Upset...mom getting remarried

JakesBride07 · April 2011

My dad past away almost 5 years ago. My mom is remarring on May 5th, I am ok with this and have actually a decent relationship with her soon to be husband. What's upsetting to me is that she asked my half sister (my dad's daughter) to be her MOH. Mind you my half sister never lived with us and hardly ever came to visit/call. The only time she is in the picture is when money is involved.

I am really upset that my mom didn't ask for me to be her MOH or give her away. She isn't having a big fancy wedding (just a small ceremony at the courthouse) and up until tonight I thought only me and my grandmother were going to be there.

To make matters worse my half sister and I haven't spoken since I got pregnant when she snidly told me "I hope your daughter doesn't treat you like sh!t the way you treat your mother." (At the time, my mother and I had gotten into an arguement where my mother told me that she wanted nothing to do with my kids and she never asked me for grandchildren.

We have come a very long way since then and are closer now then ever, so this literally is like a stab in the back to me. No real point to this post but thanks for letting me vent.

Leigh71 · April 2011

((Hugs)) for you.

I would be hurt too. It is just my sister and I. My mom has always been "best friends" with my older sister. For years, it has been hurtful. One time, she even treated my sister to a vacation to Bermuda, and hired a babysitter to stay @ home with me. I was in HS and didn't need a sitter... and I really wanted to be a part of the trip.

I could be wrong, but i'm thinking your half sister has no children? I think her snide remark to you is from pure jealousy. Because if she was a mom herself, she would not tell her own sister mean stuff like that.

Lilystar82 · April 2011

(((hugs))) That really is a hurtful situation.

Do you think it's possible that your Mom didnt ask you because you have so much on your plate? Not saying that that makes it less hurtful, because it definitley doesn't. Just maybe where she was coming from?

I agree with Leigh and it sounds like your half sister may be jealous. That was a really snide comment to make and overall rather uncalled for.

I really hope this all works out. (((huge hugs again)))

OscarQ · April 2011

Vent away! My mom got remarried this past summer and it was a nightmare. I didn't go to the ceremony or reception (lots of history involved).

Family relationships are so strange and convoluted when you think about it. I'm sorry that your mom picked your half sister to be her MOH - as a mom she should know not to pick one child over the other - even if there are a million valid reasons why (not saying there were).

kcs939 · April 2011

could it have anything to do with you being married(assuming you are or were) and not a maid(traditionally?) or maybe thinking it would be too much for you with kids? or maybe just your mom trying to make a nice gesture to half sis without really considering your feelings?

I think people often either don't think at all about what they do and how it affects others, but also they may be thinking but they think in all the wrong ways, if that makes sense...like worrying about you being too busy, or too obligated, or maybe just like I said about making a gesture towards half sis?

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