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1st Day as a SAHM

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DH had six weeks off with DS and I and today was his first official day back.

Do you have any advice for me? ?I'm kind of worried about being home so much...
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  • HarrietNJMommyHarrietNJMommy

    My advice: relax and go with the flow. I'm left alone a LOT with the girls. I'm expecting #3 next month. If it were THAT bad, we wouldn't be having so many kids so close together!

    GL!?

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  • rjbear21rjbear21 member

    like pp said, go with the flow. it's hard to juggle everything being a SAHM. i'm just now getting it all together and my DD is 4 months. 

    my husband is away from home for work for about 5-7 days at a time and home for 2 or 3 before he goes out again, and it gets difficult sometimes.  i don't stress when something doesn't get done because there will always be tomorrow to do it,  there will not be a tomorrow to catch DD doing something for the first time.

    if you have any friends or relatives nearby that you know you can call for help,  do it if you need to.  you may have a day where you just need a small break! GL

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  • KL777KL777 member

    Congratulations on the baby! 

    Join a Mommy & Me group for adult interraction with those who are also SAHM's.

    Be sure to get rest when you can...be sure DH does his part in regards to his time with the baby and household things.

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  • Alexandra*sMomAlexandra*sMom member
    For me, getting out and socializing is important.  For me and the kids.  I joined MOPS and Moms Club as well as an indepenant playgroup (Moms Club has one too).
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  • drunkenwifedrunkenwife
    I remember my first day alone when hubster went back to work.  I couldn't WAIT till he got home at 5:30!  I spent the whole day thinking I was going to somehow break the baby.  All day I kept thinking "omfg wtf was I thinking!?!?!  I'm soooo not ready for this!" 
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  • Brina BeanBrina Bean
    I think the toughest part about being a SAHM is ensuring that you don't STAY at home to the point where you start to feel disconnected from others.  In other words, continue to go out during the day and socialize as you always have...now, with a partner in tow.  Big Smile  I also saw it as an opportunity to make my house a home as I was not able to do so before DS when I was a work-a-holic.  Give it time, make sure you get help whenever you need it, and take things day by day.  GL! 
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  • sparky88sparky88

    Brina Bean, that is an adorable pic of your baby in the bouncer! 

     I am not a SAHM yet, but will join the crowd that has a husband who travels 5-6 days a week. We're hoping I can join him on his trips w/ the baby from time to time, if possible. 

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  • BaklerBakler
    I attended a mom's group through the hospital. Through that we made a play group of moms who are staying home. It has been great to get out with people in the same situation as me.
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  • levanslevans

    Take it one day at a time.  Try to get out as often as you feel comfortable- even if it's only a trip to Target.  Try to join some Mom groups.  The hospital where I had DD has a montly meeting for new mom's.  I've met a couple girls there that I meet up with throughout the month. 

    Enjoy the time with your little one.  They are only little so long. 

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  • RachelW06RachelW06
    imageKL777:

    Congratulations on the baby! 

    Join a Mommy & Me group for adult interraction with those who are also SAHM's.

     

    I completely agree. This was a life saver for me! Being with other moms and talking about all of the stresses/joys/frustrations/happy times with others who are going through the same things was tremendously helpful. 

    My only other thought is to try to remember not to neglect yourself. We all have to remember that we were women before children and while we love being mommy, we have to remember to keep some non-kiddo interests/hobbies, etc.

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  • mandymackmandymack member
    imageRachelW06:
    imageKL777:

    Congratulations on the baby! 

    Join a Mommy & Me group for adult interraction with those who are also SAHM's.

     

    I completely agree. This was a life saver for me! Being with other moms and talking about all of the stresses/joys/frustrations/happy times with others who are going through the same things was tremendously helpful. 

    My only other thought is to try to remember not to neglect yourself. We all have to remember that we were women before children and while we love being mommy, we have to remember to keep some non-kiddo interests/hobbies, etc.

     

    Double-ditto!

    I've been sah for 3 years now and still absolutely LOVE it!  There are rough days and days I felt isolated and lonely but you have to PUT IN what you hope to GET OUT!  :)  Joining the mom's group I am still a very active member in was the best decision I ever made, as well as to make an effort to have one evening all to myself for hobbies reading, etc. and  keeping in mind that "this too shall pass" when things were exceptionally rough.  :)  Best of luck!

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