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To use a pacifier or not to use a pacifier.

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I am totally 1000% for pacifiers, and am more than ready to break out the one we got from the hospital. Unfortunately, BF, for some unknown reason, hates them with a passion. Refuses to even have them in the house (he doesn't know about the one from the hospital). DS just wants to suck on something. Anything. Unfortunately, I don't have the time to sit here all day and let him suck on my finger, which BF is fine with. I've given him the bink when BF was at work, and it was wonderful, I could sit him in the swing and he just sat there content as could be.

BF refuses to listen to reason, as we were both thumb-suckers until we were 4 or 5, and it would be so much easier to wean him off the pacifier than the thumb. 

Do you ladies have any advice on how to talk him into it? I am at my wit's end because all my baby wants to do is suck!

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Re: To use a pacifier or not to use a pacifier.

  • jess1984jess1984
    Let him use his nipples as pacifiers for a while and see how he likes it... lol. Just put one in his mouh when bfs around and lo is fussing away and say "see he needs this becuase he wants to suck, there is nothing wrong with it" Or take him to the pedi and have the pedi tell him there is nothing wrong with soothers.
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  • august06momaugust06mom member
    Tell the BF to get over it and let your baby have some comfort.
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  • AvieeAviee

    I'd say let LO use your breast all day while your BF is around and that should change his mind.  H was all for pacis just because he didn't have the time or nipples suitable to soothe DD when he had to watch her.  And he didn't want to wean off of fingers.  H feels bad when DD is attached to my chest all day and I'm pretty sure it makes him jealous lol

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  • EEN09EEN09 member
    Early use of pacifiers is actually recommended. My DD uses one and LOVES it. 
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  • august06momaugust06mom member
    Also, pacifiers are thought to possibly reduce the risk of SIDS. Maybe that will help.
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  • MrsNinerMrsNiner member
    imageaugust06mom:
    Tell the BF to get over it and let your baby have some comfort.
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  • jess1984jess1984
    Also there are some studies (according to my pedi) of how soothers may actually help decrease the risk od sids... thats a pretty decent reason for me
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  • mrs.ptbmrs.ptb member

    imageaugust06mom:
    Also, pacifiers are thought to possibly reduce the risk of SIDS. Maybe that will help.

    This PLUS have him consider the cleanliness of your finger... 

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  • skioskio member

    Ditto everyone else. BF's opinion, however strong, happens to be wrong. Sucking soothes newborns - sometimes nothing else will work and it can be a lifesaver. A pacifier is a tool and their use is recommended by most pediatricians.

    My pedi recommended them and we use them occasionally - DD won't take one when she's really upset but it does work when she's fussy and helps get her to sleep when she's protesting a nap. MIL is totally against using pacis, too, but that won't make me stop using them. I won't let DD suck on a paci forever, but while she's a newborn, I'm going with doctors' recommendation.

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  • mittensonkittensmittensonkittens member
    I'm not a fan of the paci myself, but I'm considering giving it a shot with my LO because he is still too young to find his thumb. Whether or not to use a paci is a fairly trivial parenting decision. I would be more concerned that your SO has such a strong opinion about something trivial when you're the one home with baby all day. I'd go buy all the pacis I wanted and tell my DH he could (a) hang around all day and let baby suck his man boobs or fingers, or (b) let me do what I need to do to get through the day. If he didn't like it he could kiss my sleep deprived a$$.
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  • p1nklemonadep1nklemonade member
    both dh and i are anti-pacifier, but we've been using one.  she has a crazy sucking need. 

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  • jessjo04jessjo04 member

    Maybe suggest a timeline for taking it away. We're (hopefully) going to take DS's pacifier away around 6 months. I don't see a problem with babies having pacifiers, I think it can get out of hand when a child is 4-5 years old and still has one.

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