Does DH go with you to ET?

DeputiesWife · April 2011

Story :

My nurse gave me a time line with max/min days on BC and max/min days of stims.

Only one combo DH will be here for the ET, the other 3 he will not.

If I recall, you are on bedrest after ET, correct?

Thank you for your help!

Mandy_Lou83 · April 2011

DH did go w/ me to ET?

I was given Valium the day of my ET so I had to have someone drive me home. I could have went w/out taking the Valium, but I think it helped me when I found out we only had one crappy embryo to transfer.

The entire day was pretty emotional and I don?t think I could have gone through it w/out DH being w/ me.

DeputiesWife · April 2011

Mandy_Lou83:

DH did go w/ me to ET?

I was given Valium the day of my ET so I had to have someone drive me home. I could have went w/out taking the Valium, but I think it helped me when I found out we only had one crappy embryo to transfer.

The entire day was pretty emotional and I don?t think I could have gone through it w/out DH being w/ me.

This is what I told my nurse who said I completely undestand wanting him there...DH is all - do you really need me. I said physically, no, but emotionally and mentally, yes.

madelyn07 · April 2011

Mandy_Lou83:
DH did go w/ me to ET?

I was given Valium the day of my ET so I had to have someone drive me home. I could have went w/out taking the Valium, but I think it helped me when I found out we only had one crappy embryo to transfer.

The entire day was pretty emotional and I don?t think I could have gone through it w/out DH being w/ me.

This exactly (down to the valium!). Also we do have a 3+ hour drive to the clinic so DH almost always goes with me when I have to go up to the main clinic...

illinigal · April 2011

At my old RE, DH didn't go to either of my 2 ETs. DH couldn't come since he was OOT for work, so I asked them about it. They said if someone drove me, I could take the valium beforehand, but if not, I'd have to wait until I got home to take the valium.... they said that would have been fine. However, my mom drove me. The only thing was that DH and I agreed how many we thought we wanted to transfer ahead of time and that was 2. However, given our craptastic embryos and the fact that we did a 3 day transfer, when I got there, they showed me the stats and 3 really seemed like the way to go, so I called him and explained the stats to him and he agreed to go with 3. I had to sign a form saying how many I wanted to transfer. There was a line for DH to sign as well, so the nurse put a note that I called him.

We are now seeing a new RE for IVF #3. I haven't asked their policy on if DH is required to attend ET, so I should probably do that since it is soon. However, I know DH won't be OOT for work. But since we moved to Indy, my mom is no longer in town, so that won't be an option.

Good luck to you!!

Eriksgal · April 2011

My RE required that someone be there to drive you home because they don't want you stressed driving after. I did very modified bedrest for 2 days after-I drove myself to accupuncture the next day but other that that I just took it easy. Good luck!!

DeputiesWife · April 2011

madelyn07:
Mandy_Lou83:

DH did go w/ me to ET?

I was given Valium the day of my ET so I had to have someone drive me home. I could have went w/out taking the Valium, but I think it helped me when I found out we only had one crappy embryo to transfer.

The entire day was pretty emotional and I don?t think I could have gone through it w/out DH being w/ me.

This exactly (down to the valium!). Also we do have a 3+ hour drive to the clinic so DH almost always goes with me when I have to go up to the main clinic...

The main clinic is where I will be having mine done as well -- its about 1.5 hrs with no traffic -- if this is in the middle of the day, there is bound to be a shitton.

Bella2u07 · April 2011

Mandy_Lou83:
DH did go w/ me to ET?

I was given Valium the day of my ET so I had to have someone drive me home.

Ditto!

My RE did not rec bed rest, just to take it easy the day of ET...but we are OOP and I wanted to make sure I did anything I could, so I took it upon myself to take the of and the day after ET off.

matt'sbride · April 2011

Mandy_Lou83:

DH did go w/ me to ET?

I was given Valium the day of my ET so I had to have someone drive me home.

This. I knew I wanted him there for emotional and physical support. I don't think I could have done this without him. In his words, he says if we were conceiving the "old fashioned" way he would be present, so why wouldn't he be present for conception in this way. Make sense?

hollymichael · April 2011

For my OE cycles, DH went with me. My clinic gave me valium so someone would have to be with me to drive.

For DE, we are cycling out of state. It is hard for both of us to leave work for several days, so I go alone. That clinic doesn't give valium, so I am fine to drive. It is much better when DH can be with me.

07may07 · April 2011

DH comes with me as long as his work schedule permits. I've had 5 ETs and I think he's been at 3. I love having him with me for it, but if he can't come, it's okay. I took valium for the first two transfers, so he was there to drive me. But, I don't take the valium anymore, so if he can't make it, I am okay to drive.

My clinic only requires that you take it easy after ET. If DH is not with me, I drive the hour home and then just relax on the couch till he gets home from work.

OCW2010 · April 2011

Thanks for asking this. I just found out last night that my H will be OOT on the 2 days they are projecting a 5dt would be (if we make it there). I will just have a friend drive me there and back.

I'm more worried of who will do my PIO shots.

illinigal · April 2011

OCW2010:

Thanks for asking this. I just found out last night that my H will be OOT on the 2 days they are projecting a 5dt would be (if we make it there). I will just have a friend drive me there and back.

I'm more worried of who will do my PIO shots.

I've done 100% of my own shots, including PIO. It's not that hard. You can do it!

OCW2010 · April 2011

illinigal:
OCW2010:

Thanks for asking this. I just found out last night that my H will be OOT on the 2 days they are projecting a 5dt would be (if we make it there). I will just have a friend drive me there and back.
I'm more worried of who will do my PIO shots.
I've done 100% of my own shots, including PIO. It's not that hard. You can do it!

I've done 100% of my own shots so far (only lupron and stims), but I cold sweat at the sight of the PIO needle. =/

Thanks for the vote of confidence though babe! I may need to buck up and just learn how to do it.

DeputiesWife · April 2011

OCW2010:
illinigal:
OCW2010:

Thanks for asking this. I just found out last night that my H will be OOT on the 2 days they are projecting a 5dt would be (if we make it there). I will just have a friend drive me there and back.

I'm more worried of who will do my PIO shots.

I've done 100% of my own shots, including PIO. It's not that hard. You can do it!

I've done 100% of my own shots so far (only lupron and stims), but I cold sweat at the sight of the PIO needle. =/

Thanks for the vote of confidence though babe! I may need to buck up and just learn how to do it.

I think i will be ok with the shots and driving and resting - i think more of it is just teh support of him being there and as this is our first one as well. Im just completely overwhelmed and would rather him be there then worry about him not.

I can wait. Story of our IF life...waiting!

inlovewithB · April 2011

MH did go with me, but I would have been fine without him. I didn't take any valium.

vanessagorc · April 2011

My DH came with me, but i would have been ok on my own if he was not available.

There is no valium, so i could just walk out after. Neither of my RE's require bedrest.

I would LIKE DH to come, but if he could not...i'd be fine.

ladychicago · April 2011

My clinic does not recommend bed rest after ET and allows you to drive yourself home. For one reason or another, DH has never come to an ET.

good luck!!!!!

Dragonfly1226 · April 2011

DH was there both times for ER and ET.

I wouldn't want to do it without him.

My RE didn't put me on bedrest, but he said to stay home from work and take it easy... I pretty much treated it like bedrest.

Good luck!!!

jamielynnohio · April 2011

Due to the meds, you'll need a driver- but emotionally you'll want someone (prob ur hubs) with you. I hope it works out for you!! xo

Faith722 · April 2011

DH was required to be there b/c of the sedative they had me take just before the ET. Also, I can't imagine him not being there with me when we got the news of how our embies were doing. It was a very emotionally-charged day.

OCW2010 · April 2011

For some reason I thought that you go under anesthesia for ET - I must be thinking of ER....right?

mareba2011 · April 2011

My hubs was so psyched about the idea of wearing scrubs, there was no way he was going to miss it!

There were several women there alone though (my RE doesn't require any bedrest). I went back to work after.

Sarah&royale · April 2011

Dh went with me. They gave me Valium and my doc is kinda strict and requires 3 days stay at home rest. On their instructions for ET, they even said "someone must be there to drive you home". Good luck!

theworms · April 2011

D always comes to ET's - he loves seeing the u/s guided transfer and watching embies go back where they belong.

My clinic also offers valium and sometimes i take it and sometimes i don't.

GL cutie

DeputiesWife · April 2011

Thank you all!

My nurse didnt say anything about valium - but I think like D - MH would want to watch...he got to see our last IUI and thought that was pretty cool....I do want to make him a part of it as much as I can. He said it was up to me.

I will wait one more month and let my nurse know. I would have to start BCP tomorrow!

Thanks again ladies!

xo

etoyama · April 2011

Yes, DH went with me to my ETs. I was given a little valium and they said I needed someone to drive me home. I was on bedrest the day of transfer and the day after that, but it was my personal choice - my doctor doesn't require it. HTH!

ecleptic · April 2011

OCW2010:
For some reason I thought that you go under anesthesia for ET - I must be thinking of ER....right?

Correct, that's ER. My husband was there'd and I think I will want him to be there on any subsequent cycles. Yes anyone could have driven me home, but my mom wouldn't have understood making me laugh afterward just because of some Israli clowns in a study, and she probably wouldnt have thought to read to me to help calm my nerves in the wait after or have thought to give me headphones so I had something soothing to listen to during the procedure. DH was basically amazing at ET and he'll never get out of going in the future because of it

Germanwife2b · April 2011

I have had 4 ETs in my life. Three of them DH came to and one of them he did not. I did just fine with the one he did not come to (although I prefer him to be there). I drove myself home (never have I been offered medication during an ET and can't really understand why one would need it) and went on 24 hours of bedrest with each. I have been pregnant 3 out of the 4 ETs and one of them was the one I was by myself.

scooterq · April 2011

DH does go with me, but my clinic (and you and I go to the same clinic) doesn't give valium so I could go alone if DH couldn't make. We actually thought that might happen this last time. It wouldn't have been ideal (just because of the emotional aspect) but we could've dealt with it.

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