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Hey ladies. Our neighbor had a first-night seder last night, which was very convenient. We asked the nanny if she could stay late, so we could take Ruby over for a little bit and then bring her back and put her to bed.
My neighbor said she was starting at 7. Seders can be long. I've been to this neighbor's for a seder before, and she's more of a medium (2-3 hours) person. So I'm thinking, we start at 7, we'll be done (completely, the whole ceremony and eating and everything) by 10 max. Maybe that's where I went wrong.
We get over there a few minutes before 7, and everyone is arriving. Ruby meets everybody and starts getting tired around 7:30, so I take her home. Come back, and we finally sit down around 8. Then we try to proceed through the haggadah (seder prayer book), and we get stopped on 95 different tangents and side conversations. Not only that, but the air conditioning appears to be on in the house, but it isn't working. And DH and I appear to be the only people that are uncomfortable. Everyone else looks totally normal and our face and ears are totally red because we're so hot.
So fast forward to 9:30. We've told the nanny we will be back by 9:30 at the latest, as she has been at our house since 8:30 this morning. AND WE STILL HAVEN'T EATEN. So we tell my neighbor, we're sorry, we have to leave, go home, relieve the nanny, and stuff our faces with PB&J. And do all the things we would normally need to do on Monday night, just later. And go to bed later. And now I am an extremely cranky monkey, when normally I'm in a much better mood on Tuesday after I've gotten Monday out of the way. ARGH.
Amy
P.S. I also forgot to mention that I went to use the bathroom at my neighbor's house and there was no toilet paper. So there's a cabinet above the toilet and I was hovering and trying to look in the cabinet for toilet paper at the same time. And of course there wasn't any. Fun!
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Re: Vent - join in if you like
I looked sedar to see exactly what is was and I saw this "Other traditions include neurotic cleaning before the holiday." I've never seen cleaning as part of a holiday tradition but I would think that if your neighbor did it she would have made sure there was tp in the guest bathroom.
I would definitely try to find a dr who delivers at the nicer hospital if it means you dont have to share a PP room. Yikes! I would not like that at all - I'm a mess after I have a baby and I need my privacy.
Totally this. No way in hell would I want to share a room. There was a lot of private things going on in that pp room (bodily fluids on the floor, people checking out my nethers, etc.) that I needed absolute privacy for. And having to deal with HER visitors during the day when I'm trying to sleep or something? Not to mention being pissed at having to deal with TWO newborns in a single room overnight. No one would sleep. Wait, unless they make you send the babies to the nursery, too?? Nowayinhell.
No.Way.In.Hell! I hope your sister can forgive you, but you need to switch! You can have a good doctor at a better hospital! That doctor can't be the only good one around there
Sharing room would be a NIGHTMARE. And, you couldn't have dragged my husband from that hospital room. He had to sleep in a chair (basically) and that didn't matter one bit. Besides, I would have freaked if he hadn't been there. Good luck!
my vent is that i think dh's parents forgot how old L is. for his birthday they sent him a hat - size 4-7, and clothes size 4T. Um, he just turned 2. and he's always been in the 5% for weight and 20% for height. he doesn't even wear 2T yet. i know i shouldn't complain about the gifts but come on... put a little thought into it!
my other vent is that my stupid alarm didn't go off this morning and dh was up studying and he didn't even notice i hadn't woken up until 6:50... i have to leave by 7!!! so i had to shower, eat breakfast + change within 10 minutes!!
ah, got to love tuesdays!
yeah, but Tuesday gave you crosshairs! woohoo!!!
That's a really stressful situation. :-( I will say that typically, the doc is only in the room to "catch" the baby (in a normal, uncomplicated delivery), so he won't even be in there very long. And one bad birth story? I bet even Seeker has ONE patient who didn't like the way their birth went (gasp!).
It'll all be okay!!
i know i'm so excited!
Um, no, you are not a superficial biotch. There is NO WAY that you are going to want to share your room. I remember getting up from the bed and fluid GUSHING out of me, DH having to help me get my panties down and up, etc. etc. PLUS, you are going to want to have alone time with your DH and your baby... not DH, your baby, and some other family. And there is no way in hell that I would have been ok with DH not being there in the night... and he wouldn't have been ok with that, either. Get a new doctor and tell your sister to call me if she's pissed about it.
OK, tell me what you think - this is the email I received from the bumpie. is this a deal breaker? I obvs don't care about the waiting part nor do I care about the receptionist not being nice.
Well... I am no longer a patient of Dr. C. He was great up until I delivered. He was late in coming to the hospital. I had started to push to see how things would go and my son started coming out soon. Dr. C was supposed to be on his way (he lives 12 minutes from the hospital). Over 45 minutes later he came and my son popped right out. I was literally holding him in. My son had to go to the NICU and looknig back I believe that may have been the issue.So with all of that, I can no longer recommend him. I am thinking about writing him a letter since he was my dr. for so long even before my son. He is just taking on too many patients. I would have to wait at least 30 minutes and even longer for an u/s. I delivered vaginally obviously. I would say he is 50/50 on those births. My son came a day before my induction which would have been a full week late. I was fine with waiting. Dr. C came just for the birth and left right afterwards. I saw him once the next day. One of Dr. C's receptionists is not very friendly. I know others have talked about her.I'm going to take you up on this offer - trust me. my sister and I have gotten into a few screaming matches, even as adults.
**snicker** about the 30 minute wait time. HA. HAHAHAHAHA. That's a LONG time? Oh, honey. I am a Dr. S patient. I'd kill for a 30 min wait time. And what did she expect him to do after the baby was born? Hang out and have dinner with them?
Is she saying that because she had to wait to push that her baby had to go to the NICU? I wish we knew what his symptoms were. Even if we did, to be fair, he could have needed to go whether or not she waited to push. And, she doesn't say how long he was there... was here there for 3 weeks or 3 hours just for observation? My baby had to go to the nursery for 4 hours after I delivered her for observation, and my doc was there and I didn't have to wait to push. So, you never know.
For me, this wouldn't be a dealbreaker. You aren't in a position where you can take your time and shop around for doctors, and this one "bad" story really isn't that bad. The not meeting the doc thing is hard but its not like you have a long time to develop a relationship with him. Take a deeeeep breath. Its gonna be great!
yeah, I know - 30 min wait? psh.
thank you, I feel better about the situation! I'm going to call one other office this morning, but I called last week for another doc in the same practice and the receptionist told me she wouldn't see me this late. I have a name I can drop now so I'm going to try that - plus, it's with a different doctor within the practice. but I still might get the same receptionist who could still shoot me down.
I am a Dr S. patient, and with baby #2, I was ready to push but Dr S. hadn't arrived yet so I had to hold her in a bit too. It wasn't fun, but I don't blame Dr. S for that! He was literally in the room for maybe 30 seconds and my DD was born. He cleaned me up, cleaned her up, gave me a hug and left. The doctors aren't there for very long either before or after the birth - you spend the majority of your time with the nurses. Good luck!!!
This made me laugh! (only because of the irony that it's Passover and the rescue meal was a PB&J).
That sounds like a long and sucky seder!
Hot, hungry, and frustrated do not make for a good time. I'm sorry it wasn't more enjoyable.
I know right? We were so freaking hungry that I didn't care about eating leavened bread. Also, I went out of my way and got donuts this morning. DONUTS. So laugh some more.
S, I wouldn't worry too much about that one review. I thought about that after you told me about it, and I think the person that wrote the review didn't have the whole story from the doc's perspective. I highly doubt he was 30 min late due to his own negligence. My guess would be something beyond his control happened and by chance he just barely made it. Sure, that's not an ideal situation, but I'd hardly consider that one incident as a deal breaker for a doc. And like LL said, we don't know what was up with the baby either...having to go to the NICU could have been anything...aspirating;/swallowing meconium (which happened to Annabelle and it's not all that uncommon), labor just being hard on the baby period, difficulty breathing, etc. Any of those conditions can be present even if the doc is there the whole time.
My doc was there for several hours of my labor, and they were still worried that Annabelle would have to go to the NICU. so anyway, don't worry! I think you should go with your gut about getting the overall experience you want and choose that option.
Also, the good news is you probably won't deliver before you get to meet the doc. Statistically unlikely.
xoxoxo
Disclaimer: my vent is EXTREMELY, EXTREMELY petty and completely self-centered. So take it fwiw. :P
I decided a couple weeks ago to get eyelash extensions just to try them out so I'd know what to tell clients about them. It'd also be nice to be able to have clients just go get eyelash extensions for weddings and such, since attaching false strip lashes is kind of a PIA. Anyway, I went to the place a good friend goes to, and got a full set for the bargain price of $200. (No really, that's the bargain price.
) I don't think the girl did 'em right, because I lost the majority of them within a week. So I had to call to have them fixed, at which point I then was 10 min late to the appointment and the girl I was scheduled with had already left. 
So then I scheduled another appointment for today, but the other night I had to go ahead and remove all the rest of the lashes I had left because I just looked stupid. So i'm afraid they're going to tell me today that they can't replace the whole set because I'm only scheduled for a fill. UGH! If they'd just done it right to begin with, I wouldn't have had to manage all these appointments and look like a freak with half an eye of lashes for a week.
See, I told ya. Petty. But annoying.
LOVE IT!!!
My doctor was delayed for Jakob's birth. Once it was obvious that this baby was coming, the nurses called up a doctor from the ER. There was no 'holding him in'.
I wouldn't base anything off that review.
Sounds like you had a different type of lash extension. Those are typically less expensive because yes, the do bond the lash to a cluster of your own lashes. The ones I had were bonded to individual lashes one extension per lash as opposed to one extension for a cluster of lashes. The ones I had do fall out along with the natural lash it is bonded to, which happens anyway when you naturally lose your own lashes, but what happened to mine was the actual extensions were coming un-bonded from the natural lashes. I didn't lose any natural lashes when they came out; the extensions just fell off.
Sorry it wasn't what you had anticipated but the seder is suppose to be a long meal and typically last for several hours. It's suppose to be engaging and relaxing since the whole point of Passover is the Exodus of slavery into a life of relaxation and freedom.
I totally get where you're coming from misjenn. But I'm going to side with Slobina here and say that experience was definitely a long one (and hot, to boot!)
Passover is my favorite, favorite holiday (Sukkot runs a close second), I really enjoy long seders with lots of interesting topics and copious amounts of wine and good company. But having to sit through a very long seder with a little one, feeling very hungry, and with a broken A/C, I would have been a beast and a half.
Word. Hot, hungry and no toilet paper just sucks!
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We moved when I was 7.5 months preggo and basically I just found a Dr. who would deliver at the hospital where I wanted to deliver. Bonus that I ended up liking her, but she didn't deliver my baby, another Dr. in the practice did since it was a weekend. I've heard some "bad things" about their practice but the Dr. who delivered V was great and, like RSSN said, he was there mostly to catch and stitch me up. And like PP said, I'm all about the private room when the nurses have to be all up in your lady bits, putting ice packs in your undies and measuring your urine output every time you go to the bathroom. Also, I would have pitched a FIT if they'd made DH leave at night. Nowayinhell!
News flash: I'm Jewish. I've been to a seder every year of my life. I know what it is about and how long it is. That doesn't make it any easier to sit in an unairconditioned house for several hours when you're hungry and you've worked all day.
I had to wait to push, too. When I got to the hospital I was 5 cm and the doc thought I wouldn't deliver until 10 or 11 that night. Well, I progressed really quickly and was ready to push around 6:45 but he had gone home. So I couldn't push until he got there. It happens. That would not be a deal-breaker for me.
Ah ha ha! That is AWESOME.
Settle down my over all point was that it didn't sound very relaxing I didn't get to clarify after accidentally posting because I had to leave to pick up my daughter from preschool As for your newsflash I assumed you were Jewish because I don't know a lot of non Jews that attend Seders. I would have excused myself with DD and went and ate something at home if I was starving personally. Or you can host the seder at your house next time. Problem solved.
You're right - it wasn't relaxing. That was the point of calling it a "vent." And as I said in my post, I took Ruby home at 7:30. Our nanny stayed late so she could be at the house with Ruby while we attended the rest of the seder. So I couldn't really well say, "Excuse me, I'm hot and really hungry here, so I need to go home."
Maybe I'm just a diva but I can't imagine sharing a room with anybody after just having a baby. Maybe that's the only child in me talking. It's hard enough to try and bond with your baby by yourself with as often as the nurse had to come in and check on me, give me pain meds, feed me after I had DS. Not to mention trying to get any rest with DS screaming at me. I think I'd flip my shiz if I couldn't get any sleep due to somebody else's baby in our room.
And same goes for the now H in the room with me. He left the hospital for hours while I was in the hospital because my mom was staying at our house and he kind of just went to oversee her and make sure she wasn't doing our laundry or something and I was fine with that but I'd be d@mned if I was going to go through an overnight without him there to help me with DS's cluster feeding, wakeful times.
So...the point of that whole rant is most definitely look into a different OB.
As for my vent of the day...actually it probably counts as yesterdays, I rolled my ankle walking through my office. I rolled one ankle during New Year's and yesterday I rolled the opposite ankle. So now both ankles are pretty messed up. My ankle/foot/leg is hurting in places I didn't know could hurt from an ankle roll. DH is ecstatic because I'm sure in his head he thinks it'll stop me from wanting to wear my fun high heels ever again. Silly boy. But the new ankle injury means I'll have to stop running for a little bit. I'm being optimistic and hoping I can do some sort of low impact exercises at the gym by the end of the week. We'll see.