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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Maura8
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Baby A passed at 22 Weeks
Maura8
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From the moment I saw the positive pregnancy test I feared miscarriage. I thought "no one can be this lucky" - after being married for 9 years to the most wonderful man in the world we became pregnant almost as soon as we started trying.
At my first doctor's appointment I was sure something was wrong because of how long it took for her to say anything while she looked at the ultrasound. But no, amazingly there were 2 little sea monkeys bouncing around. We never expected twins!
We finally shared the news with our families at 10 weeks and at 11 weeks I had a little spotting which sent me into panic mode again.
Our 12 week ultrasound showed two, beautiful little babies... Baby B, was jumping all around and sweet Baby A was curled up. They both looked perfect.
By 18 weeks I was really showing and once again the babies looked beautiful on the ultrasound. Baby B, was more active and weighed 8oz. Baby A, was more calm and weighed 7oz.
At 20 weeks the feeling of worry over losing the babies had started to lift. We set up our registry, we ordered our cribs - we shared the news with everyone... even strangers.
At 21 weeks the doctor peeked at both babies and we saw their hearts beating away. 8 days later at our growth ultrasound we learned that Baby A had died.
Since everyone knew, we worked to get the word out quickly and the support has been amazing. Knowing that so many are thinking of us and praying for us has been a wonderful help. On the other hand, that part can be difficult too. I don't have a difficult time talking about what happened but sometimes after I've had to talk about it a few times in one day or break the news to someone else I feel heavy-hearted and I need to cry a little bit.
The complexity of losing a baby and expecting a baby is challenging. Baby B kicks and moves all day long. Knowing that he/she is thriving makes us so happy and is just so exciting. Still, it's very hard to know that there is another baby in there too... one who is much, much smaller now and being reabsorbed by my body. Carrying these two babies together brings both complete joy and complete sadness - one feeling doesn't eclipse the other - just like one baby will never take the place of another.
Anyhow, today has just been rather difficult and I thought it might help to share my story.
Our "Blueberry" is due 7/31/11!
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Re: Baby A passed at 22 Weeks
~ Miscarry at 8 weeks with D&C in May 2011 (low progesterone).
~ Had a healthy baby girl in June 2012 via C-Section (on prometrium to sustain).
~ Surprise pregnancy at age 40! Baby boy due April 26, 2021 (took prometrium to sustain once pregnancy was confirmed, 3rd C-Section planned).
BFP #1 07/04/10. EDD 03/14/11. Missed m/c 08/09/10. D&C 09/27/10. }Casey & Jaimie{
TTA for 18 months and then TTC for 12 months
TTA for 7 months
Jan-Mar 2014 - RPL, SHG, karotyping: all results normal
TTC Again May 2014
Progesterone & baby aspirin combo for 5 cycles - All BFN's
SA with DNA fragmentation = Perfect results
Diagnostic cycle monitoring = Polycystic ovaries leading to premature egg release
TTA Oct 2014 - Jan 2015
Jan 2015 - Medicated cycle with timed intercourse
My Blog: The Canadian Housewife PGAL/PAL Welcome My Chart
BFP#1 EDD 11/8/11 - MC @ 9w6d, 4/15/11 we said goodbye
BFP#2 DD arrived 5/7/12
My heart is as open as the sky.
Read about it on the blog
2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
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I'm so sorry. I've been attending a support group for infant loss and one of the girls there had a similar experience, losing one of her twins at 15 weeks. She just gave birth to the other, a little boy. She talked about how incredibly emotional it has been mourning the loss of a baby while celebrating the other. I can't imagine. Many hugs to you.
Im so sorry for you lost,
I know its a hard pill to swallow but you have to stay strong and dont stress yourself out for the sake of baby b I will keep you in my prayers, I would do anything in the world to have even one of my twins back.
I know this feeling. I'm so sorry for your loss.
bfp 1 - m/c 1.31.11 @ 10 weeks
bfp 2 - baby born via c-section on 5.4.12 @ 37 weeks
bfp 3 - blighted ovum/d&c on 4.13.13 @ 8 weeks
bfp 4 - 3rd IUI, very late BFN with super low P, c/p
bfp 5 - natural bfp while on lupron, baby born via RCS on 4.27.15 @ 39 weeks
bfp 6 - surprise! baby born via RCS on 11.13.16 @ 38 weeks