WWYD re: shower thank yous

JakesBride07 · April 2011

My shower is this Sunday and my mom suggested that because I am so busy with the NICU and will be even busier when they get home, that I make up thank you cards with the babies most recent pictures and actually either put them with the favors or hand them out as people leave.

I think it's a good idea, but is it tacky to do this?

Irishsapphire · April 2011

I would have the hostess make up a list of addresses for you. And it would be better to send them either by mail or if you see anyone in person later on --you can just give it to them in person. It seems a little rushed to give the thank you notes at the shower. I would just enjoy your baby shower. I write better thank you notes when I have more time to think about the gift that was given to me and I can say something more personal in the thank you note.

BloggingTeach · April 2011

I don't think this is tacky at all. You have enough to do. I think people will appreciate a picture. It is better than them receiving the thank you months later (when things have settled down some).

ESM354 · April 2011

I would also wait. I think it would seem kind of strange to get a thank you at the shower. It wouldn't really seem like you were thanking me for my gift that I brought and it would seem very generic. Like the first poster said I would get a list of the addresses from the hostess and you could work on the thank you notes during down time in the nicu. I think they would seem more meaningful that way. You could still do a photo card then just write a short specific message on the back of it before you send it out.

ArvadaBride · April 2011

lucy460:
If I were a guest at your shower, I would prefer a "real" note six months from now, rather than a "Here:I have to thank you, so take this please" note at the shower itself. I think it's tacky, yes.

ITA with Lucy on this. Just take your time and get them done as time allows, even if it takes 6mos.

lemen99 · April 2011

While I am sure people would understand given the situation, I still didn't feel comfortable doing this.

I hand-wrote all of my personalized thank you's and mailed them after the shower. I actually did it at Andrew's bedside, so that's an option. I think doing a photo card is a good idea though!

Cara03 · April 2011

I'd also wait. Everyone coming to your shower realizes at least to some degree that you've got a very busy life right now. I suggest just enjoying your shower on Sunday with not a thought of pressure about the thank you notes. You'll get to them ... sometime. I did some while I pumped, but many of mine didn't get written until, literally, 6-7 months later when my life had finally calmed down. It was actually neat for me to be going back and reflecting on gifts that much later and I had more specifics to talk about, for instance "LO just LOVES the bouncer you gave him. He's in it many times a day and it helps with his reflux, too." And some I was able to include a picture of LO in the outfit they gave him, etc. I think waiting, but without putting any pressure on yourself as to a timeline to get them out, is a good option.