October 2011 Moms

blue pajamas with cars for a girl. NO!

My SO and I decided to be team green. I was a little worried about being able to find very much gender neutral stuff, so we went to Target and Wal-Mart to do some looking! We found a yellow pair of pajamas with ducks on them, and a yellow and green striped pair and SO said that they were for girls. He then points to a blue pair of pajamas with a car on them and says they are unisex. Indifferent and he was dead serious! I said it was for boys, and he disagreed, saying blue is unisex, and girls drive cars. I wanted to punch him. Now I don't want to be team green since we cant agree on what "unisex" is. 
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Re: blue pajamas with cars for a girl. NO!

  • I actually peeked at Target's newborn section last week and not a single thing there was unisex.  It was very clearly gender-specific, right from size 0-3 months. I told DH I'm glad we're finding out the sex or we'd have some odd outfits for the baby!
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    I actually peeked at Target's newborn section last week and not a single thing there was unisex.  It was very clearly gender-specific, right from size 0-3 months. I told DH I'm glad we're finding out the sex or we'd have some odd outfits for the baby!

     

    Yes! and Walmart is the same way! UGH it really makes it hard to be team green, I am leaning more towards finding out.

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  • Yeah, that's the biggest problem with being Team Green IMO... trying to find unisex stuff and some people have different ideas about unisex than others. If you decide to stay Team Green, good luck to you and I'm sure it'll all work out. Buy a lot of white onesies. ;) If you decide to find out, finding out at 20 weeks is just as exciting IMO! :) Plus, you'll have time to prepare.
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  • Carters sells neutral things--think lots of frogs and little yellow ducks!
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  • *shrug* I agree with your SO. Anything gender neutral looks feminine to me and Id rather have a daughter in blue cars than a son in green and pink ducks.
  • I don't know, I think girls can like cars. At some point in her life a girl will wear blue. So I have no idea why a girl's outfit with a car and the color blue cannot be girlie. Also, the kid will be wearing it to bed. Its not like the world is going to see it if you are worried about what other people will think. Personally, if the PJ's are cute I don't care what they have on them.

    We are team neutral just by default. We will find out the sex, but we tend to gravitate towards neutral themes anyway. Sure, we'll pick up some sex specific things (blue/pink) but we are working on widening our definition of what is "sex specific". There are plenty of cute themes that can be unisex, and tailored toward either gender with some accessories or add-ons. If it means that much to you get the car/boy stuff and add some lace to it or something like that. 

    I don't know, I just think you are flipping out OP over something that ultimately is an article of clothing and no reflection of how feminine or masculine your child will be. 

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  • Really?!  I totally agree with your SO.  Blue and cars are perfectly fine for a girl. 
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  • Lately, a lot of baby clothing companies have been coming out with Bulldog themed outfits (Carter's, Gymboree, Gap, etc.).  I love them but they really are boyish.  They all have collars, are dark colors and just don't look like something a girl would wear.  I don't understand why Bulldogs are a boy thing, if we have a girl, I'm having my bully's picture put on a pink onesie!
  • Hey.. boys can wear pink and green or pink and yellow etc. sometimes :) Just look at all the preppie boy stuff that Polo has lol. I think it's cute :)
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    Really?!  I totally agree with your SO.  Blue and cars are perfectly fine for a girl. 

    I kind of agree with this.  Blue is my favorite color, so if I have a girl, I have a feeling she will be in lots of blue outfits.  I like the bow in the hair idea, to avoid confusion.

    I think you need to relax a little.  If you're going to be Team Green, you're undoubtedly going to get items that lean to one gender or the other.  Are you going to return all of it?  The baby won't care, I think you should try to go with the flow.  Good luck!

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  • I actually agree with your husband.  The whole gender roles thing drives me nuts.  Whats wrong with a girl in blue and cars?  I'm a girl, blue is my favorite color...can't stand pink.

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  • I don't think there is anything wrong with putting a girl in an outfit with blue cars, or putting a boy in an outfit with yellow ducks. An individual's gender identity isn't going to be determined by what he/she wears as an infant, and in any case, they're babies. People live in terror of masculinizing their female children or feminizing their male children (especially the latter, like "OMG my son cannot wear pink") and I just don't get it. If anything, I tend to be of the opposite school of thought, not wanting to push a girl towards tutus or a boy towards football, and that's where I get frustrated by the lack of gender neutral clothing. Some fun history about baby colors: the color blue was chosen in ancient Rome because it was thought to protect the newborn from evil spirits, and we of course had to protect our boys from evil spirits. The color pink was chosen...because it was a compliment to blue. Yup. Smile
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  • This is what my grandma always says, its perfectly ok for a girl to wear blue. But it is less ok for a boy to wear pink. So it would be better to buy blue than pink.

    Also, if you want neutral, go to Burlington/Baby Depot. I was there yesterday buying DS a suit (with a bubblegum pink tie and shirt!) for my BIL's wedding and stopped by the infant layette aisle and there was tons of white/yellow/green clothes.

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    FYI - Less than a hundred years ago, pink was recommended for boys because it's a stronger color.  Just sayin'.

    https://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/When-Did-Girls-Start-Wearing-Pink.html

     

    I think pink is cute for boys and I buy my nephew pink shirts on a regular basis. That said, I love girly girl clothes and the ones I have in mind would never work on a boy!

  • I'm sorry, I really don't understand your problem.  You wanted to punch the father of your baby because he suggested that a girl might be able to wear blue?  Sounds to me like you need to check your priorities and learn to pick your battles.

    I really hope you relax on your gender-role enforcement once your child is born. Kids have enough problems growing up without this mess added in.

  • haha, we were team green with Jack, but we did pick out one boy outfit and one girl outfit for coming home...you could let him get the cars for that!
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    I'm sorry, I really don't understand your problem.  You wanted to punch the father of your baby because he suggested that a girl might be able to wear blue?  Sounds to me like you need to check your priorities and learn to pick your battles.

    I really hope you relax on your gender-role enforcement once your child is born. Kids have enough problems growing up without this mess added in.

     

    I said I wanted to punch him as an expression to show how I felt about it. I didn't really want to punch him. Geez!  And I am pretty sure you have no idea what my priorities are. Sometimes its hard to tell what a LO is at first, and I think if my baby girl has on a blue pajama outfit with cars people will assume she is a boy. Are my priorities really that screwed up for thinking that? No. Bc I dont want to put my girl in a blue pajamas with cars means I have a gender role enforcement issue? NO! its JUST a preference.

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  • Did anyone else see the Jon Stewart commentary on the J. Crew advertisement where the little boy was wearing pink nail polish? 

    https://www.thedailyshow.com/watch/wed-april-13-2011/toemageddon-2011---this-little-piggy-went-to-hell?xrs=share_fb

     

     

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  • I promise your child will not suffer for a lack of enough clothes. All the stores will be open after you have your kid just like they are before.
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  • We have had no problem shopping unisex. Once the baby is born you are going to know what it is so you will then be able to get anything over Newborn size in the correct sex. We have been sticking to mostly whites and basic things and shopping at Carter's outlet (they always have lots of deals and also give you lots of coupons and punch cards). I think I may only have two fleece blanket sleepers that are white with ducks....so there is hardly any green and yellow in our gear. The things that we stocked up on (like I said....we stuck to newborns sizes) were like the 5 packs of short sleeve onesies, 5 pack of long sleeve onesies, socks, little hand mittens so he/she doesn't scratch the face.....we are big on Adidas brand and get 50% off at the employee store, so we stocked up on tons of white Sambas and black Sambas in different sizes because they could be girl or boy (Sambas are a staple in our house!), and different colored Adidas warm up outfits they were lime green, black, red, etc. Carter's was doing a collection that had a three piece set that included light gray pants, a white onesie, and a white hoodie with little gray stars on it......I absolutely loved it so we actually got three of the sets in Newborn, 3mo, and 6mo. When it gets closer to delivery time, we are going to go and pick out a Newborn boy and Newborn girl outfit to have on hand to bring the baby home in.....although I am tempted to use something unisex to bring him/her home in and then I can use the same outfit for the next kid. We have gotten white and navy blue hoodies, and a few blankets and other things that are white and can go with anything.

    Except for the Adidas outfits and Adidas shoes....we kept everything under 3 months. If you are looking through the stores, you are going to see that anything unisex is newborn anyway....because once the baby is born you are going to know what it is anyway....so why buy unisex for a baby over newborn? At Target, most of the unisex items are not going to be out where all of the clothes are, they are going to be in the isles where you get the packs of clothes (like pkg of two sleepers, onesies, bibs, hats, etc). You will see the boys, girls and then unisex. There are some newborn boys things that I have gotten that I will have no problem putting a girl in (if I end up having a girl) because they are light blue sleepers and have orange, white, and light green dots on them. That being said, I hate pink....so you wont see anything pink coming into the house and I will have no problem putting a girl in something other than being ducked out head to toe in pink.

    My point of view is that there is always going to be plenty of time to shop after the baby is born, you know what it is, and you know the size of the baby..... so we just got the staples to last through the Newborn size and after that we will go crazy with shopping. 

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    I'm sorry, I really don't understand your problem.  You wanted to punch the father of your baby because he suggested that a girl might be able to wear blue?  Sounds to me like you need to check your priorities and learn to pick your battles.

    I really hope you relax on your gender-role enforcement once your child is born. Kids have enough problems growing up without this mess added in.

    I said I wanted to punch him as an expression to show how I felt about it. I didn't really want to punch him. Geez!  And I am pretty sure you have no idea what my priorities are. Sometimes its hard to tell what a LO is at first, and I think if my baby girl has on a blue pajama outfit with cars people will assume she is a boy. Are my priorities really that screwed up for thinking that? No. Bc I dont want to put my girl in a blue pajamas with cars means I have a gender role enforcement issue? NO! its JUST a preference.

    Fine.  I just disagree with you.  It's completely irrelevant to me whether a stranger assumes my infant daughter is a boy because she has blue pajamas on, and I don't really understand why it would be important to anyone.

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    We have had no problem shopping unisex. Once the baby is born you are going to know what it is so you will then be able to get anything over Newborn size in the correct sex. We have been sticking to mostly whites and basic things and shopping at Carter's outlet (they always have lots of deals and also give you lots of coupons and punch cards). I think I may only have two fleece blanket sleepers that are white with ducks....so there is hardly any green and yellow in our gear. The things that we stocked up on (like I said....we stuck to newborns sizes) were like the 5 packs of short sleeve onesies, 5 pack of long sleeve onesies, socks, little hand mittens so he/she doesn't scratch the face.....we are big on Adidas brand and get 50% off at the employee store, so we stocked up on tons of white Sambas and black Sambas in different sizes because they could be girl or boy (Sambas are a staple in our house!), and different colored Adidas warm up outfits they were lime green, black, red, etc. Carter's was doing a collection that had a three piece set that included light gray pants, a white onesie, and a white hoodie with little gray stars on it......I absolutely loved it so we actually got three of the sets in Newborn, 3mo, and 6mo. When it gets closer to delivery time, we are going to go and pick out a Newborn boy and Newborn girl outfit to have on hand to bring the baby home in.....although I am tempted to use something unisex to bring him/her home in and then I can use the same outfit for the next kid. We have gotten white and navy blue hoodies, and a few blankets and other things that are white and can go with anything.

    Except for the Adidas outfits and Adidas shoes....we kept everything under 3 months. If you are looking through the stores, you are going to see that anything unisex is newborn anyway....because once the baby is born you are going to know what it is anyway....so why buy unisex for a baby over newborn? At Target, most of the unisex items are not going to be out where all of the clothes are, they are going to be in the isles where you get the packs of clothes (like pkg of two sleepers, onesies, bibs, hats, etc). You will see the boys, girls and then unisex. There are some newborn boys things that I have gotten that I will have no problem putting a girl in (if I end up having a girl) because they are light blue sleepers and have orange, white, and light green dots on them. That being said, I hate pink....so you wont see anything pink coming into the house and I will have no problem putting a girl in something other than being ducked out head to toe in pink.

    My point of view is that there is always going to be plenty of time to shop after the baby is born, you know what it is, and you know the size of the baby..... so we just got the staples to last through the Newborn size and after that we will go crazy with shopping. 

     

    Very good point! I think I am going to try Carters! Thanks for sharing

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  • I sort of agree with your SO.  

    My DD LOVES cars.  So if she had a pair of jammies with cars on them she would love them.  I would have no problem putting her in blue jammies with cars on them.  That being said, a baby girl in anything blue will get called a boy.  It doesn't matter if it has cars on it or if it's a blue dress with ruffles and lace so I would stay away from blue if you want to avoid questions about your "little boy".

    That was a better organized thought in my head lol.  I hope it made sense!

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  • imageladybirda:
    The color pink was chosen...because it was a compliment to blue. Yup. Smile

    The complement to Blue is Orange. The complement to Pink is light Green.   

    As far as what colors to dress your baby in, they are babies they are going to look wonderful in any color.  

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    I had my daughter in all pink and people still thought she was a boy.  It's going to happen no matter what they wear, trust me.

    I saw a bib at Target that said, "I'm not a boy!"  When I was a nanny, one of the babies was always called a boy, even when she was wearing a pink dress and bow in her hair.  People are so odd! 

  • Perhaps you should read this article 

     

    "For example, a Ladies? Home Journal article in June 1918 said, ?The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl.? Other sources said blue was flattering for blonds, pink for brunettes; or blue was for blue-eyed babies, pink for brown-eyed babies, according to Paoletti.

    In 1927, Time magazine printed a chart showing sex-appropriate colors for girls and boys according to leading U.S. stores. In Boston, Filene?s told parents to dress boys in pink. So did Best & Co. in New York City, Halle?s in Cleveland and Marshall Field in Chicago."

     
    Anyway, I personally could care less if strangers thing my kid is a boy or girl. But to each ones own.
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