WWYD (another ? about announcing)

littlewinnie15 · April 2011

I want to make the announcement so badly tomorrow (me and DH's birthday)...but I'm afraid it's too early and people will be all "oh, you're still so early!"

We did see the HB at our dating u/s (9 weeks) and I have heard the HB on our home doppler multiple times. We don't have our next appointment until the 25th. I will be 11 weeks tomorrow (Which my FF pregnancy tracker calls 12 weeks?? Confusing...)

WWYD-- wait, or tell?

ETA: I should probably clarify that we've already told immediate family/best friends. This is more for telling extended family and other friends that we've been avoiding at social situations.

jjswife08 · April 2011

It's completely up to you as to when is a "good" time to tell. We told at 10w because we had seen the HB twice at that point and felt good telling. Also, we felt that should something happen to LO we would want the support from our families.

ldswims · April 2011

I think if you want to, you should. You have some positive things telling you that moving forward is likely and a really great reason to have everyone together and celebrating.

And for the FF pregnancy tracker - I get peace of mind by thinking of that as "in the 12th week" which means 11 weeks completed and counting. Kinda like I am 35 yo but working on my 36th year. By the time you have a birthday, you've completed that many years, since we turn one 12 months after we're born.

littlewinnie15 · April 2011

ldswims:
I think if you want to, you should. You have some positive things telling you that moving forward is likely and a really great reason to have everyone together and celebrating.

And for the FF pregnancy tracker - I get peace of mind by thinking of that as "in the 12th week" which means 11 weeks completed and counting. Kinda like I am 35 yo but working on my 36th year. By the time you have a birthday, you've completed that many years, since we turn one 12 months after we're born.

Ahh, yes that makes sense when you put it that way!

As far as telling, one minute I'm thinking "what the hell, if I want to tell I should tell"...DH agrees too. But then, the more logical side hits me about the what-ifs... plus then I can't help but feel like it seems everyone else waits until week 14 or 15.

Sporkmoostipe · April 2011

It's really an individual thing.?

My sister waited about 11 weeks (Mother's Day) and revealed it to everyone. My SIL waited until 19 weeks, because she was afraid of "what could go wrong" and was afraid of having to untell people. Sadly, she lost the baby at around 22 weeks. I have friends who revealed they were pregnant after the first trimester, when they started showing, or the same day as their BFP.?

It's all about what works for you. Like the PP said, it's a lot easier to have the support of others if somethign does go wrong. And it's also very special to have people knwo earlier on, because you can share the excitement you're feeling.?

We revealed to our immediate families (sisters, brother, my parents, my MIL and GMIL) the day after I found out (I had an ultrasound the next day to confirm it was not an etopic pregnancy and such). And we revealed the pregnancy at my Nanna's birthday party (at 8 weeks) to the rest of my family.

Summer20 · April 2011

Since you asked WWYD - I personally would wait.

Are you having an NT scan at 12 weeks? For DH and I, that u/s is reassuring that things are going well and after that we feel more comfortable going public. If I wasn't having that u/s, then yes, I guess I'd be fine telling now since I definitely wouldn't wait until 18-19 weeks (whenever you have the anatomy scan).

littlewinnie15 · April 2011

Summer20:
Since you asked WWYD - I personally would wait.
Are you having an NT scan at 12 weeks? For DH and I, that u/s is reassuring that things are going well and after that we feel more comfortable going public. If I wasn't having that u/s, then yes, I guess I'd be fine telling now since I definitely wouldn't wait until 18-19 weeks (whenever you have the anatomy scan).

I'm not sure when I'll have the NT scan. My office will schedule it with an offsite location for anytime between 11wks and 13wks 6days...DH and I are still contemplating even having it because I think I'm pretty low risk...

iSAIZso · April 2011

I was originally planning to tell my family on 4/25 after our 3rd ultrasound (I'll be 11 weeks, and saw a strong heartbeat @ 8 weeks). I've had several very early m/c's so I am anxiously awaiting being able to give my parents good news about their first grandchild - but I am just waiting until I get a little further than before (I've never made it past 8 weeks). So, I will be waiting until 11 weeks.

My cousin announced her pregnancy to the world when she was 7 weeks, so I guess it is all about your comfort level and good you feel about the pregnancy.

ClaraEarlene · April 2011

If you want to, go for it! DH and I are telling our extended families (our parents and siblings already know) on Easter (I'll be 10 weeks), even though we don't get to hear the heartbeat for another week or so after that. A lot of women on here would advise against it, but it's right for us.

Froggy76 · April 2011

If it were me, I'd wait, but this is really such a personal decision. I told immediate family and a couple best friends right away, and everyone else will wait until 2nd tri. I've had a loss before and I realized that I don't want to be completely alone if that happens again, but I don't want the world to know, either.

With that said, everything looks good for you so far, so there's no reason to think anything will go wrong. If you want to tell, go for it!

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