November 2011 Moms

Anyone planning to be a SAHM after baby is born?

My husband and I have decided that we both want me to stay home after the baby is born. Financially, I know we can swing it but we'll definitely be pinching pennies. Anyone else planning on staying home after baby is born?  I'm excited to be able to have the opportunity, but nervous about the financial aspect of it! 

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  • My husband and I have discussed the prospect of me staying home after baby is born. It might be tough on us financially, but my husband thinks it's better for our baby to bond with us before we have to rely on a nursery for daily care. Of course, being at home will also give me more freedom to work on opening my bakery. Right now, I'm saving everything that I can while I'm still working to lessen the burden when I don't work. Just remember that lots of couples have babies on much less that we have and they do just fine.
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  • We decided that since I will be graduating in May and that I am going to be a teacher, I will stay home with the baby until August 2012 when the new school year starts. In the meantime for extra money, I will substitute a couple times a week.  Living on one salary is tough, especially when you are used to spending without thinking. But with a baby on the way, we will definitely be pinching pennies.
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  • yes! DH and I just bought a home and we really looked at our income and we can swing it.  I am self employed anyways.  I am able to pick up a few shifts at a relay call center I work at for interpreting to help get a few extra $$$ when DH is home and I can go pick up a few hours.  We didn't want other people raising our kids and we are so blessed to be able to do this.
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  • We decided that I was going to stay home when our second was born, we moved in a smaller home, paid off our cars, made a way for margin in our lives. It was not easy and there were months were I thought we may not make it, but we always did. The Lord provided a way. I have been at home 4years now and would never dream of going back to work. We are now having our third and everyday, I am grateful for my time at home. You will not regret your decision.

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  • I really hope to be a SAHM after baby is born. I'm just not comfortable with the idea of daycare yet. This will be our first lo. But so far DH says i should go back to work. We can live off his income just fine, but i think he's still a bit nervous. I don't have the greatest paying job in the world so i'm not sure how my monthly income is compared to daycare prices. If i'm working just to pay for daycare, i don't think it would be worth it. So i'm trying to save every penny i can now just incase i do get to be a SAHM.
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    For a little while, although it's not entirely by choice.

    We are moving to Germany (husband is in the Air Force) and I will be about 20 weeks pregnant when we arrive. So, finding a job is going to be difficult enough, and I would feel pretty badly working only for 20 weeks until baby was born. And, I don't know if they would hire me if my bump is visible by then.

    Hopefully after a little while I can work there, because it's going to be pretty difficult to not work for three years, and then move back to the states and expect to find a job.

    I am a little (ok, lot) freaked out about my loss in pay, but hopefully it's a good thing for a short time.

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  • I stayed home after my DS1 was born.  It was a difficult adjustment for me at first, but honestly couldn't imagine it any other way.  We always planned our lives for this- bought a house, cars, etc. based on DH's salary and payed off our student loans.  
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  • I will be a SAHM after the babies are born.

    Childcare for TWO babies is scary to think about. Probably would cost more a week than I'd be making at any job lol.

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  • I wish.  Unfortunately, it isn't doable as we're on my insurance and my husband is self-employed.  MIL is estatic about babysitting during the day, though, so we lucked out there!  I'm hoping to do part-time hours at my job in 2012 so I can be home with LO earlier.
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  • I would love to be a SAHM. It will largely depend on whether DH gets a steady job with a decent salary. If he can make more than I'm making now (he just got his work visa and started looking for jobs) I will definitely stay home for at least a year.
  • I was a SAHM mom for nearly 3 years with my daughter before opening my daycare. I'm on the fence as to if I'll reopen after the baby, due to the fact DH has a deployment around that time and the thought of being alone with 2 young children and dealing with daycare kids sort of scares me. 
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  • Me! I am a preschool teacher for a childcare center and even with the employee childcare discount, I would be breaking even...which is so not worth it for me. I would rather spend all that time just loving my baby. I am very excited to be a SAHM!
  • I'm currently in school, so I'll be kind of SAHM as I'll reduce my school load to part time.  We'll probably have to daycare one or 2 days...if that won't work out, then I'll have to find night classes or something.
  • I will be staying at home. DH is most definitely the breadwinner... I barely even make any crumbs, lol. ;) I am looking forward to it and hoping to maybe take a few photography classes and find something I can do for an extra income even while being with the baby. I'm sure I'll be able to count on my MIL for extra help here and there if I need a mental health day. 
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  • I am going to become a SAHM. Its going to be tight, but I don't make that much money anyways, and both DH & I want me to be home with LO. In a few years, possibly sooner, I am planning on having a very small home daycare, which may just be family member's kids. I work for my parents company right now, and they are discussing ideas for me to be able to take home a small portion of my job, and hire another person part time to do the rest. That may be best, since I'd still be bringing in money, we wouldn't have to pay for day care, and I'd still get to be home with baby.
  • I am a SAHM and have been for almost 4.5 years now.....unbelievable!  Let me know if you have any questions on what it has been like for me :)
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  • I am really keeping my fingers crossed that I will be able to be! I'm a teacher, but couldn't find a teaching job last year so worked as an assistant this year making measly $$$'s.  Husband is the major breadwinner in the family, but he's very conservative on money and always wants a million dollars in the bank! (Guess it's not a bad thing!)  I'm hoping to get a teaching job this fall, then take a maternity leave until the end of the year and see how we fare.  I also have the option of working at my parents store and have a Mary Kay business, so hopefully I can work that this summer and get it going big time and then we'll have no problems!  :)
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  • I don't know if I would want to SAH- but I would love to drop to 3 days a week after this LO is born.  I am blessed with a wonderful job that I really enjoy, and if they will let me work part time I am going to pursue it.  If not I will continue to work full time if possible.   Even with 2 little ones in daycare it doesn't make any sense for us to give up my income.  It is probably easier for me though because we have an amazing onsite daycare where I work, so I was able to nurse when I went back to work and can visit whenever I want.
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  • I think we've determined that since the cost of daycare would eat up half my paycheck, that it wouldn't be worth the trade off of having someone else take care of our baby. So, the tentative plan is to be a SAHM. I might try to see if I can get a part time job eventually, just to get myself out of the house... but we'll see.
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    I think we've determined that since the cost of daycare would eat up half my paycheck, that it wouldn't be worth the trade off of having someone else take care of our baby. So, the tentative plan is to be a SAHM. I might try to see if I can get a part time job eventually, just to get myself out of the house... but we'll see.

    This exactly. Daycare is ridiculously expensive out here...I'm hoping to be able to swing staying home, and hopefully I'll be able to do some freelance work from home to get a bit of extra income.

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  • I am. DH and I both want me to stay at home with our child (and any future children) until they're old enough to go to school. It's going to make money tight. We're trying to save what we can now, and I may need to pick up a job on the side, but I think it's going to be worth it.
  • I am planning on it. We are trying to save as much money as possible right now. 
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  • If one of us stays home, it will be MH, but right now we both plan to go back to work.  He'll take a few weeks off and I will take a couple of months.  Financially, if I worked and he stayed home, we would be fine.  We wouldn't be able to do it the other way around though.

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  • I hope to stay home too!  I have a great job as a director with a school system, so I may try to work until June 2012 and convince my MIL to baby sit for a few months.  I feel bad about leaving my team and projects/grants mid-year, but I'm really looking forward to spending time with my baby!  Maybe I can convince my boss to let me work from home a few days a week next spring.
  • I went back to work when my DD was 3 months old. The plan was for me to stay at home but after getting engaged and realizing how much weddings cost it was best for me to return to work.

    Then, I got pregnant with #2 and we decided to have a smaller, less expensive wedding and I will be quitting work soon to stay at home with DD and soon to be DC2.

    A majority of the reason is not only to stay at home with DD, but I have been getting several migraines (at least 2-3 a week) where I most likely end up in the ER or completely out of it from pain med's so I'm not working anyway and it is just better for my health to be able to rest a little more.

    It's very scary, we are taking a huge hit by me quitting and it does change some of our plans, but it is definitely possible especially if we both focus on spending less =) Plus my dream always was to stay at home with the kids!

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  • Yep. My DH and I have decided that since this is our second child and that there will only be just under 2 1/2 years between the two kids that there is really no point in paying so much money for full time child care ~ because after taxes and maybe paying a few bills, I would pretty much be working for free. When I would rather be at home loving and playing with my babes. But I won't lie, the financial aspects scares me too.
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