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Those with biological and adopted children....

foreverbrideforeverbride
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I know there aren't many on this board that have adopted and bio children (yet) but I am just curious if you do, do you have more than one adopted child?  We have two bio children and are looking to adopt our third and final baby from Korea.  I have heard several people that I shouldn't adopt just one, however, we are deadset this will be our last child, for financial reasons mostly.  I am wondering if you are worried about this at all like I am???
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Re: Those with biological and adopted children....

  • candmcandm
    Well we are adopting 2 siblings. For us we definitely wanted more than one adopted, esp. since we are adopting children of another race. We thought it would be nice if our kids could see another face that looked like theirs in family photos. But I'm sure there are lots of families with only one adopted child.
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  • pinkwedding05pinkwedding05
    I haven't started the adoption process yet, but we're planning on adopting from Korea for our next child.  If we decide to have a 3rd child, they will likely be adopted, but we haven't decided if we will go back to Korea again, or try a domestic adoption.  The child I'm pg with is not biologically connected to us, so none of our children will be biological. 
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  • SandratheTerribleSandratheTerrible

    I have 3 children total.  A 14 year old biological son, a 6 year old daughter who came to us through adoption from Russia, and a 13 week old biological daughter.  It never occured to me that adopting only one of my children would be a problem - and it hasn't been as of yet.

     I'm wondering who's telling you that you shouldn't adopt "just one".  These are kids - not potato chips.  The adoption process is lengthy, time consuming, emotionally draining, and rather expensive.  Do these people making the comments understand the depth of the adoption process?

    Anyway - it's your choice how many children you wish to have.  My daughter has never felt excluded or anything like that.  In fact, she's a very well adjusted, beautiful, outgoing little girl.

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  • GirlyonthewayGirlyontheway member

    Hello! I was just lurking on this board... I am normally over on the 2nd tri board, but felt SO drawn to your post that I needed to respond!

    I am the middle of three children. I have an older sister, adopted from Korea in 1977, she was just over 6 months when she came home. And both my younger brother (born 1982) and myself (1980) are biological children to my parents. 

    I just wanted to comment on what you were told. I really don't think there is a "right" way to anything when it comes to adoption. My sister never felt like anything to me, but my sister, as she should.

    Let me tell you from experience, you will be just fine. I love my sister, just as I love my brother. There is no difference in any of our minds. I am not positive as to why someone would suggest adopting 2 children vs. 1. If it is so the adopted child don't feel different, all I can say is all 3 of us were different and our differences is what makes us appreciate and love eachother even more.

    Good luck with everything! Sorry for my rambeling, but I just was touched by your post.  

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