New to the board - my intro - long, sorry :-)

Stretchad · April 2011

I've decided to wander over and introduce myself, since I've been lurking here for about a week now....

Back story on me - I've been married to DH for 5.5 years, but with him for nearly 14 years. We're HS sweethearts trying for our first child. I'll be 30 in September. So, while I'm not at "advanced maternal" age, I'm no spring chicken either.

DH and I started TTC in October 2009, got our BFP on 1/1/10 only to learn at 16 week checkup that the baby had died two weeks earlier. A week later I was diagnosed as having had a partial molar pregnancy, which comes with it a risk of cancer. Monitoring HCG levels to zero (and staying there) is key to ensuring that the pregnancy cells were exiting my body and not metastasizing (which would require chemo). Felt quite relieved when I hit negative on June 1, but had to remain negative for 3 months to be out of the woods. We decided to start TTC again in September 2010, and have had 6 BFN's in that time frame, and varying cycle lengths, which is odd for me. Utilized Acupuncture in a few of those cycles.

So, I've got an appointment with my doc to discuss issues TTC, but not until May 17th. That'll give me one more cycle to try and to learn about what the process for figuring out if an issue exists is like. Although given the history of molar pregnancy, and just knowing how my doctor thinks, I think she may be a bit hesitant to begin any investigating because she probably would have liked me to wait another month or two before trying again, and I bet she thinks 30 isn't a concerning age. So, I'm toying with the idea of going straight to the RE, if my insurance covers it.

I will be honest, I'm not on any of the message boards all that much anymore. I tend to lurk more than participate right now, because participation was starting to encourage obsessive TTC habits. So, I may not be around all that much. But, I look forward to getting to know you!

Cissi64 · April 2011

Welcome and I'm sorry for your loss. Don't let the DRs put you off if you feel like you need more intervention. I did and I regret it.

KristysRedBarn · April 2011

Welcome. I'm sorry for all you have gone through. We understand lurking and how hard it is some days to be able to post.

LilMaggs · April 2011

Welcome to the board. *hugs*

mdm2137 · April 2011

Welcome to the board.

ColleenS629 · April 2011

I went straight to an RE. I had made an appointment with my OB/GYN but she had to postpone it because she was delivering a baby (just what someone going in for IF testing wants to hear, right?). I knew she wanted to start me on Clomid and was pretty sure that I wouldn't get proper monitoring so I just decided to cancel with her and go straight to the RE. It turned out to be a problem with DH so I'm glad I did. As long as your insurance covers it without a referral, I'd say go with the RE. GL!

cutebride73 · April 2011

Welcome to the board, although I am sorry that any of us has to be here. I hope you get some answers and a plan when you have your dr appt.

GuppyAmy · April 2011

I always say go with what feels right. You have to be your own advocate. Welcome, we're here when you are ready.

Fififa21 · April 2011

Welcome :-)

butterfly843 · April 2011

Welcome!

jolieandscott · April 2011

Welcome. And (((hugs))). IF is hard.

Rawr08 · April 2011

Welcome to the board hun, I am so sorry you have to be over here. GL with your future testing! *hugs*

biddy53178 · April 2011

Welcome to this side hon- good luck with the doc but def feel free to go to the RE on your own if that's what you feel is right- I had the referral to the RE last year before my BFP and then went straight back after my loss instead of waiting the "try to TTCAL for six months and if you aren't ktfu then we will discuss referrals" answer I got from my midwife.

Carolee · April 2011

I'm new on here too...welcome!

Honestly, if you can, I would head straight to the RE...My RE is SO much more knowledgeable than my OB, and I feel like we wasted a lot of time messing around with the OB.