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cmh06cmh06
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Someone I know is having a sleepover for her DD's 5th b-day.  The girls coming to the party are 4 and 5 years old.  I was just curious if you all would let your 4 year olds spend the night at a friends house?  I thought it was a little too young, but who knows.  I know I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving DD at a friends house overnight, especially since it's someone they know only through day care, not a really close family friend. 
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  • kada626kada626 member
    DD is almost 4 and hasn't even spent the night at Grandma's yet. No way would I let her sleepover for a birthday party this young. Maybe I'm paranoid or just don't trust people but I wouldn't feel comfortable with it at all.
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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    We've actually done this - not for a fun thing for the kids but because a good friend was having marital trouble and wanted/needed an overnight get away with her DH to focus on their marriage so I offered to take her son.

    He was 5, mine was 4.

    The first time it went OK.

    The 2nd time we tried it?  All hell broke loose.  He was up in the middle of the night crying for his parents and waking the whole house up.

    I felt so very bad for him.

     

    I can give you an idea of what's likely to happen at that party.  That length of time for a play date AND not having your own parents around at that age = 100% there's gonna be at LEAST one melt down if not several.  Hopefully they'll happen before bed time and won't impact anyone's sleep but it's highly unlikely those kids will have an undisturbed night of sleep.

    Is that the end of the world?  Certainly not.

    Is that something I'd want to do with/for my kids or have my kids attend?

    No.  Way.

    Not because I'd fear for their safety but because it just wouldn't end up being fun for them, KWIM? 

    Too young.

     

    I'm betting the birthday child has an older sibling and has been begging for a sleep over similar to what she's seen an older sibling experience.

     

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  • cmh06cmh06
    Glad I'm not the only one who thought this might not work.  My friend has activities planned and having them watch Tangled before bed.  We're leaving early since DD is too young and is usually in bed by 8.  She has them watching Tangled until around 9:30pm. I think that's too late, but she usually lets her kids go to bed whenever, but the others probably have a set bed time.  I think she's in for an interesting night if the parents are going to let them stay the night in the first place. 
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  • MaddysMama07MaddysMama07 member

    Madelyn has spent the night with my best friend and her DD who is a year older than Madelyn. She stayed for two nights. She loved it and talks about wanting to do it again all the time. She also stays overnight with my parents or IL's quite a bit.

     I would not feel comfortable with her spending the night at a friend from school's house though because I don't know them well.

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  • smitt2619smitt2619

    imagekada626:
    DD is almost 4 and hasn't even spent the night at Grandma's yet. No way would I let her sleepover for a birthday party this young. Maybe I'm paranoid or just don't trust people but I wouldn't feel comfortable with it at all.

    Exactly this.  

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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    No way would I let my DD do a sleep over at a friends house at 4 or 5.  My kids have slept at the grandparents and that is it.  Around here, sleepover parties start at around age 8.  I know some people have done a pretend sleepover - the kids come in PJ's and with sleeping bags and they do things like pizza and a movie and then get picked up at around 9 or 10pm.
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  • Jinsy80Jinsy80 member

    imagekada626:
    DD is almost 4 and hasn't even spent the night at Grandma's yet. No way would I let her sleepover for a birthday party this young. Maybe I'm paranoid or just don't trust people but I wouldn't feel comfortable with it at all.

     

    Yeah, there's no way I'd let DD1 stay over for a sleepover either. 

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  • marriedchick06marriedchick06 member

    Nope, not unless I knew the parents very very well.

      DD has slept over at both of the grandparents house and my sisters house just fine. She asked to stay at our BFF's house one night when we were there but we had something early the following morning so I didn't let her but I would have otherwise.

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  • CiarraiCiarrai
    I agree with all the pp. A sleepover with a close friend (whose parents I know well), I would be open to. A sleepover at a friend from school's house with lots of other girls sounds like a nightmare. This friend probably has older siblings who do sleepiness. DD#1 was invited to a sleepover at her friend's house last summer but decided she wasn't ready. I let her decide since it's a close friend and I know her parents and family well. She's been begging to have this friend sleepover or go to her house for a sleepover since about Christmas, so I think she's ready. We're hoping to find a night here in May that will work. We can't do a night when I'm working bc I feel bad asking DH to try to get the three girls to sleep (DD#2 is also good friends with her) and if DD#1 goes there, i need to be home in case we get that phone call at 11pm to come get her. :). Either way, I don't think 4-5 is too young for a sleepover with a close friend whose parents I know. It's way too young for a sleepover party with a friend from school that I don't know.
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