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Kind of annoyed and kind of sad (grandparents not coming to C's birthday)
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Neither my mom (my biological mom) nor my MIL will be coming to Charlotte's birthday party. I never expect that everyone can make it, and I know it's just a child's birthday party, but it would be nice if her grandparents would make the effort. Oh well. They aren't so it doesn't matter, but that leaves me trying to figure out what to do about her party.
The only reason I care about having a traditional birthday party is to get family and friends together, but without her grandparents there, that leaves us with a few extended family members and a few of our friends... kind of an odd mix, as it is the grandparents who tie all of us together, if that makes sense. I'm thinking I should just cancel the party I was planning (a grillout at a local park) and just do something fun as a family on her actual birthday. Obviously all that is important to Charlotte are the presents and cake and special birthday girl treatment, which of course, we will have plenty of.
I'm sad it won't be the kind of party we would usually have, but let's face it- birthday parties are a lot of work and money, and if her grandparents aren't going to be there, I'm not sure it's worth it. What would you do?
ETA: Moving it to another weekend isn't doable since my nephew's birthday party is the following weekend... the weekend after that is my cousin's son's 1st birthday party, a family member's graduation party and Memorial Day all on the same weekend and Mother's Day is the weekend before her party. May is just a busy month and this was literally the only day we could do it, not to mention I already reserved the park shelter for that date.
Ava Caroline 8.27.07 I Charlotte Grace 5.18.09 I Lila Katherine 1.20.11
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Re: Kind of annoyed and kind of sad (grandparents not coming to C's birthday)
I agree with this: I'm thinking I should just cancel the party I was planning (a grillout at a local park) and just do something fun as a family on her actual birthday. Obviously all that is important to Charlotte are the presents and cake and special birthday girl treatment, which of course, we will have plenty of.
Full blown parties, while nice, are more for the guests than they are for the LO's, especially at this age. Spend the day doing what Charlotte likes to do, and enjoy it as a family of five. Stash the money you'll (likely) save into her college (or car, etc.) fund.
I kind of agree-- do something extra special, let her pick all the days activities and maybe still decorate the kitchen so she can wake up to some streamers, balloons, donuts for breakfast, etc. Make sure to take lots of pics of the fun stuff you do so that you will still have the memories of her birthday even though you aren't having a big blow-out.
Use some of the money you will be saving by maybe going somewhere special as a family that you wouldn't normally want to pay to go to (aquarium or something like that).
ITA... in our family we do big blow outs for the 1st Birthday (obviously a BIG one).. and not that the rest aren't special.. but we keep it low key for the years after that. Otherwise with all the cousins, etc there would be big parties every month and it just gets out of hand.
I should clarify that this was going to be a low key party, not a big blow out... that's not the part I'm upset about. I'm upset that her grandparents aren't going to be there. I mean, they're the grandparents.
I'm sorry that the grandparents aren't going to be able to come to the party. Will they be able to celebrate her birthday at all?