part in many fund raisers in school and was always appreciative of the generosity of others. In the grand scheme of things, $10-20 to help out a school or family is not a big deal to me.

What kind of resposibility is it really teaching a 5 year old when there's a great big prize at the end of the fundraiser for the kid who raised the most money?

I'm a teacher and the kids really could care less about the fundraiser itself, they want the pencil/stickers/toys/candy they get at the end of them for participating and the hope that they win the BIG prize for being the best. Sorry. I'm so irritated about this today.

For a 5 year old? Probably not effective at all. For older kids, it teaches them that they can be responsible for the outcome they desire. If they want the prize, they need to do the leg work to earn it. There is a direct correlation between work and earnings.

As a disclaimer though, when I was in elementary school we only did fund raisers for March of Dimes and Jump Rope for Heart. I would probably feel differently if schools were constantly soliciting me for money.

cnw112784 · April 2011

jpeazybreezy:

I don't like that unmedicated birth has become "natural" birth. We're hypnobirthing, and my DH likes to say I'm going natural, but I told him that all women give birth naturally. Unless that baby climbs out of the top of your head (and probably even then too), you have given natural birth. If they have to cut, pull, suction, you just push, or it pops out of your chest Aliens style, its all still natural.

Along those lines, I also disagree with the huge backlash against c-section. Yes it can be overused and abused, but to put this way my midwife explained it:" For most women c-secions are a miracle. There are lots of mothers and lots of babies that wouldn't be here without it". I have friends who are so adament that this tool was developed to help Dr's go golf or to help rich women pick out their due dates and get tummy tucks. If you're going to be smart enough to research alternatives to traditional western birth, I think that you should also understand traditional western birth...duh.

This...My mother, and two aunts would have died without c-sections...with my little brother, because of my moms previous problems, they knew it would have to be a scheduled c-section, and she had to schedule it thus letting us "pick" his birthday...when it goes to far is when I watch some "real housewives" show and those morons talk about being lucky enough to have a surrogate for their children, not because they cant have children, but because they want to preserve their figure...are you kidding me....

SandyandFrankie · April 2011

sunshine610:
My mom is trying to come up with something "different" for the babies to call her and my dad because she doesn't want to be called grandma because it sounds old. I hate it. It is my mission to make these babies first word grandma because I hope after she hears that we never have to have this conversation again.
Also? You have children old enough to have children. That is what a grandma is! Deal with it!

OMG, this is like my MIL! She's so sweet, but point form story: BIL fiance has 3 kids from previous relationship. Youngest daughter started calling MIL "Husha"?? MIL always wanted to be called "granny". Now she wants our kids to call her Husha too.. which means what exactly? Hubby thinks it is weird, as do I (but would never tell her so).

pennysuedog · April 2011

EJSSBG:
DomerJenC:

1) people who say they won't "announce" on FB b/c they just put up a photo album. Guess what, that's a pretty clear signal that you are pg.

2) NBR: I'm sick of the baby boomers as a group. We as a country are screwed until they have all kicked it. They are selfish and don't care about anyone but themselves. Yes, they are our parents, but as a group, they suck. I hope our generation does better for our kids and grandkids.

This. (I also agree with the first as well)

I am so sick of the baby boomers too, it seems like that generation in general expects everything to be handed to them, (healthcare & social security) I wish they would have planned their retirements not based on what the government would provide for them, but what they could provide for themselves. There I said it. I'm sure there are exceptions to this, so I don't need to hear examples.

I am getting irritated at the "I ate... insert something stupid here" post Really? I mean, you are pregnant, and if you want to confess what you ate, wait until Friday.

Oh, and I am tired of people who have HUGE a$$ siggy photos. This is crazy, I love seeing photos and putting faces to the people, and looking at all the cute kids. I just don't need to see the photo 4 x the size it should be on a message board. Just fix it, and stop bogging down the system.

I understand about being mad a the financial situation of this country but I don't think the baby boomer generation is to blame.

I think the government is to blame. The boomers are just guilty because they in the lie. They were promised a retirement, they put in their hard earned money and were deceived. That money was not put aside but brought into the general fund.

If a private corpoartion ran the way the government does they would be locked up in prison. Don't blame the boomers, I know my parents didn't want to sell the future generation down a creek with out a paddle. I think our generation has the blinders off and knows not to believe in the fairytale the government tells. You will have to pay for your healthcare and you will have to pay for your own retirement.

cnw112784 · April 2011

somebodysmama21:
freckleface77:

I really adore my mother, and I know that she's just being her cute self...but why does she keep asking me how the baby is doing? How the eff should I know? Whaddya want me to do, knock on my belly to wake it up, ask and then wait for one or two knocks back in response for an answer??? Pfffffft *rolling eyes*

This! Everyone is always asking me hows the baby? I dont know Im not bleeding and still barfing so it should be alright, two weeks ago when I heard its heartbeat it was still there. But really I have no way of knowing. BTW hows your kkidney? Or your spleen at this you know those organs about as well as I know the baby!

hahaha this is funny, people keep asking me and I keep responding "I guess still kicking it in the pool"....its like if you havent heard anything terrible, then odds are its still in there...

LauriJean_2009 · April 2011

sunshine610:

My mom is trying to come up with something "different" for the babies to call her and my dad because she doesn't want to be called grandma because it sounds old. I hate it. It is my mission to make these babies first word grandma because I hope after she hears that we never have to have this conversation again.

Also? You have children old enough to have children. That is what a grandma is! Deal with it!

My friends kids call their Grandmother "Mimi"... drives me nuts! My grandmother was always Mom-Mom to me and that is what my mom will be.

KindraMc · April 2011

Mandy747:
We've sort of been through this one before, but it keeps coming up IRL, so...

I am SO TIRED of the concept that pregnant women can't exercise or be physically fit. Most people were super supportive while I was running the marathon on Monday, but you wouldn't believe the number of people from the crowd who said, "You need to stop. You're going to hurt your baby." or "What kind of doctor would actually let you do this?"

Seriously, people? Get with the times. It is in no way necessary for pregnant women to sit at home with their feet up for nine months. In fact, it's actually really good for us and our babies when we exercise regularly. So suck it.

AMEN!!! I am a Zumba instructor and had a male friend ask me "will people really want to take a class from a pregnant woman? Not really motivating is it?" After I resisted the urge to slap him - I said that I think it would be more motivating because if I can do it, why can't you?!

My UO: My husband suggests stupid baby names (eg. friends of ours, first cousins). He thinks that we know to many people so to rule out names of people we know is impossible. I think he's being CRAZY - I refuse to name my child after your loser friend who used to date underage girls. I think I should have full right to get more of a decision over the baby name then him I will give him 30% say - but I'm definitely taking 70%.

StephK86 · April 2011

SarahOrca:
Mine this week is... I'm really fricken sick of everyone every day asking me how I'm feeling, or did I get morning sickness.... am I getting tired? The best part is, is that it mostly comes from ladies who've already had babies and probably know the answer. Do you think what I told you last week when you asked, is going to be any different this week when you asked again? I mean, I'm sure people are just trying to be nice, but it's like a terrible broken record playing over and over and over.

Anyways I am going to try this again because my computer at work is being nuts today! Sorry!

I hate this too my coworkers ask me all the time how I am feeling. I work with almost all females most of them ask me daily. I think to get them off my back I will start doing the same things.

I hate that people assume because I am not married to my BF that this baby was an "oops" and we aren't prepared. I have everything a baby needs, money saved, a huge loving family and a loving household. We already are a family, married or not, I will not be any less of a mother because I am not married! We also tried very hard and very long for this baby. So I would appreciate if people (mainly older people) would keep their dated opinions to themselves!

LCass · April 2011

SarahOrca:
Mine this week is... I'm really fricken sick of everyone every day asking me how I'm feeling, or did I get morning sickness.... am I getting tired?

I completely agree! My issue right now is that they ask, but then don't believe me when I say I'm feeling good (nausea's been gone for weeks, I just have the occasional headache). I answer, and then they keep going "Really? Are you sure? No morning sickness?" I've also got people freaking out if I choose to stand or sit on the floor when there's a shortage of chairs. I'm barely showing! I promise, when the belly gets big I will gladly let you give me your seat. For now, I'm enjoying still having that range of motion, and as a pp poster mentioned (way to go on the marathon, btw!) we don't need to sit with our feet up for 9 months!

Saemilyn · April 2011

LauriJean_2009:

My friends kids call their Grandmother "Mimi"... drives me nuts! My grandmother was always Mom-Mom to me and that is what my mom will be.

Mimi is a term of endearment the French use for Grandmother. My hubby has a Mimi.

Mom-Mom sounds as strange to me as Mimi does to you.

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