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Lilystar82
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When did you stop...
Lilystar82
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feeling horribly overprotective? DH told me tonight that he thinks I need to relax a bit when it comes to the babies. He doesn't understand that I feel some guilt around not being able to keep them safe when they were in me so I try so hard to keep them as safe as possible now. I don't think I'm unreasonable. Other people have babysat them for short periods of time and I let people hold them as soon as their hands are washed. But I worry a lot about them being safe. Does the feeling go away? How did you handle it?
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It's such a hard situation. Every mom feels protective over their LO. But when you have a preemie, you feel like you have to protect them SO much more. I'm starting to relax a little bit now that RSV season is winding down. Taylen just got his last synagis shot this week and Tage's is on the 26th. Once May hits I think I'll be able to relax more. But RSV is such a scary thing that I feel like I need to protect my LO's at.all.times.
I completely get where you are coming from Momma. Hopefully when it's summer time and your LO's are a bit older you'll be able to relax. When my LO's were 3 months, I was such a Momma Bear. Hell, I still am.
It was hard at first and I think that feeling is very legit for a while!
After a year, we gradually are loosening up...but still protective and he's 2 :-)
I didn't start loosening up until he was about 18 months old, but DS had lots of respiratory issues in the NICU. I knew I was getting better when a fork dropped on the floor and I didn't freak out and give him a new one. :-)
He will be 3 in June and last winter was scary for me since it was his first one without Synagis. But he got through it with just one or two colds. My DH was right about him building an immune system by getting sick, but it is still scary.
I am still way overprotective of DD. She was born at 32w1d and to this day, she has only left the house for doctor appts and one visit to my grandpas house so he could meet her. She is 4 months actual, 2 months adjusted. My DH invited his parents, his aunt and uncle and two cousins over yesterday and I almost had a panic attack. Thankfully, the aunt/uncle/cousins just looked at her in the swing and didn't touch or get too close, and as soon as his mom washed her hands she held her and I was ok with it. Its so hard. My mom acutally called me Hitler when I wouldnt let her hold DD without washing her hands, when she arrived to our house after leaving WALMART!!! Its hard, but you need to do what you think is best for your kiddos!