First time posting...Really need some advice about Pedi!!

jend310 · April 2011

Hi, I'm new to posting. I usually just "bop" around the site & check others questions & advice on common issues or problems I might be going through too. I do, however, need some advice of my own...

My DS was circumcised right after birth, and probably the last 2-3 well visits I had told our pedi that my DH & I were concerned about the way his pee pee was healing. My DH insisted it didn't look "right" to him. She assured me that as long as I had been pulling it back it was fine & that "they" don't really like to re-circumcise and over some time our LO should "grow into it". She almost seemed annoyed that I kept bringing it up, like I was unhappy with it cosmetically rather then medically. She reluctantly gave me the name of some urologists to take him to if we REALLY wanted to. She even suggested having my DH go to the appointment so he could hear firsthand that there wasn't a problem. After the appt I spoke with my DH we decided to follow our pedi's recommendation and if she didn't feel it was medically necessary we weren't going to pursue it.

Days later as I was changing my DS & pulled back on his pee pee, as I usually do, he began to scream and I noticed he was bleeding from the area. I called our pedi's office right away & they said to just bring him to one of the urologists she had recommended. I did the following day & he said that my DS had formed a skin bridge & he was able to pull it back further in his office. It was all swollen and bleeding & filled with this smegma (sorry for the TMI) and it hurt my DS terribly to have him correct it! I told him how my DH & I had thought there was a problem & he didn't seem to want to comment either way on whether our pedi's opinion was right or wrong....just said it was very common.

So, now my DH wants to change drs. I'm not sure how I feel about it. We also have a 6 year old boy and we've been with this dr since his birth. I love the office staff & nurse there, but I am really upset & I feel the dr ignored our concerns & blew me off saying there was nothing wrong. Obviously there was!

I was so obsessive over the care of his circ b/c my older son went through a similar situation and had to get re-circ'd. I didn't want to see my baby go through that same pain, but here I am AGAIN!

What would you do??? Am I over-reacting??

KLMFBP3 · April 2011

No, I do not think you are over reacting at all. ds 1 had similar issue and ds 2 had to be circ'd @ 8 months bc of kind of similar issues. If you ever are unhappy with your dr or have concerns, i always get a 2nd opinion. is there another dr in the office you can see since you like the staff? our peds office has 5 drs in it and more at other locations.

giantsgirl55 · April 2011

TOTALLY NOT overreacting....I would be soooo pissed, and it happened twice.? WTH?

Is your pediatrician a practice with more than one Dr. in it. Maybe switch to a different Dr. within that practice.

I agree with your husband, I think it's time to get your records and switch.

Emiliana7 · April 2011

Honestly, I would change dr's if it was me. But if you have such a long history with this dr and this is the first and only thing that's 'gone bad' maybe wait out a little bit.

On a different note- I thought one wasn't suppose to pull back on the circ. while it was healing? At least that's what I was told after my DS got circ'd.

Maybe you dont' mean 'pull back' as what I'm thinking of either.

Hope all works out.

VABride2008 · April 2011

I would probably change pediatricians. Dismissing a concern like that shows they don't care about their patients. Sorry you are dealing with that.

JDO · April 2011

I'm sorry you're going through this, and hugs to your LO for being such a trooper!

I don't think you're over-reacting. I had a similar experience where we were made aware of the adhesion but not shown how to care for it properly by the first doctor we saw. We were pushing the skin back, but not far enough. By his next appointment the skin had readhered to the point the doctor had to force the skin back leading to lots of redness, swelling, and pain for my LO. We had to put neosporin on it for almost a week until it looked normal again and he stopped screaming through diaper changes. I will not be bringing W back to that doctor ever again. We chose another doctor in the same practice and are much happier.

If you don't feel something is right, your doctor should check it out no matter what it is. What concern will they blow off next time, and what will the outcome be? I wouldn't risk it. I'd ask to see another doctor in the practice or start looking for a new doctor now.

delg23 · April 2011

Emiliana7:
Honestly, I would change dr's if it was me. But if you have such a long history with this dr and this is the first and only thing that's 'gone bad' maybe wait out a little bit.
On a different note- I thought one wasn't suppose to pull back on the circ. while it was healing? At least that's what I was told after my DS got circ'd.
Maybe you dont' mean 'pull back' as what I'm thinking of either.
Hope all works out.

I would definitely get a new doctor!!! And I didn't pull anything back and my son was healed within a week. I'm curious if your obgyn did the circumcision or the pediatrician. If it was the pediatrician I think they were covering their butt the whole time. You are not a doctor and YOU could tell something was wrong. There are no excuses!!

snansley · April 2011

I think adhesions are pretty common especially as they get older. DS developed one and the pediatrician had to pull it back at either his 4 or 6 month appt. He also considered it no big deal and said it was something that they can grow out of. DS wasn't pleased when it happened but we haven't had a problem since.

That being said, I would think your pediatrician would be a bit more senstive to your concerns given your previous history with DS 1.

jend310 · April 2011

thank you everyone for your posts & support. we're still not sure weather to change pedi's yet...DH would like to, but it's a little harder for me to "cut the strings". after reading up more on how common the adhesions, it seems some say leave them alone & they'll work themselves out and others say have it "pulled back" in order to avoid it permanently connecting which would require more of a surgical procedure later on. i don't think my dr was wrong, she may have just been of the 1st opinion, which is fine, but she didn't really explain it to me. i think the dr's job is to inform the parents of all options and ultimately we would make the decision. because of that i may think more about seeing the other dr in the practice in the future. in all the years we've been going there, this is really my only complaint...so is it really that bad??? i'd hate to leave this office only to find that i'm not happy with anyone else in the area. i would like to give her a big fat "I Told You So" though at his next well visit! lol!

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